\”Miracle Boy\” When children face difficulties, parents must do these things

There are a lot of good movies recently, so even though the kids were at home for the holidays, I still took the time to watch a few. The last time I watched \”Coco\”, I cried several times in the cinema. In the past few days, \”Miracle Boy\” made me cry like a dog again – from the beginning of the film, the little protagonist started to cry when he told his birth story. , the tears on my face never dried until the end. After becoming a mother, have your tears dropped a lot? The little boy Auggie suffers from a rare genetic disease – Treacher Collins syndrome. After watching the movie, he Googled and learned that this is a congenital craniofacial complex malformation. Patients will have varying degrees of soft tissue deformity and bone deformity on the face. Structural abnormalities. In the first ten years of his life, Auggie wore a special face and went in and out of the hospital again and again. He underwent 27 major and minor surgeries just to be able to hear, see, and breathe like a normal child. Even so, his face would still make a kid cry when he leaves the house. Before the age of 10, Auggie had been tutored by his mother at home. In order for him to successfully enter middle school and receive a more professional education, his mother insisted on sending him to elementary school and became a fifth-grade freshman. A child who is only 10 years old, with a face that makes people afraid to look directly, has to walk alone into a completely unfamiliar environment and meet strange looks from all directions… You don\’t need to think about it, you know how much courage this requires. But Augie did it and won a lot of things that he didn\’t expect. Of course, the miracle was not created by Auggie alone – he was unfortunate to be ill, but he was lucky enough to be born in a middle-class family that could afford multiple surgeries to repair his face to the maximum extent; and those who are more fortunate than \”rich\” Yes, he also has priceless \”love\”, which makes his heart bright and his attitude positive. This is the unconditional love and respect that his mother gave him. Auggie\’s mother, Isabel, always wanted to be a children\’s book illustrator, and when Auggie was born, she was just one thesis away from getting her master\’s degree. But because of Auggie, she chose to take care of Auggie\’s life and study at home full-time. While doing all this, my mother never showed a trace of unwillingness or resentment to Auggie: My child, I am your mother, and it is my choice to do my best to be a mother, and it has nothing to do with what you are like. On Auggie\’s first day at school, he was beaten all over with complex looks from a strange group. During dinner, he lost his temper at his family who cared about him and left the table and ran back to his room. Isabel came to Auggie\’s bedroom, and the conversation between mother and son was a model for parenting – she first clearly told her son: \”It\’s not right for you to run away like this.\” Her attitude was \”tell\” rather than \”accuse\”. Then she gently asked Auggie to tell him what was making him so upset. When Auggie asked sadly and angrily \”Why am I so ugly?\” Isabel\’s answer was the best answer a mother could give: \”You are not ugly, Auggie.\” Auggie didn\’t believe it: \”You are my mother, that\’s why you are so ugly\” Say.\” Isabel said firmly: \”Because I am your mother, my opinion is important, and I am the person who knows you best.\” Then, regarding appearance, she said something sparkling: \”Dear , listen, everyone has different marks on their face. When you had your first surgery, I had this wrinkle. Your last surgeryDuring the first surgery, I had these wrinkles… The map of the soul guides us on the road ahead; and the map of appearance records the road we have traveled. It is definitely not ugly. Auggie: \”What about your white hair?\” \”Isabel humorously passed the blame: \”That may be because your father was angry. \”Finally, Auggie smiled and hugged his mother. When a family member is hurt, the first thing we have to do is to do our best to affirm him and let him know that our love will always be with him. This is what Isabel did great. As a mother, Isabel This day may have been more difficult than Auggie\’s. No one wanted more protection for her son than she did. Seeing Auggie hit a wall in the new environment, she even wished she could stand in front of Auggie and help him solve all the difficulties. But she knows very well that unconditional love is not about blind protection and all-round care, but respecting the child as a normal person and letting him learn to see his own differences in another way. Dad gave him a happy family. As shown in the movie \”Deserved Intimacy\”, the mother has the final say in Auggie\’s family, and the father is happy to label himself \”henpecked\”. Regarding the upcoming school life, Isabel tells Auggie to be tolerant, but Nate While Isabel turned around to take the plate, she whispered to Auggie: \”If someone hurts you, just fight back. There is no need to be afraid. Auggie: \”Why are you so quiet?\” Nate: \”Because I\’m afraid of your mother.\” \”The way this man spoke in a low voice was so cute, and the audience\’s laughter was full of emotion. Everyone could hear his deep love for his wife. After all, Nate\’s wife was about to get her master\’s degree. He gave up his career to take care of his son; in a family, whoever pays more has the final say, and his wife deserves his respect and love from the bottom of his heart. Although he is willing to play the role of \”wife control\”, Nate He has never forgotten his responsibilities as a father. He will send Auggie to school and encourage his son in a man\’s unique way; he will fill in the shoes in time when his wife neglects her daughter and help her daughter untie her knot; he will play games with his son and friends, go to Watching his daughter\’s drama performances… He never misses the children\’s important moments, and whenever the family atmosphere is tense, he will stand up and act as a mediator. There is a saying that the best family education is \”Dad loves Mom\”, the close relationship between parents , is of far-reaching significance in cultivating children\’s good character. From this perspective, Nate can be called a textbook-level father. His sister gave him the same understanding and support as a normal child. Auggie\’s sister Via, as a \”normal person\”, She also has her own troubles, one of which is that Auggie takes away all the attention of her parents. But Via still does her best to love Auggie. Even though she is about to become an adult, she still tries to use the communication method between children to help him again and again. Auggie opens his heart. On Halloween, Auggie comes to school happily wearing a mask, but hears his only friend Jack telling others bad things about him. This \”betrayal\” brings a fatal blow to Auggie. Auggie returned home and looked for his helmet everywhere, just wanting to close himself up. After Via learned the reason, she told Auggie that \”you are not the only one who is sad\” and admitted that her best friend also suffered a sudden death.Then he ignored her. Auggie asked \”Why\”, and Via replied, \”People change. If you want to be an ordinary child, you will inevitably encounter this kind of thing.