Jiangsu boy who killed his mother was caught! Reflection: Who pays for this family tragedy?

I once read this sentence: Children need discipline and guidance. This is true, but if they are under discipline and guidance all the time and in everything, it is unlikely that they will learn self-control and self-guidance. Educating children is a difficult and cautious path. Sometimes it is not only the children but also the parents who have improper education who go astray. On March 19, Yancheng Jianhu Police issued a notice: At about 8 a.m. on March 18, 2019, Yang (female, 37 years old), a resident of Jianhu County, was found dead at home. The police who received the call quickly launched an investigation and soon arrested Shao, who was a major suspect. He was only 13 years old this year. After further confirmation of identity, it was discovered that Shao was Yang\’s biological son. I couldn\’t help but sigh: Another case of juvenile matricide, another family torn apart. Similar to the previous incidents, Shao also had a fierce conflict with his mother because he refused to obey her discipline, which eventually turned into a tragic tragedy. Many people are asking: What happened to our children? In fact, what I want to say is that all of this is unexpected and expected. Shao was in junior high school in a school and his grades were mediocre. His family\’s financial situation is not good, so he often quarrels with his mother over money. And his father works outside all year round, rarely comes home, and rarely controls Shao. The real trigger of the incident was an extreme move by the mother Yang before the incident. Shao usually likes pets and is a bit playful. His mother thought that his poor grades were due to playing with pets all day long, so she threw his pet dog to death in a fit of anger. The accumulated conflicts and the death of the dog became the straw that broke the camel\’s back. The rebellious boy waved the sinful butcher knife at his mother. Did a dog destroy a family? No, it is the mistakes and lack of education that make a child go into the abyss. On November 22, 2018, a college student in Jinan stabbed his mother, who was studying with him, to death with a knife, but the mother did not cry out for help. On December 6, 2018, 12-year-old Wu Mou killed his mother at home. When questioned by the police, he also said righteously: \”I didn\’t kill anyone else, I killed my mother.\” Such words are extremely heartbreaking for every parent. Just imagine if your own child is like this. , who can accept it? On New Year\’s Eve in 2018, a 13-year-old Luo from Hunan brutally killed his parents. Both of them died from their injuries, and they never had time to catch the New Year\’s bell. …Every incident is shocking, and every child is in their youth. What makes them so heartless and vicious? Have our children gone bad? In fact, there is something wrong with the education of our parents. Shao and Wu were both raised by their mothers, and their fathers were away from home all year round. However, their mothers\’ education methods were very different, extreme and unreasonable. They either scolded or beat them, but their fathers were always absent. Looking back at the college students in Jinan, although his mother did not have a beating and scolding education, her doting also resulted in the same outcome. Children who have already gone to college, and their mother is still studying with them, how can they have a healthy mind? Whether it is love or education, one step is wrong and the other is wrong. All sayParents are their children\’s first teachers, but many parents do not give their children the correct education method, either doting or giving their children the education of tiger parents and wolf mothers. In the end, the child rebelled and went astray, and it was already too late. 1: Obedient education psychologist Wu Zhihong said: The philosophy of obedience is the core of many family education. In fact, it is true if you think about it carefully. Children are taught to be obedient when they are young, and some parents will scare their children: \”If you don\’t obey, let the monsters take you away.\” It seems that only obedient children will be praised. Although such children were docile and did not lose their temper when they were young, they can easily become rebellious after they enter adolescence. Many parents must understand that things must turn to their extremes. 2: Comparative education \”Look at other people\’s children, and then look at you!\” \”Why can\’t you do what others can do!\” \”Why are you so stupid and so poor, look at others! \”I believe many parents have said similar things. Whether it is when their children\’s grades decline or when they make mistakes, they like to compare their children with their friends\’ children. However, this kind of education method will make children deny themselves in their hearts, and they will doubt their abilities, which will also increase their resentment towards their parents. Most children who grow up under percussive education are mentally unhealthy. Because the person you love most doesn’t recognize them. 3: Talent cannot be achieved without beating. There was a time when the education method of \”tiger father and wolf mother\” was praised, saying that only beating can make children have long memories. However, in fact, many children are \”broken\” by \”beating\”. Children also have their own self-esteem. If they do something wrong and get beaten, they either don\’t dare to make mistakes, or they make mistakes frequently, because in their hearts they feel that the worst case scenario is just a beating, and it doesn\’t matter. Even in the child\’s heart, he no longer loves you, and he will not care about your feelings during the rebellious period. 4: Father\’s Absence: Children must grow up with their father\’s care and education. If father\’s love is absent, then the children will be uncontrolled. Mothers only guide their children, but fathers are their children\’s best mentors. Children also have their own thoughts and psychology. As parents, it is more important to set an example and teach them carefully so that they can have their own values ​​of right and wrong and understand right and wrong. No one wants to see the above tragedies again. Our children need us to protect them, and they need our care and education even more. I hope every parent can realize that their children’s education is not a matter of a day or two, but a lifetime matter.