Why don’t children want to learn? Maybe the time has not come yet

I forgot where I saw the recommendation, but I recently bought \”My First Geography Enlightenment Book\”. As soon as I got the book, I couldn\’t wait to flip through it, and then I read the previous chapters of \”Geography Around Me\”. I have a feeling that I regret meeting you too late. The biggest feature of this book is that the language is humorous and easy to understand. It combines geographical knowledge that is difficult for many adults to understand with real life in the form of stories, allowing you to see a fun geography, not like our previous textbooks. So boring. In the first part, the author explained the reference objects, directions, and map scales in an easy-to-understand manner through interesting stories. I thought Rooney must have liked it, so I excitedly took out the book and read it to him that night. Unexpectedly, Rooney was not interested. After reading a few pages, he told me: \”Mom, I don\’t want to hear it anymore. Please tell me when I grow up.\” The enthusiasm in my heart was suddenly poured cold water on me, and I was a little bit Disappointed, he tried to persuade Rooney to listen a little more, but he firmly stated that he did not want to listen anymore. After constant running-in with him some time ago, I clearly know that it is difficult to change the things he decided. Although I am a little disappointed, what makes me happy is that this time Rooney did not try his best to resist my persuasion, but remained calm. And firmly expressed my thoughts. In this regard, besides respecting his decision, what else can I do? Education depends on the opportunity. There is no need to force it before the time comes. He turned to me and asked me to continue telling him idiom stories. Recently, he became obsessed with idioms and asked me to tell him two idiom stories every night. Learning idioms, to put it more utilitarian, can not only accumulate vocabulary for future writing, but also serve as historical enlightenment. Of course I would be happy to tell him about it. In fact, as early as two years ago, I tried to teach him some idioms, but he didn\’t care. How did he suddenly fall in love with idioms recently? I thought carefully about it, and there should be two reasons for the analysis: first, because his mind gradually grew and his understanding increased, so he began to pay attention to shorter and more powerful vocabulary expressions; second, I deliberately used related idioms in my recent conversations with him, It piqued his interest. For example, some time ago, he always liked to be angry. When he was angry, he would chatter endlessly, and sometimes he would touch me. I told him: \”Don\’t go too far, just stop it.\” Sometimes, I When I was coaxing my younger brother to sleep, he always came over to talk to me, which made my younger brother always wake up just after he fell asleep. So I told him sternly: \”You always show up at untimely times, which makes my younger brother sleepless.\” I can\’t sleep anymore. If you don\’t have anything important or urgent in the future, don\’t come over when I\’m putting my brother to sleep!\” There was also a period of time when he was always worried that thieves would crawl in through the windows, so he would always check the windows before going to bed. After closing it, I laughed at him: \”You are really unreasonable. We have installed anti-theft windows. How can there be thieves?\” Before going to bed at night, I told him a story about his childhood. I told him once that I told him not to eat sweets, but he He secretly ate it while I was away, and then he ran to me and said, \”Mom, I didn\’t eat candy just now.\” At this point, I told him the story of three hundred taels of silver in this place. In this way, combining the context in life and telling him related idiom stories makes him feel that idioms are very interesting.It was also very useful, so he quickly memorized many idioms and flexibly applied them in life. A few days ago, I bought him a pack of snacks. I tried some and found them delicious, so I asked him for them after I finished eating. At first, he was happy to give them to me. But the more I ate, the more delicious they became, so after finishing the snacks, I bought him a pack of snacks. I asked him again, but this time he was not happy and said, \”Mom, don\’t push yourself too hard. If you eat, I won\’t have any more.\” Yesterday I urged him to practice the piano, but he only cared about playing, so I started nagging him. He talked about the importance of practicing more, but he blocked my mouth with just one sentence. He said, \”I know, Mom, practice makes perfect, but I just don\’t want to practice now.\” From this, I thought of the importance of mastering education. Timing is so important. Why are children often unwilling to learn? No matter how hard you try and force them, they just can’t understand what you say? Maybe it\’s just that the time has not come yet and the child\’s mental level has not developed to that level. If you force him at this time, it will only discourage his enthusiasm for learning. It is every parent’s greatest wish for their children to hope that their children will become successful and that their daughters will become successful. But how can we train our children to become talents and in what way? At present, various early childhood education programs and early childhood education programs are emerging in an endless stream in society. The focus of most early childhood education programs is that as long as they follow the plan and spend a little money, parents can quietly look forward to the birth of a genius without spending any time. But in fact, most early childhood education classrooms are no different from traditional classrooms. They basically focus on indoctrination and learning and are completely divorced from life situations. As a result, there are a large number of students who perform well in the classroom but do not perform well in life. Mediocre kid. In fact, for children, the best way to learn is to combine learning with life experience. This kind of learning is \”comprehensible input\”, effective learning, and gets twice the result with half the effort. The so-called comprehensible input refers to using a straightforward way that children can understand, combined with stories and activities around the child, so that the child