Liang Qichao: It is better to grow up with your children than to be poor and rich.

A nest of gold and silver is not as good as a nest of love, and a thousand good things are not as good as the hobbies of parents. From babbling to standing tall, every child\’s growth is a limited edition song. From being a parent for the first time to enduring hardships, every parent’s experience is also a treasured memory. It is better to be poor and rich than to grow up with your children. 1. There is no future for poor people. We have to admit that with the popularization of quality education, material conditions are playing an increasingly important role in the growth and learning process of children. Without a material foundation, children will not receive a good education and will not be able to broaden their horizons. The acquisition of knowledge requires not only books, but also their own personal experience. It is said that a poor man raises a son but a rich man raises a daughter. In fact, the poor man raising here does not mean to treat the children materially harshly, but means to let the children cherish and not waste. If a child grows up in poverty, his vision will become narrower and smaller. This is only one aspect. In addition, his psychology may also change. Children who grow up in poverty are more sensitive and introverted than ordinary children. I often feel inferior and timid when doing things. Children cannot be raised poor. You can teach your children the correct concept of consumption, and you can tell your children that their parents love them very much and that what they are currently providing is the best. But don’t cry about poverty to your children, and don’t plant the seeds of poverty in your children’s hearts. Don\’t tell your children that your family is worse than other people\’s families. Children are more sensitive than you think, and your words may remain in their hearts for a lifetime. Liang Qichao did a good job in this aspect. He sent his children abroad. Liang Qichao also faced great pressure in life, but the children needed to receive a better education and see the outside world, so Liang Qichao did his best. Try to fulfill children\’s wishes. 2. Pay attention to psychological enrichment. Enrichment is not about buying whatever the child says. Enrichment refers more to the spiritual level. Try to provide the best conditions for your children within your own capabilities, but also make your children aware of their parents\’ hard work and difficulties, so that they can be more considerate of their parents. Many second-generation rich people grew up in affluent families, but when they grew up, they turned out to be naughty and their character was worrisome. This does not mean that there is something wrong with the affluent family, but that their parents did not pay attention to the methods and methods during the process of affluent families. Many parents think that by providing the best material conditions for their children, they have fulfilled their parental responsibilities. In fact, this is a one-sided understanding of the word parent. Parents should not only care about their children\’s daily physical aspects such as food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also pay attention to their children\’s psychology. In the process of enrichment, parents cannot be the hands-off shopkeepers and leave the children\’s growth issues to the school and the children themselves. If you choose to let go at this time, society will teach you how to be a parent again later. When you provide your children with rich material conditions, don’t forget to provide them with equal love and companionship. Children without parental love are lonely. In a lonely atmosphere, children will be more eager for love. In order to attract the attention and companionship of others, Love can also do many seemingly crazy things. Although Liang Qichao always tried his best to meet the children\’s reasonable requirements, he was never ambiguous in the cultivation of their children\’s character. He taught the children to be diligent and thrifty, and taught them to be diligent and thrifty.He also mentioned many times in the letters written by the children that he hoped that the children would not pay too much attention to material enjoyment, but more importantly, they should learn skills well and have a good attitude. 3. Growth is mutual. Every child is a child for the first time, and every parent is a parent for the first time. There is mutuality between parents and children. Children feel love from their parents and grow up because of their parents\’ care. Parents, as for parents, continue to mature and become better adults while taking care of their children. Growth is mutual, children need to grow, and parents also need to grow. In this unknown growth process, we will always encounter new problems and new situations, but as long as our hearts are together, there is nothing we can\’t overcome. In the process of children\’s growth, parents should understand their children\’s difficulties, think about when they were children, regard their children as the shadow of their past youth, look at their children with an appreciative eye, and don\’t nag them all the time. I hate finding fault and can’t see the good in my own children. In the process of children\’s growth, parents may also make mistakes of this kind, but no one\’s parents are really supermen. They are all the most ordinary but greatest people. Maybe they have shortcomings and bad habits of this kind, learn to accept them, and understand their parents with tolerance and love. Growing up is a one-way street, but this process is not lonely because of the company of parents.