\” There was a feeling of children sharing secrets, Via continued. : \”So, let\’s go ask for candy. Now we are each other\’s best friends.\” Via understands better than anyone else how much Auggie needs others to treat him equally. I once saw a question on Zhihu: \”How to explain people with physical disabilities to children?\” A netizen named \”Changbai Niang\” answered something like this: The society we live in tells us to sympathize with them. , but some of them may not want to be pitied. What they want is equality and respect. Our well-intentioned sympathy may be just a disguised form of discrimination in their eyes. Auggie has always known that he is different, but does not know how to overcome this difference; after going to school, the biggest challenge he faces is how to prove to everyone that he is just an ordinary child. When everyone else told him, \”You are actually the same as them,\” only Via encouraged him: \”You are different, but you don\’t need to be afraid of it.\” \”If others want to see it, let them see it. Some people\’s lives are different.\” You will be different when you come down.\” Only by accepting and recognizing your own differences can you coexist with the various differences around you. Because of the love given to Auggie by his mother, father and sister, some netizens said, \”It\’s okay to be a dog in a family like this.\” This is why I, Amway, all of you went to see this movie. The concepts in the movie will inspire us a lot. What\’s more, in addition to just the right amount of love, Auggie\’s parents also gave him some of the most valuable qualities in life. They taught him to persist in doing things and never give up. The decision to \”let Auggie go to school\” was made by Isabel. Nate objected at first because he was worried that his son would be hurt outside, but Isabel insisted on doing it and used her 100% trust to inspire Auggie\’s self-confidence and make him willing to accept this challenge. Perseverance and never giving up is one of Isabel\’s character traits. Even Auggie said: \”She never gives up on anything, especially me.\” After Auggie went to school, Isabel persisted in completing the thesis that she had put down for ten years – in the film Several times there were shots of her typing on a laptop, next to her husband and children who were already asleep. With a determined and brave mother and a father who unconditionally supports all her mother\’s decisions, Auggie heals himself as quickly as possible every time he is injured, gets back on the road, and musters up the courage to adapt to the outside world again and again. Regarding how to help children persist and not give up, we will write another article to share in a few days. They taught him to maintain humor in the face of misfortunes in life. If there are any good weapons to fight against misfortune, humor is one of them. It conveys the optimism and open-mindedness of \”it\’s no big deal\” and can help us get out of trouble much more quickly. Auggie in the movie is not a bitter kid who wants to fight back, but a jokester with a great sense of humor. The most classic is these two lines of dialogue with his friend Jack – Jack asked: \”Have you ever considered plastic surgery?\” \”?\” Auggie replied: \”This is already the result of the surgery… Do you know how much effort it takes to become so handsome?\” As he spoke, he made a narcissistic movement of brushing his bangs. returnThere are scenes where he and his friends imitate the sounds of burping, imitating the sounds of prehistoric turtles or tuna eating. The scenes are super funny. \”Funny\” is the key word for him to win friendship. This \”fun\”, of course, comes from his family, especially dad Nate. Auggie has a favorite space hat and always wears it. For Auggie, the hat gives him a safe world without strange eyes, but Nate knows that the hat is a barrier between Auggie and the real world. Many times, he encouraged Auggie to take off the hat: \”Auggie, it\’s time for you to go in. You\’d better not walk with your parents, because that\’s not cool at all, and wearing this helmet is even less cool.\” Nate finally said He hid the helmet in his office and didn\’t tell Auggie the truth until before his graduation ceremony: \”You wear it all day, and I can\’t see your face. I want to see your face, even though you\’re not I love it, but I like, this is my son\’s face and I want to see him.\” This genuine, loving sense of humor helped Auggie a lot. For example, his mother taught him \”If you don\’t like the environment around you, just imagine a place you want to go\”, so whenever he feels uncomfortable, he will imagine that there are other interesting things around him, and he can quickly relax . They teach him to be kind to others while protecting himself. The villain in the film, a little boy named Julian, is always taunting and bullying Auggie. When the principal, Mr. Tu Shiman, punished Julian, he said: \”We can\’t change Auggie\’s appearance, but we can change our own perspective on him.\” Sometimes, being kind to others starts with changing your own perspective. Auggie’s teacher will share a motto with everyone every week, and there is one sentence that I particularly like: If you must make a choice between being right and being kind, please choose kindness. After all, everyone in this world will encounter difficulties, and I must learn to be kind to those \”people who are different from us\”, as Auggie said after receiving the medal – if we understand other people\’s thoughts, we will know that no one is Ordinary, everyone deserves to stand up and applaud him at least once. Please tell your children, be kind, everyone is struggling with life.