Experience the fear of \”missing children\”, safety education will be more effective in this way

When going out, the biggest fear is that a child disappears without paying attention. On Sunday, when we visited a college in Oxford University, we were unfamiliar with the place, but we suddenly couldn’t find Liuliu… At that time, we were taken by a local friend in Oxford to visit various colleges and walked into a huge courtyard. The view was wide and the scenery was very good, so everyone took a break. The adults chatted and took pictures on the grass, while the three children ran and played in the yard together. The sun was particularly bright, so the children were playing by themselves while the adults were taking photos with great interest. At that time, I looked up from time to time to look for Liuliu. I didn\’t see her later, but when I saw two other children playing under a thick tree, I assumed that the three of them were together. But when it was time to leave, I went to call the children under the big tree and found that there were only the two little girls and Liuliu was missing. . . Although the college has entrances and exits, it is still a relatively open space, and the area is not small. Being unfamiliar with the place, we could not find her within sight, so we became nervous immediately. I asked my local Oxford friend who was accompanying me to run to the door, because I was afraid that if she walked out of the door unknowingly, once she walked out of the college, the probability of danger for a child as young as her without a guardian by her side would be too high. What made me even more panicked was that when Liuliu disappeared, my backpack also disappeared. After coming to the UK, my local friends always reminded me to be careful not to let anyone snatch my backpack. It doesn’t matter if I lose it. But the worst possibility I thought of at the time was that she and Bao were together. If someone wanted to snatch the bag and steal the money, she would be hurt, or she would be hurt. Take her with her. I got separated from Liuliu once in Las Vegas, but because I was sure she would be waiting for me right where she was, I wasn\’t so panicked when I looked back. But in the open Oxford University, Liuliu disappeared inexplicably. The fear of almost losing a child can only be felt when you are really immersed in the scene. While everyone was in a panic, I calmed down and asked people to go to the door to ask if any children were out. At the same time, I was guessing where Liuliu would have gone if she had not been kidnapped and had chosen on her own initiative. Because of my understanding of Liuliu, I usually give her safety education quite well, and I believe that she will not run away without telling me. As my brain was running rapidly, I remembered that when Liuliu was running wildly in the yard, he found a ditch-type place in the corner of the yard and ran in to say hello to me. I was so blessed that I felt inexplicably that she might have gone there, so I immediately ran to the ditch, shouting Liuliu loudly as I ran. She may have heard it, and she replied in a crisp voice, \”I\’m here,\” and then walked out of the ditch with her bag in hand. I didn\’t scold her, I just hugged her tightly and said over and over again, \”Baby, if you lose me, mommy won\’t survive.\” She was still smiling when she came out, thinking she was playing with us, but when she saw me, she started crying. His expressions and the relieved state of everyone made him cry nervously. She cried and said, \”I want to play hide-and-seek with you. I don\’t mean to make you worry.\” I hugged her, calmed her down, and repeatedly told her not to play this kind of game in public in the future. Because we can\’t find her we willI\’m worried that she might be in danger. On the way back, I summarized Liuliu’s day. Because she performed very well throughout the day, took the initiative to talk to foreigners, and got along well with the new friends she met in Oxford, so I said she performed very well. She lowered her head and said, \”I didn\’t behave well today. I shouldn\’t have run around then, and I won\’t do it again in the future.\” I am very pleased that she will remember what Educator Liuliu said. Oxford didn\’t see the child in trouble, and the responsibility wasn\’t all hers. Thinking back carefully about the safety education I gave her before, I actually neglected to tell her that she shouldn\’t play hide-and-seek games in public places. For young children, safety education is really not just about \”don\’t run around\”. Because within their cognitive scope, many potential dangers are unknown. What they can understand about running around may not be the same thing as what we want to express. For example, when they were playing on the lawn, we would subconsciously tell them \”Don\’t run around.\” But in fact, in Liuliu\’s perception, she was hiding in a ditch not far away and was not running around. For younger children, if they wander away unknowingly, they will not know whether they are running around. What is the definition of running around? She actually didn\’t know. The important thing about safety education is often to confirm the information for children in these details. So the question is, how should safety education be done? The first key point: Use daily chores to make detailed scenario assumptions for children. For example, the simplest reminder is not to go into the elevator alone. What we often say is \”Don\’t enter the elevator by yourself.