Helping children carry backpacks to school was stopped by the principal: It’s not “doing your own thing”

Recently, at the gate of a school in Shenzhen, when sending students off after school, a principal insisted on not allowing parents to carry their children\’s schoolbags, and was trending on Weibo. The school office staff said that this is the principal\’s educational philosophy, and he hopes that children will understand and do their own things. The principal\’s approach was not widely recognized. Many parents replied that their children\’s schoolbags are heavy even for adults; some said that too heavy a schoolbag would weigh down the child\’s growth; some also said that they support the principal\’s idea in theory, but in fact a schoolbag that is too heavy will weigh down the child\’s height. back. Among the many replies, there was one reply that shone with wisdom: When children go to elementary school, they should learn to pack their schoolbags by themselves. If a child feels that his schoolbag is heavy when he carries it, he will try to make it lighter. If he never carries his schoolbag and doesn’t know whether it is heavy, how can he learn to organize his schoolbag? This is a parent who knows how to cultivate a \”growth mindset\” in his children. \”Growth mindset\” was proposed by Stanford professor Dweck. She said that children with a growth mindset will believe that the world is full of interesting challenges that help them learn and grow. They are optimistic and confident, and believe that most problems can be solved through hard work. to solve. Difficulties in life are all opportunities to cultivate children\’s growth mindset. However, many parents mistakenly believe that the fewer problems their children encounter, the better, or they believe that their children do not have the ability to solve problems and are used to doing everything for them – for example, they carry their children\’s schoolbags if they are too heavy. Doing so deprives children of exercise opportunities and stifles their growth mindset. Some time ago, a fourth-grade primary school mathematics teacher in Foshan became a hot search topic. The reason is that he assigned a homework problem, requiring students to count 100 million grains of rice at home. This \”weird\” homework was posted online by parents, and netizens ridiculed the teacher for being mentally retarded and having poor IQ. They calculated that a person counting 3 per second would have to count for a year without eating, drinking or sleeping. They also estimated that 100 million grains of rice are equivalent to 833 bags of 10 kilograms of rice. Even if you complete your homework, you cannot take it to school. . However, just as they were mocking the teacher, some parents had already guided their children to complete the \”impossible mission.\” Some of these children used the concept of multipliers, first counting 100 grains of rice, and then multiplying by the corresponding multiple to understand the concept of 100 million; some used the method of calculating volume, first using a container to measure the volume of 1,000 grains of rice, and then Go to the supermarket to feel the size of 100 million grains of rice. For the same homework, some parents use accusations and ridicules to avoid it, depriving their children of opportunities to think and solve problems; others regard it as an interesting challenge and guide their children to jump out of their \”comfort zone\” and solve problems. The former may not have the ability to guide children to complete homework, but is limited to their own fixed thinking: when we were studying in the past, homework was not like this; it is impossible for children to complete the problem of hundreds of millions of grains of rice. Their fixed thinking also affects their children. Children are likely to habitually refuse challenges, and their future development potential is likely to be limited. The latter are parents with a growth mindset. They believe that children\’s brains and problem-solving abilities are like human muscles and can become more flexible and stronger through exercise. Their children will also gradually develop a growth mindset, viewing difficulties and failures as challenges that allow them to make progress, and are full of enthusiasm for learning.Enthusiasm, believe that hard work can improve abilities, and believe that one\’s potential is unlimited. An excellent teacher mentioned a phenomenon: None of the children with top grades were forced to study by their parents or teachers. They were all children who were motivated to learn, persevered, and had a growth mindset. Children with a growth mindset have strong endogenous driving force and confidently believe that they can overcome difficulties. Therefore, they become more courageous as they fight and eventually succeed. The video of a Japanese boy repeatedly challenging box jumps is impressive. At the farewell party for transferring to another school, the boy did not choose the skills he was good at, but wanted to challenge the box jumping event that he had never succeeded in. He ran hard, failed again and again, adjusted his approach speed, pace, starting point, and jumping posture again and again, and wiped away his tears and tried again. In the end, the boy withstood the pressure and, with the encouragement and attention of his teachers and classmates, successfully challenged himself and jumped over the box. When the boy jumped over the box, there was thunderous applause and I couldn\’t help but burst into tears. This boy with a growth mindset has clear goals, the courage to overcome difficulties, and constantly improves his abilities. In his future life, I believe he will jump over one difficulty after another like a jumping box. Professor Dweck said: \”When a child enters a new thinking mode, he enters a new world.