What should I do if I can beat the naughty children but not the naughty parents?

The handsome gray pigeon uncle \”Big Hand Holds Little Hand\” is a special observer of Shou Shoujun\’s college classmate, and the father of an elementary school student who is accompanied by senior media professionals every day can read the People\’s Daily on the Internet and play with King Pesticide on the Internet. The topic of teaching naughty children a lesson happens every year, and this year it comes at the right time: one, two, three, everyone shouts with me: Well done. Don\’t say that violence is not the best way to educate children. When the right and wrong are clear and the young man responsible is unrepentant, violence is definitely a worthy choice. Violent solutions inherently exist in this society: arrest is violence, and shooting is even more violent. If you don\’t respect violence, you will be punished by violence. If you can\’t clean it up today, you\’ll do it tomorrow. In the comments on this matter, I saw several caring people who said that we should focus on persuasion and education, because \”the use of violence will induce children\’s violent tendencies\” and \”it is reasonable to recognize who can hit whom.\” . This view literally brings tears to my eyes. If the child has not made a mistake, or knows that he has caused trouble and is repentant, violence will certainly seem inappropriate; but if he has made a mistake and has no intention of repenting, your pleasant words will only make the child more unscrupulous. A parent once asked me if he found his child stealing something but refused to admit it when questioned. How can I persuade him to educate him? I said there\’s nothing to worry about: I\’ll beat you until you dare not, and then I\’ll reason with you. If he didn\’t beat him, he would feel that there was no difference in punishment between stealing and failing the exam; of course, it would not work if he was unreasonable, otherwise the beating would be pointless. The parent then asked: So what exactly need to be done? There are three principles: First, those who break the law will definitely be punished by violent agencies as long as they reach adulthood. For example, theft, fraud; second, causing harm to personal safety (whether it is oneself or others). For example, he talks about turning on a gas stove and pushing a pregnant woman; third, he has no intention of repenting when faced with questioning. If you don\’t fight if you meet the above conditions, do you still want to issue a certificate? Don\’t mention to me that violence affects children\’s physical and mental health. At this time, non-violence affects children\’s physical and mental health. I think I\’ve made it very clear. But never expected that the parents asked the third question: What if it was someone else’s child? Frankly speaking, this is really not easy to handle. Behind every naughty child, there is a naughty parent. You can warn yourself not to be a bear parent, but you can\’t stop others from speeding down the path of a bear parent. In cinemas, they let their children kick the backs of seats in the front row; on airplanes, they let their children spill drinks; in restaurants, they use tea kettles to catch their children\’s urine; in communities, they You smile and watch your children use tree branches to row cars; in the supermarket, they let their children make packages of instant noodles… You are going to remind them that as soon as the word \”please\” is spoken, the other party glares: He is still a child. , how do you get along with your children? You want to discipline someone else\’s child on your behalf, but you see that the male parent of the other parent is very rough and thick, and the female parent is also showing off. If you really want to take action, you won\’t be able to take advantage; even if you take advantage, the other woman can lie down on the ground at any time, howl about indecency, indecency, and then tear off the bra straps. There is no such thing as this battleAny odds of winning. In the end, you can only curse in your heart: you will be hit by a car when you go out, or bitten by a dog when you go out. But he drove the BMW arrogantly and sped away smoothly. On the contrary, it was you who tripped on the carpet in the restaurant in a depressed mood. At least there are ways to educate your own naughty children. Once you deal with other people\’s naughty children, you may encounter naughty parents. They will tell you with practical actions what it means to walk around the world without reason, but to walk without reason. Is there definitely no way? Can you just walk around in silence? the parent asked. Not sure either. Here is a little story: A netizen encountered a naughty child from a distant relative visiting his house and saw him taking a bottle of mineral water and pouring it down from the keys of the piano. Just when netizens were about to yell, the bear’s parents said that this was still a child. The netizen thought for a while and gave the naughty child a red envelope, saying, \”Baby, you are so good, you wash your brother so well.\” If you see that kind of grand piano in the future, you can go and help them wash it, and they will definitely reward you. Later, the naughty kid went to a music store in the mall to have a PETROF triangle cleaned. Logically speaking, it may not be very positive. After all, it encourages evil deeds and will cause more victims. But if we don’t let small mistakes turn into big ones, and don’t let individual accusations turn into the common hatred of the group, the bear parents will never be afraid. On the Internet, we often see introspections like this: Everyone must be a good parent; we can also see reminders like this: If you don’t educate your children, someone will educate them for you. In this case, I think the best way to deal with bear parents is to find the person who educates their children as quickly as possible. Even if it is a mistake made by a child, I am qualified to choose not to forgive.