A collection of mantras to make boys more confident, you should say them often!

Mothers often wonder why it is so difficult to communicate with boys. You see, the girls are well-behaved and sensible. They can understand their mother\’s feelings even if she doesn\’t say anything. But that silly boy didn\’t know what he was talking about, and he didn\’t have a long memory. Indeed. So I often see little fish being scolded by its mother. For example, he always makes his clothes dirty. Or break it directly for you. And if he doesn’t tidy things up, the whole house is filled with his books. Sometimes he would go into the study room for a few minutes, and if no one was around, he could move the books off the bookshelf. Then they are all spread out on the bed, in a mess, making you think you have been robbed. With boys at home, mothers’ patience is challenged almost every second. \”Why, you just don\’t listen!\” Every time I stand around, because as a person who has been around, I understand a boy\’s heart better than my wife. Once she calms down, comfort her. Honey, don\’t be too nervous. Maybe to put it another way, boys will listen more. And frequent scolding will only discourage them, make them stay away from you, and even make them feel inferior. Then I’ll have to worry again, why my child doesn’t have self-confidence. Faced with their parents\’ prohibitive instructions, boys are more eager to challenge. So, when you reason with them carefully and tell them not to do something. Their ears may have closed. At this time, you might as well try another method. Give them some positive instructions and then remember to add, \”Can you do it?\” Few little boys will say no to this statement. Because they refuse to admit defeat, they are restless at heart and naturally like challenges. For example, remind them not to make a mess in their room. They may think in their hearts that this is what I want, and I like this. You can change it to: \”I think the room should be tidier, can you do it?\” Change the words that prohibit the child into words of encouragement. \”Can you tidy up the sofa in the living room in 10 minutes?\” \”I can!\” \”When playing fighting games with dad, you can\’t hit the head or stomach. Can you do it?\” \”I can!\” !” “You will wash and cook rice for dinner today, can you do it?” “I can!” Such a conversation can not only stimulate children’s interest in doing things. It also allows them to feel their own strength and build self-confidence. Xiao Xiaoyu told her classmates in kindergarten that she could cook at home. He also revealed his skill to the teacher. This is how children affirm themselves and seek approval. Parents need to help their children be more like \”I can!\” Encourage their children to learn to cook, learn to organize, and then enjoy the fruits of their children\’s labor together. And this kind of self-identity will make our little boy become more and more confident. Of course, maybe you say to your little boy: \”Can you dry all the vegetables in your bowl?\” \”I can!\” This answer is the best. Maybe he doesn\’t like eating vegetables, but since he accepted this, he will complete it. Of course, some mothers will say that their children are very stubborn, and even if you provoke them, they will not fall into the trap. what to do? Then remember to always say another word to your children. \”Let\’s try it!\” Do you often encourage your children like this? Some mothers may say that if they let their children do everything, they will lose control and become uncontrollable. Indeed, many mothers harmShe is afraid that her boy will become naughty, but likes her children to be quiet. Maybe a child who goes out in the morning dressed neatly will be dirty when he comes home from school. He even hung his pants and clothes with holes in them. Mothers were very angry about this and blamed their children for not being hygienic. Xiao Xiaoyu also received a lot of training for this. Despite what we\’ve said many times, he still makes a mess in his drawers. But I tried my best to understand him and help him explain to his mother. Because when I was a child, I had a drawer dedicated to storing knickknacks that I picked up from outside. And I also like to take things apart. Boys inherently love taking things apart and then putting them back together or rebuilding again. Or try to cause a lot of destruction. These are normal and parents should accept them rather than prohibit them. It should be noted that many of our children today are often too busy and do not dare to try. As long as you stop in a square with many children, you will find many \”obedient\” children. I jumped higher and faster, and immediately there were adults chasing me, saying it was too dangerous. In fact, there is nothing wrong with the children, the problem lies with the adults. It is really distressing to see a boy who is timid and not naughty at all. I still remember one time, a boy over 4 years old wanted to join our game of chasing each other. But grandma said: \”He is not in good health. He sweats a lot and will catch a cold. He catches a cold all the time!\” When the child heard this, he could only give up. Then the child could only circle around grandma, but his eyes kept looking at us. If this happens for a long time, he will feel that he is really not in good physical condition and is not suitable for exercise. Cultivators\’ cues have the greatest impact on children. If you are afraid that your child will fall and you don’t dare to let your child run. I think children will fall more if they are out of sight of their parents. Because only by gaining experience on how to balance, how to stop suddenly, and how to turn can you avoid falling. If the child wants to do something, why not let him try it. Children who dare not try will want to give up when they encounter the slightest difficulty. Parents should always say to their children, \”Let\’s try it!\” You will find magical effects. I still remember once doing a color experiment with Xiao Xiaoyu. He needs to put the black wolfberry into the small bottle and stir it. The black wolfberry did not change color after he put it in, and it did not change after stirring for a long time. He said he didn\’t want to do it. I told him \”Try again!\” He reluctantly persisted. Later he was asked to put the liquid into the spray bottle. I fell down several times and always fell outside. I was anxious to see it. And he didn’t want to continue and wanted me to finish it for him. I really wanted to get angry at that time. But I knew there was no point in blaming him. And for him, his small hands are not stable enough and he does not have enough strength to twist the lid. So I chose to encourage him, \”Try again!\” Seeing that I didn\’t lose my temper, he continued to try. Finally, when he saw that the paper flowers had really changed color, his frown relaxed. \”Have you tried more, or found a way!\” Maybe while waiting for the child to move forward slowly. We will be anxious, but we cannot rush to replace our children. Instead, encourage them to give it a try. There are many parents who feel that hitting their children is the best way to motivate them. However, I have always felt positive excitementIncentives should be more effective. \”I believe in you!\” This sentence is far more effective than the \”Why are you so stupid\” type of blow when a child encounters difficulties. Everyone has a strong urge to express themselves, children and adults alike. As children grow up, they are always looking for their own strengths and gaining recognition from their parents and people around them. For example, a child learns to whistle, or builds a super awesome building block house, or thinks of a good story. Every normal child will strive to gain recognition and pursue excellence. Parents must find ways to awaken and maintain this mentality in their children. If you know your child well enough, you will definitely be able to spot the shining points in him. Then parents can make full use of this shining point to help their children gain confidence. Behind belief is respect and understanding. Please stand from your child\’s perspective, understand his heart, and accept his choice. For example, boys\’ brains tend to think spatially compared to girls\’ brains. So I found that the little fish was very interested in connecting mazes and connecting numbers. And I often open the measuring tool on my mobile phone to measure the length of various items in my home. I like to draw maps and am very sensitive to distance, size, orientation and direction. And there’s a reason why boys like to spread things out. This is how their brains learn. So the boys\’ rooms are all messy, not because they don\’t care about hygiene or tidying up. When we understand this characteristic of boys, we will understand their behaviors. To hit a child, many people will do it. All they need to do is blame them crazily. You can ignore them and just say a word. However, how to encourage a child and cultivate his or her self-confidence is not an easy task. You can first try to talk to your children about these three sentences from the bottom of your heart.