A middle-aged man was reported for molestation, and the girl said something to the police that made her parents sad

On November 9, on a bus in Mianyang, Sichuan, a middle-aged man hugged and hugged a fifth-grade girl in a very intimate manner. Fortunately, a citizen in the same car called the police and the man was taken away for investigation. It’s unclear how the man’s behavior, which clearly went beyond normal caring, was ultimately characterized, but the girl’s reaction in this video is deeply shocking. ▲The news report video recommends watching it in a WiFi environment. The police officer got into the car and said to the man very sternly: You are suspected of molesting a girl! Hearing this, the girl stood up from the man and waved her hands eagerly to explain: No, no, no, I know him, we are good friends! A fifth-grade girl tacitly approved of the long-term intimate behavior of a middle-aged man who was not a relative, and eagerly excused the man. She also called this strange man, who was about the same age as her father, a \”good friend\”! This behavior is too weird. Why on earth did the girl behave in such a strange way? I really don’t dare to think about the process and reasons behind it. Some citizens said that the man often waited at the bus stop on time for girls to get off school. The reason why the girl called him \”friend\” turned out to be because the man often gave the girl money to buy snacks, \”up to 30 yuan at a time.\” It’s really powerless to think about it. In order to create a safe environment for their children to grow up, parents have carefully guarded their children from birth. Whether it is the temperature of the bath water or every time the child catches a cold or has a fever, the parents are meticulous. When the child goes to kindergarten, he is picked up and dropped off every day, so he doesn\’t dare to be careless. Parents will read various parenting books to understand their children\’s growth patterns and psychological dynamics, for fear that their children will be harmed. Especially for girls, parents are particularly concerned. They will tell her since she was a child, \”Girls are not allowed to be watched by others when they go to the toilet, and their butts are not allowed to be touched by others!\” Because parents know that some injuries may ruin a girl\’s life, and that is the responsibility of the whole family. The pain was unbearable. However, I never expected that the defenses that parents had built up for their children with care and education would be shattered by those perverts with just 30 yuan! However, this is definitely not just a matter of money. In recent years, the media has exposed many cases of molesting young girls, and many of them were deceived by using pocket money, buying clothes, buying snacks, etc. Everyone is feeling that girls still need to be rich. However, in some cases, the children\’s family conditions are not bad, but they are still deceived by small favors. It can be seen that this is not a matter of being poor and being rich, but that the child does not know what she is losing because of a few dozen dollars. Last August, Jiangsu TV reported such a case. A girl from Jiangdu District, Yangzhou City, had a good family situation. Her parents were busy with business and often went out to collect payments. Therefore, the little girl who was always at home alone was noticed by Xu, a migrant worker nearby. Xu slowly approached the girl and gave some snacks and change from time to time to gain the child\’s trust. Later, Xu deceived the little girl into a hotel on the pretext of giving her pocket money. Within a month, the little girl was molested four times by Xu. Not only that, the crazy Xu also took advantage of the little girl\’s ignorance and used pocket money to introduce the little girl to several classmates, and eventually had a relationship with another girl named He.Later, the girl told her parents what happened, and Xu\’s brutal behavior was discovered. Children are lured with a little pocket money not because they really have no money. What really puts children in danger lies with their parents. First, parents pay too little attention to their children. Statistics on sexual assault cases show that a large proportion of left-behind children in rural areas are left behind because they have not been cared for and protected by their parents for a long time, giving bad guys an opportunity to take advantage of them. The Suzhou example above was also because parents were busy with business and neglected their children. In this news from Mianyang, the mother finally said to the girl: This has been happening for so long, why have you never told your mother? Parents, don’t just wait for your child to tell you everything. You should take the initiative to pay attention to her every move and see if your child suddenly stops talking, is in a bad mood for a period of time, and whether her academic performance has declined. There is no physical abnormality. If the child encounters something, there will be details. You can treat everything the same, but you must not take your children lightly! Another important reason is that parents\’ extreme neglect of sex education makes children