\” A growth mindset gives children the power to overcome difficulties and make continuous progress. People with a growth mindset are the most favored talents in the future workplace. Internet giant JD.com has a story about \”Liu Qiangdong angrily resigned from senior executives\”. At a strategic meeting, Liu Qiangdong announced that he would invest heavily in building his own logistics system, with the goal of one-day delivery in the same city. No company has ever achieved such efficient logistics, and a senior executive immediately objected and cited various difficulties. Liu Qiangdong said, \”Today is not here to discuss, but to inform everyone, please find a way to implement it.\” When we met again a week later, the executive had been replaced by someone else. And JD.com has really achieved \”211 limited time delivery\” in 125 cities across the country. People who lack a growth mindset are people with fixed thinking. When they encounter difficulties and obstacles at work, they give up easily and find it difficult to go further in the workplace. Another Internet giant Alibaba also circulated the wonderful story of \”Jack Ma conquered a US$1.5 billion project with 2 million.\” The project is called Alimama, and nearly 70% of Alibaba’s revenue today is related to it. This project originally required a large price of US$1.5 billion to be acquired from the outside. Jack Ma spent 2 million to recruit employees within Alibaba to start a business. At that time, Alibaba executives estimated that the project would require nearly 200 million just to buy traffic. It is almost impossible to do it with 2 million. Here\’s what the people doing the project did: use the lakeside garden founded by Jack Ma as an office space to save rent; don\’t receive a salary to save labor; found 2,700 depreciated and scrapped servers in the company, and built them through the network to serve as 5,000 new machines; external The traffic is divided 95:5, and 95% is given to others. The only condition is that there is no advance payment… Using various incredible and ingenious methods, the project was finally completed, and the employees who participated in the project also received generous returns. Zeng Guofan once said: Those who plan for great things must first focus on the pattern. The pattern of people determinesDetermine whether great things can be accomplished. Similarly, in the workplace, the most important thing is the size of the structure and the level of thinking ability. The world is changing and the times are developing. The workplace in the industrial era emphasizes execution, while the workplace in the Internet and artificial intelligence era places more emphasis on creativity and subversive capabilities. People with a growth mindset have stronger resistance and resilience when facing difficulties and challenges; they are not afraid of mistakes and failures, pay more attention to personal growth, and have more positive emotions; they can turn seemingly impossible things into things. It is possible, and you will have more opportunities to become a professional elite in the future. From the small \”backbag\” to the tough \”jumping box\”, from the bizarre \”100 million grains of rice\” to the incredible \”200,000 to solve 1.5 billion projects\”, Professor Dweck said that growth mindset is not something we are born with. It can be cultivated. Parents can do this: encourage their children to meet challenges and tell them that difficulties and challenges are opportunities for learning. Failure in challenges is temporary. The key is to sum up experience and master skills from challenges. Guide children to view their own abilities objectively and tell them that if they do not currently have a certain ability, it is only temporary, and it does not matter. Strengthen training and slowly work in this direction, and you will get better and better at it. Guide your child to understand difficulties correctly. Tell your child that some things are indeed too difficult at the moment and he may not be able to understand them yet. But as long as the child finds out the missed or ignored elements, he will definitely be able to figure it out. Guide children to view success and failure correctly. Tell them that success is proof that \”hard work will lead to gains\”, and failure is only proof that \”there is more room for growth.\” If you want to own something, you must have enough passion, practice hard, and then see the final result. Guide children to treat opinions and feedback correctly and tell them to have the courage to affirm their own strengths and progress. Listen to constructive opinions and focus on ideas that improve deficiencies and increase knowledge. More importantly, parents should change their fixed thinking, sincerely believe that their children have the ability to overcome difficulties, give their children opportunities to challenge, and allow their children to form positive feedback for continuous growth. Just like the title of Professor Dweck’s famous speech: The key to education is to make the child believe that he has the power to make himself better. I would like to encourage parents all over the world.