\” The child will also nod in agreement, but in this way Is that enough? Far from enough. We need to clearly act out the scene to tell the children, such as when taking the elevator: If your parents or relatives accompanying you are not with you now, and the elevator opens, can you go in? -cannot. If a familiar friend goes in, can you go in? -cannot. If an uncle or aunt in the elevator asks you to go in, can you go in? -cannot. If the uncle or aunt in the elevator has delicious food or a puppy you like, can you go in? -cannot. We need to confirm various details again and again when it comes to educating children not to take the initiative to do dangerous things and to be passively vigilant against fraud. On the one hand, it is because children have limited cognitive understanding, and on the other hand, many media have reported that volunteers have conducted experiments, and the data is jaw-dropping. Most children are easily deceived. Traffickers especially like to take advantage of children\’s weaknesses. By observing the children\’s preferences and coaxing them with sweet words, they can use the children\’s favorite food, toys, pets, etc. to easily take away the children. Therefore, when providing any safety education to our children, we must first ensure that our supervision is in place and not cause tragedy due to our own negligence. Secondly, guidance on daily details is particularly important. For example, when we play with our children, we must set an example: it is forbidden to go to wild rivers and lakes to play with water in summer, do not run traffic lights when crossing the road, do not play next to cars, and prohibit others from touching. Where panties, vests cover etc. Use various life situations to give concrete demonstrations to your child. When she touchesThis kind of experiential learning can effectively improve children\’s efficient cognition when it comes to real scenes rather than imagination. The second key point: analyze specific dangers and teach them to children. For safety education, the most commonly used statement we use is to tell children what they cannot do, or what they should do? But this can easily cause two problems: First, just saying no to the child, the child does not know what the consequences of doing so will be. For example, Liuliu didn\’t know that the risk probabilities of hide-and-seek at home and hide-and-seek in public were completely different. When playing hide-and-seek in public, children may get lost because they are unfamiliar with the environment. After being out of sight of parents, they may fall, be abducted, and other accidental injuries. Second, children do not know how to draw inferences when faced with similar dangers. For example, a friend taught his children not to take the elevator alone, and the children obeyed, but one time he accidentally took the stairs alone. He did not understand that the two meant almost the same risk. The degree of safety education for children also needs to be judged by parents based on their children\’s personalities. Don\’t limit your child to not touching anything, but you must also clearly explain the consequences of each inappropriate behavior. So when we tell our children not to do something that is unsafe, a very important thing is to make it clear the harm this thing may cause, so that the child can truly understand the dangerous consequences, so that she can make more accurate decisions. judgment. The third key point: Use picture books or cartoons to strengthen memory. Experienced parents may know that we make sense out of thin air. Many children cannot listen, or they hear but cannot understand. But through picture books, cartoons and the like, it can help children deepen their memory and understanding. I have recommended the \”Learn to Love Yourself\” series before. There are three books in it: \”Don\’t Kiss Me Casually\”, \”Don\’t Touch Me Casually\” and \”Don\’t Walk with Strangers Casually\”. They use mother-child play and chat to teach children to avoid being sexually assaulted and to communicate with others. Details that need to be paid attention to when getting along with strangers. After the Tiananmen Square incident, a friend in the UK recommended to me the BBC children\’s safety education cartoon \”Hoof and Safety with Nuzzle and Scratch\”. The videos have different themes and use realistic scenes so that children can directly relate to their daily lives, such as what to do safely in the supermarket and what to do if something is hot. Then use vivid image demonstrations such as dolls to help children remember safety points. But this cartoon is in English, and I couldn\’t find a version with Chinese subtitles. Some time ago, a friend recommended the \”Safety Education Series of Lebi Yoyo Popular Science Series\”, which uses animated images to vividly interpret safety hazards in daily life. For example, children cannot touch sockets at will, and they will clearly tell children which behaviors they cannot do. , and will clearly explain the potential dangers. The image of traffic lights in the film can also make it easier for children to deepen their understanding of the rules. Because I have been too busy recently, I didn’t have time to finish it. I welcome everyone to provide more information. After research, I can find the best one in the safety education topic and write it into our future cartoon score.Go enjoy it. Finally, I would like to say that when our children are young, as guardians, we must not be distracted, careless, or let the children out of our sight easily. Please remember that accidents are always unprepared. Don’t let your children pay for our luck. That is the pain of life that we can never bear. The little disturbance that happened on June 6th was actually very lucky. After all, he was found quickly in a relatively safe environment. Fortunately, the safety education we usually do is quite adequate. I hope these gains and losses of ours can serve as a reminder to everyone. Not all accidents end happily. In real life, there are many reports of children getting lost, injured, or even killed due to parental negligence. There are all kinds of medicines in the world, but there is no regret medicine. Summer vacation is about to begin, and it’s time for the children to scatter flowers and let them fly. I hope that everything goes well for the children while they play freely.