ignorant about it. Therefore, when they face insidious and sophisticated adult criminals, they have no chance to escape, and they even don\’t know that they should escape. ▲Drawing: People\’s Daily Online Data source: Supreme People\’s Court Data from the Supreme People\’s Court show that from 2013 to 2016, 10,782 cases of child molestation were concluded. That is, at least 7 children are sexually assaulted every day. And this is only the recorded data. According to Wang Dawei, a criminal psychology expert and professor at the People\’s Public Security University of China, at least 6 times the data is hidden. ▲Chart: People\’s Daily Online Data source: Girls Protection Fund A more serious problem is that 68.63% of parents have never provided systematic sexual assault prevention education to their children. On the one hand, there is a sharp increase in child sexual assault cases, and on the other hand, there are parents who neglect sex education. The problem will only get worse if this continues. When we are ashamed to talk about sex, children know nothing about it. We just regard children\’s ignorance as purity. If you think the child is too young, bad people will not think the child is too young. When a pure child faces the bad guys hidden in society, he is like a newborn lamb facing a cunning wolf. There is nothing he can do except to be slaughtered. Someone once did an experiment, using candies, new clothes, etc. to induce children to see if they would agree to a stranger\’s request to take off their clothes. The children who were subjected to the experiment were divided into two groups, one group had no deliberate sex education, and the other group had sex education warnings such as \”cannot take off clothes around boys.\” The experimenter took out new clothes and told the child that these were newly bought by her mother, hoping that she could wear them by herself. As a result, children who have not received sex education do not hesitate to take off their clothes when faced with new clothes and uncle\’s inducement, and this is true for both boys and girls. The children didn\’t realize there was anything wrong with their behavior at all. It wasn\’t until their mother appeared next to them and asked her why she started to take off her clothes that the children suddenly woke up and knew they had done something wrong. Another group of children who received sex education performed much better: So how should we protect our children? Here tooA very professional instructional video, a child sexual abuse prevention animation produced by the American How To Tell Your Child organization. This video lets children know that the bad guys are not the bad guys with evil eyes and scary smiles like in the comics, but are more likely to be good-looking people with kind smiles and cool people who even hide delicious candies in their pockets . In other words, in front of children, the word \”bad guy\” will not be written on the face of the bad guy. The five types of alarms I will talk about next are the top priority of the entire short film. These five warnings not only comprehensively summarize various dangerous scenarios, but also allow children to easily understand them. Visual Alert If someone looks at your private parts, or lets you look at someone else\’s private parts, this is called a \”Visual Alert.\” Verbal Alert If someone talks about private parts, this is called a \”Verbal Alert.\” Touch Alert If someone touches your private parts Touching your private parts, or asking you to touch their private parts, is called a \”Touch Alarm.\” Alone Alert Bad guys can only hurt you when you are alone. If you are alone with a stranger, this is \”Alone Alone Alert.\” Restraint Alert If someone hugs, carries or kisses you, this is a \”restraint alarm.\” Of course, in addition to these five alarms, there are three special situations: 1. No one is allowed to look at private parts, talk or It\’s touching the private parts, but \”Mom and Dad are allowed.\” That can only be done when the child is young, unable to bathe himself, or when the child\’s private parts are injured. 2. Others can only do so with the permission of their parents, such as a nanny to help with bathing, or going to the doctor accompanied by their mother. 3. When the child asked whether hugging his aunt was a restraint alarm, the teacher suggested that parents create a \”love circle\” with the child. Only people in the circle can hug and love the child. This video uses the form of comics to make it easy for children to understand and accept, and it is also very enforceable. You can watch the full video: ▲The full video of foreign sex education comics is recommended for parents to watch in a WiFi environment. Parents do not want their children to be affected by A little violation, the injury suffered by the child, and the blow to the parents will increase exponentially. If something irreparable happens to a child, it may cause indelible harm to the child and the entire family may be destroyed. I hope that parents can spend more time accompanying their dear children and learn more ways to protect their children so that they can grow up healthy and happy without leaving any regrets in their lives.