The upbringing engraved in the bones is not to cause trouble to others

Some time ago, the internship period of an intern in the company was about to end. His boss asked about the internship situation of the intern during his free time. The colleague in charge of the intern hesitated for a few seconds and said truthfully to the boss: \”The girl has a good academic background. That\’s what I said.\” … He is a troubled child.\” This intern works quite seriously on weekdays and often consults his colleagues when encountering problems. \”But she can ask dozens of questions a day, ranging from a series of document formats to questions that can be answered by just searching on Baidu. She can ask many questions every day; she always likes to make voice calls when chatting with people; I have seen her working very hard a few times. , I worked overtime to teach her how to revise the article, and then left without even saying thank you.” “Sending emails was also a mess, so dense that I couldn’t see the key points. After teaching her several times, she was still the same, saying that editing the format was too time-consuming for her. Be efficient…\” These things may not sound like serious problems, but it is these little things in the details that cause a lot of trouble for colleagues. The intern\’s efforts take up the work and free time of her colleagues; the language for sending WeChat is convenient, not to mention the low efficiency of obtaining effective information from voice. At the same time, she has not thought about whether the environment where her colleagues are located is suitable for listening to voice; The emails are confusing. She saves everyone who receives the emails but spends more time getting the key points from them. A person who always causes trouble to others is a person without quality. It has nothing to do with whether your education level is high, whether you are diligent or not, or whether you make a lot of money. You must know that the real quality is not to cause trouble to others. The Chinese have been accustomed to a life of mutual help in groups for thousands of years, and they pay attention to human interactions in various complicated relationships. However, if you ask yourself, most people do not want others to cause trouble to them. Cai Kangyong said, \”There are appropriate interpersonal relationships between people, and those who go beyond the boundaries of interpersonal relationships are causing trouble for others. The reason for causing trouble for others may come from ignorance and lack of education, but it is the root of everything. It\’s all because he doesn\’t take others into consideration.\” People who always cause trouble to others are people without empathy and empathy. They never take others into consideration, let alone put themselves in their shoes. All they can see is how to maximize their own interests and how to make their situation more comfortable. They are strict with others but never themselves. When you are in a hurry, you cross the road at will, without caring about how much trouble it will cause to other traffic participants; when you don\’t want to move, you litter, without caring about how much more workload the cleaning staff will have to add; I don\’t want to waste anyone\’s time. What if he is another traffic participant, a cleaning staff, a colleague with an increased workload? He must have gone crazy with anger, cursing and thinking that others were troublemakers because they were incompetent. To be a quality person, you must be considerate of others and be self-restrained and polite. When everyone thinks about others before doing things, and then takes the initiative to shoulder their own responsibilities, they will not easily make choices that cause trouble to others. Not causing trouble to others is a kind of cultivation engraved in the bones. This kind of cultivation has nothing to do with the closeness of the relationship. He will not maintain a hypocritical appearance because of the distant relationship, and expose the disguise because of the close relationship. A truly quality person will not cause trouble to those close to him. Bi Shumin said, “I like to be deeply grateful.A woman who loves her heart and travels far alone. I know how to thank my parents, but I don’t blindly follow them. I know how to thank heaven and earth, but I am not afraid. Know how to thank yourself, but don\’t be narcissistic. I know how to thank my friends, but I don’t rely on them. \”People should remain independent in close relationships. Blindly relying on friends and relatives will also cause trouble for them. A reader left a message saying that he went to school and worked in another place. Now he can stand alone at work, but he still acts like a child in front of his family. When I was short of money when I was in school, I would ask for it from home. When I encountered something unsatisfactory at work, I would call my parents and cry. I felt that home was the safest and warmest place, so I would confide all my grievances to my family. The result When I returned home during the Spring Festival, I suddenly discovered that my mother seemed to have aged suddenly, her wrinkles had deepened and her hair had turned gray. It was only when my father was drunk that I learned from his mouth that my mother had been sick for some time. She was busy at work and in poor health. Every time she received the call, I was very worried when I cried on the phone, and my heart was heavy. I always pretended that something was wrong, and my illness would never get better. \”I cried under the quilt for a long time that night. I only focused on complaining about myself, and I never thought that I would cause so much trouble to them. Worry and trouble, I feel uncomfortable when I think of my mother tossing and turning for me after a busy day and night…\” Things that can be solved by themselves have become a heavy burden on my parents\’ hearts. They abide by their parents\’ principle of \”not easily trouble others\”, but Forget that relatives are also other people and can be relied on, but not excessively. Being close is not a reason to trouble others. Not causing trouble to others is a concept that people should uphold when they have direct relationships or even close relationships with others. It is also what people as a social group should adhere to. Beliefs that should be kept in mind when being a member. I noticed a piece of news when I was watching the news recently. On April 28, 2018, Yang, a graduate student at Peking University, and two classmates visited Taibai Mountain in Baoji. On the afternoon of the 29th, they were exploring the road alone. He lost contact with his teammates, who called the police for help the next day, and was found on May 2 three days after losing contact. The place where Yang lost contact is more than 3,700 meters above sea level, which is an uninhabited area and is prohibited from entering the Taibai Mountain Scenic Area. Wildlife sanctuary, and the route they planned in advance was also an area that was explicitly prohibited from visiting. After Yang lost contact, in order to rescue him, the local area mobilized 84 professionals and nearly 100 local people to go into the mountain to rescue him. Search and rescue consumes a lot of manpower and material resources. As a top student, Yang is not lacking in knowledge and vision, nor is he unaware of relevant regulations and prohibitions. The reason for knowingly committing the crime is his own luck and dependence on others for rescue. \”There will always be someone. Come and save us.\” News about lost travelers who were rescued on a large scale and rescued by the state in emergency abroad made many people feel emboldened. Incidents of repeated travel adventures and travel abroad in spite of travel bans occurred frequently. People took actions according to their own ideas, but… I never thought about how much trouble my behavior would bring to society and the country. Of course, not causing trouble to society and the country does not mean that asking for help is not allowed, but that everything should be done in moderation, and reasonable asking for help is necessary, but If you don\’t listen to the advice and commit suicide again and again, in the end your request for help is just to \”cause trouble for yourself and others\”. Some people say that this is the responsibility of social groups and the country, so they act unscrupulously, just like MingEven though the garbage can is not far away, he still throws garbage everywhere and calls it \”I do it to give the sanitation workers jobs.\” The purpose of the responsibilities of others is not to give you an excuse to disrespect others and cause trouble to others again and again. No matter how highly educated and wealthy such people are, they are still unqualified people. They are egoists described by Turgenev as “they don’t want to live, and they don’t want others to live.” \”Only when I grow up do I realize that the saying \’Try not to cause trouble to others, and it is best for others not to trouble me\’ is not indifference, but maturity.\” As Wang Zijian said, when you learn not to cause trouble to others at will , you are a truly mature person.