The most heartbreaking rule of the year: You can’t be a father if you spend less than 12 hours a week with your children…

In the recently launched fifth season of \”Qi Pa Shuo\”, the first debate topic sparked heated discussion: Should a father be revoked as a father if he spends less than 12 hours a week with his children? In my opinion, of course not. But after hearing what Zheng Fang said, I burst into tears several times. Yan Rujing said: A child\’s life is a TV series, from 1 to 20 episodes. You don’t watch it, but you ask me, where is the show now? What should I tell you? Who can tell you? You can make up for it by not watching TV series, but you can\’t make up for your child\’s life. If you don’t see it, you will never see it again. Many times, fathers have various reasons to prove that they are busy, busy with clients, leaders, friends, and affairs, but they neglect to accompany their children. Children are experts in studying their parents and can clearly perceive the depth of their father\’s love. Perhaps in the father\’s eyes, all the busyness is for this family. But in the eyes of children, love and companionship are closely related to each other. Time is the scale of love, and quality is the precision of love. The work is never done, and the children are growing every day. When my father became successful, he found that everything had changed beyond recognition. The child has grown up long ago and is no longer the child you can accompany whenever you want. The alienation, strangeness, and estrangement between you are likely to last a lifetime. Vincent Foster, the first personal assistant to former US President Bill Clinton, once reminded the world: Before you know it, your children will grow up and leave you. We are lucky to have many opportunities to read stories, fish, and play games with our children. So, try not to lose any of these opportunities. If parents are really \”the only audience for their children in the first half of their lives,\” then fathers should be responsible audiences. To be a visible and tangible father, there is a short film called \”Cash Machine Dad\”: the little girl Tongtong\’s memory of her father seems to be that cash machine. She had fantasized about her father riding bikes, swinging, doing homework, and telling stories with her countless times… However, it was all a dream. Dad gave her nothing but money. Tongtong knows that her father is the hardest working father in the world. Even during the Chinese New Year, he is too busy to go home. But what she longs for most is to hug and kiss her father. She kept calling in her heart: Childhood only comes once, Dad, stay with me! Father\’s love is like calcium, which is indispensable for every child\’s growth. In \”Hello, Dad\”, Uncle Kai once said that no matter how busy he was, he would get home before his daughter went to bed and press the \”Uncle Kai Storytelling\” button for her. This is a ritual between them. Since Bao Beier had his daughter Diaozi, he would rush home every time he finished work. No matter how late it was, he would always go home to sleep. Dumpling would see him when he got up the next day. Sun Yunxiao said: Unperceived father\’s love has no influence on children. What children need is a father who is flesh and blood, talking and laughing, not a vague figure who hides behind money, hides on the other end of the phone, and is out of reach. Looking through Deng Chao\’s Weibo, you will find that besides work, what he talks about most is his children. He tied little flowers into pigtails, went shopping with his clothes on his back, told stories to his children\’s kindergarten, and froze like a dog in order to build an igloo… Just as he \”self-proclaimed\”: Father\’s love is like a mountain. Wait, Xiaohua\’s \”abuse\” to him was exactly the love she gave him in return. 《The book \”The World Needs a Father\” talks about: The image of God in the minds of 6-year-old children usually comes from the impression of their own father, and the visible and tangible \”God\” is exactly what the child needs. The child gave him more than just the title \”Dad\”. I first learned that Jordan Chan had a hot temper because he often clashed with the media and even got into fights. Only later did I understand what he had gone through in his childhood. He was born into an extremely poor family, so poor that he sold his youngest brother in order to survive. He had to drop out of school early to work, suffered all kinds of hardships, and was even chained at home by his father. After having Jasper, he naturally looks like a \”strict father\”, lacking patience and being irritable and irritable. In the show, he often loses his temper with his son. But surprisingly, Jasper always uses his \”tenderness\” to \”conquer\” his father. That sentence \”Can you stop angry now?\” made Chen Xiaochun burst into tears. No matter how outrageous his father is, Jasper always says, \”It doesn\’t matter, I am willing to be good friends with you every day, every day.\” When his father blamed himself for being a bad person, Jasper immediately corrected him, \”You are a good person.\” When his father was washing his feet, he held his father\’s arm and said \”Thank you, Dad\” which made Chen Xiaochun\’s eyes red again. The child used pure and beautiful love to heal the father who lacked love in childhood. Chen Xiaochun began to re-understand and change himself, getting along with his children more and more harmoniously, and fell in love with companionship. In \”Wife\’s Romantic Travel\”, he transformed into a husband and father who dared to express love, and even had a bit of humor. Companionship is not only what the father gives to the child, but also an opportunity the child gives to the father. In the process of accompanying children, men can gain secondary growth. The child allows the father to see himself clearly, achieve self-reconciliation and self-healing, and make life more complete, open-minded and happy. No matter how busy you are, you must be a good father. Some time ago, my cousin told me something: early on Saturday morning, he put aside all his work and planned to help his daughter with her homework. The first item is to take dictation. 20 pinyin, 10 of which are wrong. The daughter said dejectedly, \”Every day I take dictation at school and I am at the bottom.\” The cousin tried to comfort her: \”It\’s okay, you are very smart.\” The daughter said, \”I am stupid.\” The cousin said, \”My My daughter is the smartest.\” Daughter: \”No, I am the stupidest, the stupidest in the class.\” Cousin: \”How can you say that about yourself? I have already told you that you are very smart.\” My daughter covered her face and burst into tears: \” I told you I was stupid.\” Later, my cousin was \”invited\” out of the room. He was very depressed: \”I just wanted to encourage her, but she didn\’t appreciate it at all.\” Indeed, his cousin is a \”trapeze artist\” and is very busy at work. He doesn\’t care about his daughter\’s study and life at all. This time I finally found time to spend time with my daughter, but I didn\’t expect it to end. The cousin seemed to be trying hard to communicate with his daughter, but he did not solve any problems with her, let alone touch her real feelings. He was also accustomed to using simple and crude methods to expect her to accept and obey. There are probably not a few fathers who are like my cousin. In fact, high-quality companionship is based on effective communication, can produce emotional resonance. Voltaire said: The ears are the way to the soul. If a father wants to understand his child\’s heart within a limited time, he must first learn to listen. Listen to your child with a calm heart, and your child will feel that you have given him enough security and trust. Only by truly understanding the emotions behind the child\’s language can a father give appropriate praise when praise is due; help the child find a solution when he encounters difficulties; and criticize the child in a principled manner when he makes a mistake. The best communication state between a child and his father is: he is willing to speak and you are willing to listen. A good father not only devotes his time, but also pays attention to his children\’s emotions. Whether it\’s reading, traveling, or playing games, resonance can only occur when we enter each other\’s worlds. In the movie \”Like Father, Like Son\”, there is a dialogue between two fathers: – There are still many jobs in this world that only I can do waiting for me to complete! No time to spend with the kids. ——Father is also a task that only you can complete! Every child has only one father. This father is irreplaceable. No matter how busy or difficult it is, it is your responsibility to accompany your children. When you have no time to take care of your children, you will one day be absent in their lives. When you get used to using money to replace companionship, your children will also use money to support you in your old age. When you never appear in your child\’s life, your child will definitely leave you. It\’s not that they are heartless, but that they are accustomed to it. Some people say that the most luxurious person is the one who is willing to spend time with you. Everyone\’s time is valuable. Giving you time is equivalent to giving you your own world. I hope all fathers in the world can accompany their children to grow up. I hope that all children in the world can grow old with their father.