Last month alone, nearly 150,000 yuan was spent on children’s interest classes

Just now, in the WeChat group, the mother of her daughter’s kindergarten classmate came up with an education bill: She has enrolled her daughter in various interest classes such as piano, dance, go, painting, etc. In the last month alone, she has spent nearly 15 Ten thousand! Although she followed the bill with a few crying emojis, I\’m sure she was nakedly showing off her wealth. Whether you are willing to (practice piano) or not, Xiao Ming next door has reached level 6 in piano. After one year of primary school, you will find that \”kindergarten classmates\” is a term that cannot withstand scrutiny. There will no longer be peers who are advancing at a constant speed. You will either stand out or be abandoned by the teacher. I couldn\’t help but angrily scolded my daughter: I only know how to watch TV, why don\’t you go do your homework! You didn’t get 100 points on your last exam! My daughter left sadly, and I fell on the sofa with a long sigh of relief. But new anxiety came rushing in. Reminds me of the previous movie \”Starting Line\”: In order to send their daughter to the best private school and climb to a higher social class, a middle-class Indian couple did not hesitate to spend a lot of money and find connections, and even \”spared no effort\” to forge certificates and pretend to be poor. Get admission. It’s really the same world, the same parents who are anxious about their children’s education. Parents spend their money, energy, and stamina to send their children to prestigious schools and various playing and bouncing interest classes. They spend all day studying all day long, just so that their children can cash out 1.5 billion, marry Bai Fumei, and start life. Peak? If you don\’t get these, will you be destined to be marginalized in life, abandoned by your peers, and have no happiness at all? Maybe not. Harvard University\’s Open Course on Happiness says that psychological happiness is the only criterion for measuring life, and the so-called success brought by material, status, and fame only affects 10% of a person\’s happiness. It is undeniable that success is closely related to talent, hard work, and luck, and the vast majority of people will live an ordinary life. Success has the determination to succeed, and ordinaryness has the calmness to be ordinary. Possessing wealth and power is by no means the ultimate goal for our children to strive for. Just as Long Yingtai once told his son: Son, I ask you to study hard, not because I want you to compare your grades with others, but because I hope you will have the right to choose in the future. A sense of accomplishment and dignity will give you happiness. I think this is also the biggest expectation that we struggling parents have for our children. Letting children have the ability to be happy is the ability we should cultivate most. Success can be big or small, but there is no distinction between high and low effort. This is a pen refill used by a student preparing for the college entrance examination. Each refill should be called \”You will not regret it until you work hard.\” A mother in Sichuan who often travels on business has written 100 letters to her son in four years, trying her best to make up for the regret of not being able to be with her son often. This is a reminder note written to himself by a 9-year-old boy who needs to take a lot of medicine. His mother, a pediatrician, often worked overtime, and he learned to arrange his own life, study, and mood. Father, mother, children, everyone is ordinary, and everyone is doing their best to live well. Living hard is a success in itself. Looking up at the stars in the quagmire and still feeling joy in the face of adversity is the life success lesson for us ordinary people. Stay calm and be yourself. There is a sayingIt is well said: the existence of bitterness is to make sweetness become sweetness. Teaching children the ability to face and control wealth correctly is more important than teaching them the ability to win wealth. Otherwise, wealth can easily destroy a child. We never deny the sense of accomplishment that money and fame bring, but if we never let our children understand \”where money comes from, where it goes, and how it relates to themselves,\” they will easily be controlled by money and lose themselves when they grow up. Children who think money can settle everything will sooner or later be settled by the magic of money. I remember last year a single father sadly accused his daughter of taking away the 3 million he had worked hard to save for decades. Not only did he not report to foreign schools, but he also spent wantonly on luxury goods, which even blacklisted the whole family. This is a failure of money education, and it is also a failure of long-term obstruction of the emotional flow between father and daughter. The wisdom of parents\’ education can be seen in their children\’s attitude towards money. We often say, \”No matter how hard it is, you can\’t hurt your children.\” However, Westerners, especially tycoons and rich people, advocate the educational experience of \”No matter how rich you are, you can\’t make your children rich.\” They understand that letting children have a sense of superiority with money is harmful to no one. . Therefore, even the children of big figures like Obama, Trump, and Bill Gates rely on working to earn their own tuition and living expenses. They never resented their parents\’ ruthlessness, but instead took it as an honor for their self-reliance. Failed parents are always \”teaching people how to fish\” and keep giving; successful parents are always \”teaching people how to fish\” and guide them carefully: rich money may be easy to come by, success can be just around the corner, as long as you stick to your heart, don\’t panic, don\’t Being fearful and not chaotic is the key to long-term happiness in life. Everyone has the right to choose how to live their own life. There is more than just worldly success. Last year, my best friend moved her son’s household registration from Haidian, Beijing, where the school district is fiercely competitive, to the suburbs of Daxing. She sold her small, gloomy house and moved her family into a large, sunny house with fragrant bookshelves. Every day, she writes articles, raises flowers, grows vegetables, meets people, and discusses new book topics; every day, her son goes to school, plays with the dog, reads, rides a bicycle, walks, and plays games with his father. She said that since moving, her anxiety and insomnia have been completely cured. Her children have more space and freedom to move around, smile more and more, and become more proactive in their studies. Correspondingly, the relationship between mother and child is extremely harmonious. Her son used to be smart and cute. After he was 3 years old, his best friend enrolled him in many interest classes. For a time, the child was under great pressure and actually suffered from \”tic syndrome\”. Doctors say that heart diseases require heart medicine, and the best treatment is to relax the heart. …My best friend said that the current life has nothing to do with being rich and powerful, but if we continue to live like this, there seems to be nothing to be afraid of or unable to do. very nice. You must know that not everyone has the courage and ability to take a break from the torrent of worldly struggle to find another possibility of happiness. Korean actress Lee Young-ae, who retired for the sake of her children, moved her family to live in the suburbs. There was no psychological gap at all. Instead, she said with satisfaction: Cutting my children\’s hair and growing vegetables for them to eat are my greatest happiness. The prosperity of the world is like clouds and flows with the wind. Only happiness rooted in the heart can make a person enjoy it endlessly throughout his life. Zhao Youting said in an issue of \”Weird Flower Conference\” that we must acceptI am an ordinary person. Accept that you are an ordinary person, have an ordinary life, and then enjoy it. Zhang Erdong, who escaped from the prosperity and exchanged 4,000 yuan for the right to live in a mud house on Zhongnan Mountain, calmly wrote five years later: I can control the time of my life at will, and it will continue; there are movies, music, books, and rice paper , brushes, and oil painting frames; there are chickens and geese, cats and dogs; there are mountains, clouds, wind, and sun, and there is food, drink, and plenty of food. Everything I want, I have. What I don’t want has nothing to do with me. The most expensive and best life in the world does not have to be a pile of 1.5 billion, 15 billion, or 150 billion. It should be in harmony with your inner thoughts, needs, and desires. A child who knows how to follow his inner self throughout his life will never be abandoned by his peers. This is what we should teach our children, the most authentic parenting lesson in life. I looked back at my daughter who was writing seriously, and silently prayed in my heart: May you have the joy of singing amidst the hustle and bustle, and may you have the willpower to listen to your heart and persevere in your authenticity. Children, the most successful life is to live your life the way you like.