Why do you always have troubles on the road to parenting?

You and I are not gods, we are just mortals. Such people will have seven emotions and six desires, that is, they will have \”greed, anger, and ignorance.\” On the road of raising children, you will inevitably have a lot of troubles. The naughty children are disobedient, get into trouble, and fail to complete their homework on time… Your troubles are always endless. Despite this, life must go on, and you are troubled by When did you worry? It’s really adding insult to injury! ! ! If you want to completely cure a disease, what should you do? Direct treatment? No, you have to find the root cause of your illness. Only by starting from the root can your illness be completely eradicated! Of course, when you face your children, what is the source of your troubles? Doudehui once saw a joke on the Internet: You are still angry because you are not generous enough; you are still depressed because you are not open-minded enough; you are still anxious because you are not calm enough; you are still sad because you are not calm enough. Because you are not strong enough; you are melancholy because you are not sunny enough; you are jealous because you are not good enough; may I ask where your magnanimity, open-mindedness, calmness, strength, sunshine and excellence come from? Already have it? If not, where did they come from? They all come from your practice. Therefore, the root cause of your troubles is not at all that you are not generous, open-minded, calm, strong, sunny and excellent enough. But your practice is not enough! So how should you practice? Only then can you always be insulated from worries on the road to parenting! In the class on the code of thinking that is insulated from troubles, a parent asked the teacher: \”Excuse me, teacher, how long will it take for my practice to be insulated from troubles?\” The teacher said: \”Five years.\” The parent asked again: \”How many years does it take?\” Please tell me, teacher, if I practice harder, how long will it take for me to be free from troubles?\” The teacher said, \”It will take at least ten years.\” The parents were even more confused, so they asked, \”What if I work day and night, without rest, just to practice?\” If you have troubles, how long will it take to isolate yourself from troubles?\” The teacher said firmly: \”In this case, you will never be isolated from troubles.\” The parents were surprised and said, \”Why?\” The teacher said, \”You only care about cultivation. How can you have time to pay attention to the process of your own practice?” When you pay too much attention to the results of your practice, the process of practice will naturally be ignored by you, and the results all come from the process. If the quality of the process is not even If you don’t pay attention to quality, how can you get high-quality results? If you don\’t pay attention to the process of one thing, the most essential reason is that you are anxious. For example: when your child hasn\’t finished speaking, you make a judgment and an argument breaks out, all because you are too anxious! By now you already know the code of thinking that will always insulate you from troubles, which is to cut off anxiety, do everything slowly, wait slowly, and take it a moment… To end with a certain paragraph of warm words: \”Every child They are all the seeds of a flower, but everyone\’s flowering period is different. Some flowers will bloom brilliantly from the beginning, and some flowers need a long wait. Don\’t watch others bloom, your own flower has not yet bloomed. I am anxious when there is movement. I believe that flowers have their own flowering period.\” From now on, please don\’t let anxiety lead you by the nose and make you always troubled!