Mother refuses to help take care of her child, young daughter’s words are thought-provoking

My parents made an important decision. My parents did many things for me. What touched me the most was their refusal to help me take care of my children. Growing up, my parents doted on me to an almost outrageous degree. Until one day, they made a solemn decision and woke me up from decades of princess dreams. My child was born, but I was very scared. I was 38 weeks pregnant at that time. On an ordinary night, my mother suddenly called my husband and me to the room and announced without leaving any room: Your father and I have decided to wait until you are pregnant. I won’t help you anymore. We both want to walk around and stay wherever we like. As for the children, we are getting older and our bodies can no longer bear it. You are the parents of the children, so you should think of your own solutions. I was completely unprepared to hear the sad news, and it took me several days to believe it was true. Then I fell into a deep fear, the kind of fear that a pampered house sparrow feels when he learns that he is about to be exiled. My mother-in-law died young and my father-in-law was seriously ill. My husband\’s parents could not be counted on at all. I didn\’t expect that at the moment when I needed help the most in my life, my parents who loved me so much would leave me alone. During that time, I complained to everyone I met, \”I can travel everywhere, but they won\’t help me.\” \”It\’s so selfish. Doesn\’t this force me to work full time? How could I do this to my daughter…\” My child is with me. was born in great fear. Perhaps I am the most selfish person in the world. During the whole month, I hardly showed a smile. Out of anger, I insisted on taking care of the child by myself from morning to night. The pain of cracked nipples, the poop and pee of a newborn, and the irritability of lack of sleep. Originally, I wanted to tire myself out in this almost masochistic way so that my parents would blame themselves, but as I got tired and tired, I somehow woke up. I asked myself soberly: What are you afraid of? Afraid of taking on the responsibilities that a mother should bear, afraid of becoming a mother in the true sense? What are you complaining about? Parents have no obligation to help you take care of your children. They have devoted their lives and never thought of asking for it, but you have made a big mistake for the only decision they made for themselves in this life. You who have never thought about how to contribute are the most selfish people in the world. Many unexpected things happened… I applied to my employer for extended maternity leave and started living as a full-time mother for one year. During this year, I rediscovered myself and discovered many unexpected abilities in myself. In the past, my work and rest habits were very poor. Because no one helped me take care of my children, I would go to bed at 9pm and wake up at 6am. The quality of my sleep has greatly improved, and I no longer suffer from idle worries. I used to have serious procrastination because there was no one to take care of my children, so I had to hurry up and wait for the children to go to bed to complete daily chores. A new and more efficient me was born. I used to be lazy until I took care of my children full-time. In order not to disconnect myself from society, I found every opportunity to endorse and answer questions, and passed the mid-level editorial title, which is of great significance to my career. In the past, I always thought my mother was making a fuss out of a molehill, but until I was raising a child alone, my son\’s minor cold became my top priority, because I knew that the people who could help might not be there for a while. I used to always think my dad was slow to walk, until I took care of my own children.Over and over again, I lifted my son who was learning to walk from the ground. I never thought about what my parents had done for me until I raised the children myself… My reflections after that time Although I have re-entered society, the huge energy that that time brought to me exceeded my expectations. The sum total of my previous life is still releasing burning positive energy on my parenting journey. Speaking of which, my parents have done many things for me, but what touched me the most was their refusal to help me take care of my children. Their decision made me grow into an adult, one who dares to face difficulties, dares to admit mistakes, and dares to take responsibility when problems arise. As parents, we really should let go appropriately. As parents, our appropriate and timely withdrawal is also a kind of love. On the one hand, the children have grown up and they need to face life on their own. We cannot take care of them all their lives. Exiting gracefully also creates free space for them. On the other hand, we have worked hard all our lives and we really should enjoy our lives. Let us take advantage of the time when our hands and feet are flexible and our bodies are still healthy to live out our own style and enjoy every day. Of course, exiting appropriately and letting go does not mean that you will no longer participate in your children\’s lives, but that you will keep a certain distance. We have our own lives, and our children have their own space. When we have difficulties, we can help appropriately, but we should not take over everything. After reading this article, I couldn\’t help but shed tears in my eyes. I envy the parents\’ choice, and I am relieved that the daughter is sensible. It’s really well said. It seems to be the true thoughts of many elderly parents, and I feel deeply about it! Remember to read it to your friends!