Children who study hard are the loneliest, and you are making it worse

Picture: Crocodile sneakers walking around the world. I am used to the second grade classroom. It has been a while since school. There are two little boys doing homework, one is correcting it over and over again, and the other is rushing in a hurry. This is not the first time these two children have been like this. One keeps making mistakes and always correcting them. Every class assignment is written after school is over. The teacher had a headache and was at his wits\’ end. Parents are very upset and helpless. Every day after school, you can see a mother and a father standing in the classroom, waiting for the two children. At this time, the corridor was empty, and occasionally my father\’s low voice came out. \”Can\’t you correct it once and then show it to the teacher?\” I kept running to the office like a fool. Are you just a fool? The boy remained silent and rubbed the wrong questions with an eraser. I wrote a few words and walked to the teacher\’s office again. Dad reminded me from behind, see clearly, is it right this time? The boy skipped away without looking back and said loudly, \”No more.\” After about five minutes of touching, the boy came back. Continue to pick up the eraser and erase the wrong questions. Dad\’s heart is obviously broken. Didn\’t I tell you? After checking it once, hand it over to the teacher. Look at your table, what a mess it is! The boy said, I know. The children who were catching up on their homework lowered their heads and could only hear the sound of writing. At this speed, there will be no problem completing homework in class. However, the teacher said that he just didn’t write in class. My mother was also heartbroken. Everyone was doing homework in class. Why didn’t you do it? Why do you always have to write after school? The boy once told his mother that there were too many homework assignments in class and he didn’t want to do them. Mom said, even if you don\’t write in class, you still have to make up for it after school. It’s not that if you don’t write, you don’t need to write anymore. Are you stupid? The boy said, I know. We all know the truth, but we just can’t do it. The teacher said it was intentional resistance, and the parents said it was intentional. These two children have been criticized by teachers and punished by parents many times, and they are used to it. Yes, I\’m used to it. Understand, but not being able to do it doesn’t mean that you don’t understand the truth, it just means that you can’t do it. It\’s not a question of attitude, but a question of ability. Being a parent, same. They both love their children, but often punish them and occasionally beat them. Don’t you know you can’t beat or scold your children? Don’t you know that beating and scolding is useless? no. I understand the logic, but I just can’t do it. If this is the case for adults, let alone children? Someone asked, is this all, do you condone him? The answer is not indulgence, but acceptance. If parents really can\’t help, at least don\’t add insult to injury. Because he has received enough criticism and punishment in school. The school treats all students one way and requires one standard for all students. There is no way around it. As many teachers have said, with so many students in a class, teachers have limited energy and cannot manage them at all. But children are all different. Different personalities, different tempers, and even different abilities. Some children learn well, some have strong expressive skills, and some have strong hands-on skills. At any time, parents should not forget that this is our child, our biological child. As long as it is not a matter of moral character, you can take your time, because rushing is easy to make mistakes, and it is useless. A child is an independent individual first, and our child second. laboriousInstead of transforming children, it is better to work hard to improve yourself. As long as hard-working fools have normal IQs, no child is a fool, and no child wants to be called a fool by those closest to him. Even if you call him a fool, he will not become smart because of it. If he really thinks he is a fool because of this, he is really stupid. Children are like flowers, all kinds of flowers. Some are like sunflowers, which like the sun the most and bloom frequently in the sun. Some, like pothos, like cool indoors. Some, like aloe vera, have strong drought resistance but are not tolerant of waterlogging. Some are like lucky bamboo, which like to soak in water all day long. Some children are like trees, all kinds of trees. Some, like banyan trees, prefer loose, fertile, acidic soil, are more tolerant of water and moisture than cold, and are highly adaptable. Some are like willow trees, which are cold-tolerant, flood-tolerant and drought-tolerant, and like warm to high temperatures. Some are like pine trees, with fluffy crowns, strong branches, and very long lifespans. Both flowers and trees are collectively called plants. If we plant them together in an open field, fertilize, loosen the soil, and water them all in the same way, even if we cultivate them carefully, what will be the result? The good news is that children are more adaptable than all plants. However, this does not mean that we can demand more from our children, or force them to become top students. Because every child is different. But the school\’s requirement is that every child must listen carefully in class, complete class assignments seriously, and abide by various rules and regulations. Is such a request wrong? No. Is it easy for some energetic boys to meet these requirements? not easy. It’s not that I don’t want to, it’s that I can’t do it. An 8-year-old child\’s attention span is only about 15 minutes. And a class is 40 minutes. What happens if you can\’t do it? At school, they will be criticized by teachers and parents will be informed. Parents will be very anxious and will punish their children. The final possible result is that classes become less and less serious and homework becomes more and more procrastinated. Even tired of studying. How can I help? What should parents do? The first is acceptance. Find ways to work with your child to find his or her points of interest, instead of simply making requests. In any case, if a child is already \”suffering\” in school due to learning problems, parents should not add insult to injury. Maintain a peaceful mind and work with your children to fight against \”difficulties\” in homework. Sometimes, it’s really not about not working hard, but doing it. No. arrive. \”Mom and Dad, give me some time, give yourself some time, and work hard with me when I\’m still young, okay?\”