Children with a stable sense of happiness have parents who have these five rare goods

When I was walking my kids in the park, I met this family of three. The little girl, about 4 years old, stopped and walked along the way, sometimes chasing butterflies, sometimes looking at flowers, sometimes squatting on the ground and playing with leaves… The mother slowed down and followed the child, while the father sat on the stone not far away. On the steps, he looked at his wife and daughter with a smile. Suddenly I felt a little envious of this little girl. Parents who don’t bother or rush her, and allow her to freely explore all things, are rare parents. Children who are treated so kindly by their parents must be happy inside. We often say that to make children feel loved, we must give them a sense of happiness. But what kind of parents can raise happy children? True to his word, on the eve of his son\’s kindergarten graduation, his father promised him to attend the graduation ceremony. However, something unexpected happened at his employer and he was suddenly sent on a business trip for two weeks. Before leaving, my son was very depressed and repeatedly asked his father if he could come back. Although my father said he could come back, I was actually a little worried because the kindergarten graduation date was two days earlier than the end date of his business trip. Later, the night before my son’s graduation ceremony, my husband really rushed back early. The moment the son saw his father, his eyes lit up. Children\’s trust in their parents is like building a building. It needs to start from the foundation and be piled up brick by brick. The collapse of trust can be destroyed overnight. The China Youth Research Center once found in a national survey that among the 12 behaviors that primary and secondary school students are most dissatisfied with their parents, \”talking without keeping\” accounts for 43.6%, ranking first. Every time we break trust with our children, we destroy the parent-child relationship with our children. And a pair of parents who are true to their word allows their children to see respect and the importance their parents attach to them. If parents keep their word, their children will grow up to be punctual and promise-keeping people in the future. Trust children A child who is trusted by his parents will feel safe inside. Such children draw endless life energy from their parents during their childhood, and they will surely become confident and sunny people when they grow up. Actor Ma Yili mentioned such an incident when participating in \”The Reader\”. In her freshman year of high school, her father saw that the \”Ideological and Moral\” column in his daughter\’s student handbook was \”Poor\”, so he took Ma Yili to ask the teacher. The teacher said, \”Your daughter has fallen in love with multiple boys.\” After hearing this, the father calmly asked the teacher to write down the names of the boys, but the teacher only wrote down one. Dad asked the teacher, \”What else? Didn\’t you say more than one?\” Dad\’s words made the teacher very angry, but what he said next made Ma Yili burst into tears on the spot. \”I know my daughter best. I won\’t tell you anymore. It\’s better to go to the principal.\” In childhood, parents giving their children enough love will make a child feel safe. And trust will add to this sense of security and allow the child to live a confident person. Parents\’ trust is like nectar. When sprinkled into the soil, gorgeous flowers will bloom and nourish the children\’s hearts. It is a source of strength. Tian Liang, a caring companion, once said: \”Every time I come back from a business trip, my sister and brother will put my family ranking back to the bottom. Parents are busy with work and always neglect their children, but why can\’t we treat being a parent as a job?\” Children are bornThe master of telepathy, whether we give our children full love, they can feel it. My best friend complained to me that she had a little white-eyed wolf. It turns out that in a kindergarten quiz, there was a question to score parents, with scores ranging from 0 to 100. As a result, her daughter gave her 60 points, but gave 100 points to her father who only spared 20 minutes to play with her every day. \”Why does mom only have 60 points?\” my best friend asked her daughter hurtly. \”When dad plays with me, he doesn\’t talk to people on the phone. He only listens to me. Dad is willing to build building blocks with me. Dad also teaches me how to draw…\” My daughter\’s words are heart-wrenching. Compared with other roles given to us by society, parenthood is the most important profession. Being a parent is a job, and your children are your only boss. Once your children are \”fired\” from this job, no matter how much money you make, it will be meaningless. Only those who devote themselves wholeheartedly can be worthy of the title of parents. Accompanying children is not about the length of time, the key is to make them feel our attentiveness and concentration. 20 minutes of attentive companionship is better than a whole day of \”absent-minded\” companionship. Only parents who know how to accompany their children attentively can give their children a full sense of happiness. Don’t compare yourself to “other people’s children.” In the variety show “Youth Talk”, Yuan Jingyi’s words to her mother were impressive. \”Mom, it\’s not just other people\’s children who are good. Your own children also work very hard. Why don\’t you take a look?\” The little girl\’s words brought tears to my eyes. I am very lucky to have parents who never use \”other people\’s children\” to suppress me. My neighbor, Yanzi, who was in the same class as me, has always been the legendary \”other people\’s child.\” Every time after an exam, several parents get together to post their results, and someone would say, \”Look at other people\’s children, and tell me about yours later.\” Home girl.\” My mother didn\’t take it seriously and comforted me: \”The total score is not as high as Yanzi\’s, but your Chinese score is better than hers. You are just partial to the subject. Just make up for the math.\” With my mother\’s encouragement, I was very happy. I quickly caught up on math. Although I have never surpassed Yanzi, in my mother\’s eyes, I will always be the best one in her heart. Every child is irreplaceable, don’t let “other people’s children” become your child’s nightmare. Ye Zi, the daughter of the loving writer Ye Zhaoyan, once said: \”The most important thing my father did to me was to love my mother.\” One night, Ye Zi had a quarrel with her mother, and her unconscionable words drove her out of the door in anger. out. My father didn\’t even have time to change his clothes, so he took the keys and hurriedly chased him out. Ye Zi said that her father\’s hurried sound of locking the door and the hurried footsteps when going downstairs were fixed in her mind, and she would never forget them for the rest of her life. Parents loving each other will not only make their children feel more secure, but also allow them to learn to love in this relationship and pass on this love. The best model for a family is that the father loves the mother, and the mother loves the father. The father and mother love the children together, and the family, big hands holding small hands, live happily together. Both love and hurt can be passed on. For the sake of your children, please hold hands and make peace, speak well, and love well. The love between husband and wife can makeThis kind of love is passed on to the next generation, allowing children to gain full energy and happiness. The children came to us, even though we were all first-time parents and didn’t have much experience or even much patience. However, it doesn’t matter, we can learn. Haisang wrote in \”To My Children\”: I am an old thing but I am still not ready to dedicate my life to you. This is my stubbornness. In fact, in the sense of life, we are all miracles, just like the future. It will not be more important than it is now, and you and I can only be a certain part of each other\’s lives. However, I love you, my child, I love you, that\’s all… My child, I love you, and I will always love you.