can achieve the purpose of education on the basis of understanding. Language learning in particular requires comprehensible input. Nowadays, many parents are keen on \”sharpening\” their children\’s ears. They turn on the speakers whenever they have free time and play various English and poetry recitation audios for their children in a loop. However, they input all these things into their children\’s ears that they cannot understand yet. , how much can the child absorb? Over time, children will regard it as a kind of noise and just ignore it. Linguists believe that for students to understand a piece of content independently, students must know at least 90%-95% of the vocabulary in the paragraph. In other words, to learn and understand 5%-10% of new content, students must have understood at least 90% of the content. Less than 90%, the passage is incomprehensible and confused, let alone learning new vocabulary. Therefore, teaching new knowledge to children needs to be based on what the children already know and proceed step by step. This kind of learning is in line with children\’s cognitive characteristics and is the most effective. We can use the following mathematical formula to express this learning process: new knowledge = i (existing level) + 1 i refers to the current level. If you want to make progress, it is best to add only one to the existing level. 1. As the saying goesSomething that is “just a jump away”. If the learning content is always controlled within the range of i + 1, then learners will be guaranteed to continue to make progress and expand their \”i\”. On the contrary, if the learning content is i +10, or even i +100, it will be too difficult, exceed the learner\’s ability, cannot be mastered, and may seriously damage the learner\’s confidence. This concept is actually the same as the \”Zone of Proximal Development\” theory in educational psychology. What is the Zone of Proximal Development? It is the learning content that children can access with just a few clicks. This kind of learning content is firstly challenging and requires children to jump around; secondly, it is moderately difficult and children will be able to achieve it through hard work. In this way, it will not only stimulate children\’s interest in learning, but also keep children confident. Can this kind of learning be completely left to early childhood education institutions and teachers? Obviously not. Because the teaching syllabus of early childhood education institutions and schools is set according to the average development of students, it is inevitable that the learning content will be out of touch with the students\’ cognitive level, and of course the learning effect will be greatly compromised. Parents are their children\’s best teachers, because only parents know their children best, and only parents have the opportunity to get along with their children day and night. They can seize the fleeting educational opportunities and teach students in accordance with their aptitude in a timely manner based on their children\’s mental development level. Or build a \”scaffolding\” for children\’s advanced learning. Nobel Prize winner in physics Richard Feynman told this story when recalling his father: My family had a set of \”Encyclopedia Britannica\”, and my father often let me sit on his lap and read me the chapters in it. Once I read about dinosaurs, and the book said, \”The height of the dinosaur was 25 feet, and the head was 6 feet wide.\” Then my father said to me, \”Kid, do you know? If the dinosaur stood in the yard, then its head would be It reaches to the window on the second floor. But don\’t worry about its head extending into the window, because its head is bigger than the window!\” I imagined according to my father\’s words, ah, there is such a big one. animal! And this behemoth became extinct due to some unknown reasons. Thinking of this, I felt very excited and novel. If you just read the numbers in the encyclopedia to your children, I believe that few children will be able to remember them, let alone arouse their interest. Feynman’s father understood the children’s current cognitive level very well and would abstractly Numbers were \”translated\” with concrete and vivid things, which immediately excited little Feynman, so much so that he still remembered it as an adult. It was also because he often received similar precepts and deeds from his father that Feynman had a strong interest in science since he was a child. interest of. Therefore, when we decide to teach our children some new knowledge, we should carefully think about three questions: First, what are the children\’s concerns and interests at this moment? If the child is learning a language, you can teach him some new vocabulary and expressions; if the child is practicing counting or measuring, you can introduce some simple mathematical knowledge; if the child is interested in money, you can give him simple exercises. Financial education. In any case, the new knowledge we introduce, must be in line with his mental development level, and is what he is most concerned about at this moment. Second, what basic knowledge does the child already have, and what can he learn next? Parents who really care about their children must know their children\’s current development level. On this basis, appropriately adding some challenges to their children can stimulate their children\’s interest in learning, because children are born with a strong desire for knowledge. But be aware that if the challenge is too far beyond your child\’s ability, it will be counterproductive. Third, how can we connect learning with children’s lives and make learning more interesting? The learning itself will be meaningful to the child when it is related to the child\’s previous experience or related to the child\’s interests. What parents have to do is, like Feynman\’s father, to \”translate\” new knowledge in a language that their children can understand. Of course, to achieve the above points, not only do parents need to have high qualities themselves, but they also need to truly accompany their children with all their heart. If our own level is limited, then we should slow down, let go of unrealistic expectations, observe our children attentively, and accompany our children to learn and grow together in a down-to-earth manner. The road to parenting is long and arduous, and there are no shortcuts.