Are today’s children becoming less and less childlike?

When children are burdened with heavy expectations and forced to run on the road of growth, do parents find that their children miss out on the most precious childhood? Not long ago, many friends in China mentioned their troubles to me: today\’s children are becoming less and less childlike. They deal with abacus, pinyin, and calligraphy every day. They feel that they can\’t play and are not happy. In fact, my German friends also mentioned this trouble to me. I would like to share with you two short stories that happened to my German friends, maybe you can feel something from them if you are confused. This is how children should be. Sonia is a teacher who has worked in a kindergarten in Hannover, Germany for decades. She also complained about today\’s children: They spend most of their time playing video games. What about the opportunities to play games together? Increasingly. Less and less, and less and less conversation. When I asked him something, his reaction was one of trepidation, no boldness, or a blank look on his face. He just did whatever the teacher said, and he didn\’t learn the basic courtesy. Even when asking for help, he hesitated to say \”please\”. \”I\’m worried that one day, technology will surpass human communication, and by then, there will be a generation of fools in the world.\” This is what Sonia is worried about. So she and her colleagues took action, taking the children to the forest to look for different leaves to compare; taking them to climb mountains to let them realize that only through perseverance can one climb to the top; and put ducks in the pond. , having snowball fights in the snow, digging puddles in the wild… Seeing the children\’s dirty faces, dirty hands, and dirty feet, and seeing their happy expressions, Sonia smiled, \”These are the children. The childhood you should have! This is the child-like way a child should be!\” You cannot ask children to talk about child-like things in an \”adult-like way\”, which reminds me of the story of another German friend Saskia and her daughter. . One day, when I met Saskia leading her daughter Agna, I noticed how dirty the little blond girl was: her face was covered with mud spots, and the gangster mark on the tip of her upturned nose was particularly eye-catching. It\’s slightly covered with hay sticks. Because it was summer, the nails on her bare feet were also dark. After seeing the scene like that of Agna, the little girl from a respectable family, I really felt embarrassed for Saskia for a few seconds. As a Chinese, traditionally speaking of face, the cleanliness of children represents the dignity of the family. However, the beautiful Saskia seemed to be fine, as if her daughter was not much different from before. From the beginning to the end, she did not wipe Agna\’s face deliberately so that the little girl would not look so dirty. From their conversation, it was known that the little girl had just returned from riding horses at the stable, and she had a great time playing in the sand beside the horse farm. \”This is like a child!\” Saskia praised loudly. I told Saskia that if she were in China, she would definitely be criticized by mothers. \”Is it because I didn\’t clean Agna?\” Saskia said. \”There are mothers in Germany who also pay attention to cleanliness, but most of them pay more attention to the fact that their children can play without restrictions. If you follow her all day Say to her from behind: \’Hey, don\’t move, there are bacteria on it!\’ Or: \’Your hands are dirty, go wash them quickly!\’ Maybe this is very particular.It\’s hygienic, but you don\’t know that you interrupted a child\’s creative activity. In fact, children can be taught that it is best not to eat when their hands are dirty. that\’s enough. \”Children should be like children, and their childhood should be innocent and innocent, playing freely and doing what they want to do. For children, this is a kind of happiness!