The 6 most heart-wrenching lines from Galaxy Tutorial, which tell you the best about being a parent

Have you gone to see the recently popular movie \”Galaxy Tutorial\”? This morning, I went. Sitting in the screening hall, I, a grown man, actually cried while watching it. This movie tells the story of Ma Fei, an astronaut who accidentally lost contact and recalled his \”most amazing father\” in the most desperate situation in his life. In the movie, Deng Chao plays the \”father\” Ma Haowen. Ma Haowen\’s educational philosophy seems absurd and incompatible with reality. Almost everyone is asking him, will you be a father? But the final result proved that he was right. Some netizens commented that the movie is Deng Chao\’s reenactment of his boyhood. Some netizens said that many details in it impressed them instantly. Yes, in this movie, you can see the ups and downs of life and the value of kindness and principles. You can also see how far a person can go. But in my opinion, this is still a movie about family education first and foremost. Just 6 lines in it can easily hit you and let you know how to be a parent correctly. There is no scarier excuse than \”for his own good.\” One detail in the movie is: Ma Haowen\’s ex-wife pulled her son to do all kinds of things he didn\’t want to do. When faced with Ma Haowen\’s questions, her answer was always, I am doing it for the good of my children. Ma Haowen asked her: \”You are good to yourself, why don\’t you scold yourself in the mirror for two hours every day.\” She fell silent for a while. \”For your own good\” is probably the most self-deceptive sentence in the world. Because the person who said this didn\’t know whether the result would be good or not. And in the name of doing good for the children, it is essentially a kind of kidnapping. Do you still remember the domestic violence news that was making waves on the Internet? The wife frequently commits violence against the children, but the husband remains indifferent. The reporter who came over asked, \”Do you know that this is illegal?\” They replied, my starting point is to let my children become talents. However, you have never considered the child\’s feelings or the objective effects of your actions. The book \”Emotional Blackmail\” says: A bad relationship is an emotional blackmailer who violates the other person\’s self-integrity. If you are truly good to your children, don\’t be one-dimensionally coercive. Instead, you should do something and not do something. Repairing your own bridge is the greatest thing in the world. The father in the film, Ma Haowen, is a tragic figure. Because of the sudden collapse of the bridge, he changed from a star designer to a criminal. While serving his sentence, his wife divorced him. After he was released from prison, he became a street rat and was disliked by everyone. But he relied on his professional ability to afford his son\’s life. With his indomitable spirit, he finally vindicated himself. The son didn\’t understand, so he replied, \”Repairing your own bridge, in my opinion, is the biggest thing in the world.\” The world is inherently unfair, and the harder you work, the more different you will be. Once you build your own bridge and strengthen yourself, you will have the strength and courage to fight against the outside world. A few days ago, a Tsinghua University girl’s graduation speech broke the internet. It was the first time she went to the provincial capital to participate in a physics competition experiment, and she had never even seen the instruments used in the competition. When she finally found the switch, it was time for the experiment. But even in such an environment, she still relied on her own efforts to get into Tsinghua University. fatherhoodMother, what you need to do most is not to give your child a good environment, but to give him the strength and belief to fight against the world. You are the smartest kid on this earth. The change of Ma Haowen\’s son Ma Fei is the biggest highlight in the movie. In the first half of the movie, Ma Fei is an out-and-out \”scumbag\”. His grades were at the bottom of the class. The dean of the school satirized him, \”No matter how hard you wash the coal briquettes, they will never turn into diamonds.\” Even Ma Fei himself felt that he was stupid and on the verge of giving up. But Ma Haowen always encouraged him, \”You are the smartest child on this earth.\” The final result was that Ma Fei achieved a great reversal in his performance and a smooth life. It is difficult for us to say that the sentence \”You are the smartest child on this earth\” has influenced the direction of Ma Fei\’s life. But this sentence must have given Ma Fei confidence in despair, and made him cherish his preciousness when he was confused. Then, love what I love, do what I do, listen to my heart, and don’t ask about east or west. Writer Mingzhu Xuyu said: The most failed family education is to have a mother who takes care of everything and a father who doesn’t care about anything. Please remember that there are never children born with failures, there are only failed parents and education methods. Life is like archery, and dreams are like targets. What\’s the point of drawing the bow every day if you can\’t even find the target? What is enough to support this line is the story that happened to the dean in the movie. On the one hand, he is an extremely strict teacher in the school and cannot tolerate any students with poor grades; on the other hand, his adopted son was once the top scorer in the provincial college entrance examination, but later became mentally disturbed due to an ordinary setback. You heard it right, but ordinary setbacks became the last straw that broke the champion\’s spirit. There are actually not many similar things. When I was still in the media, I reported on a county college entrance examination winner who was admitted to a prestigious school. After graduation, he failed to find a satisfactory job, so he became addicted to the Internet and wandered around. You will never imagine how they ruined a good hand. But the reality is like this. What trips them up is not a pair of shoes that are too big, but the sand in the shoes. Tsinghua University, Peking University, or even number one, has never been the goal. The real problems in life will not automatically jump out of the four options ABCD like the test paper, but will require efforts to adapt to society. Don\’t always force your children to rush, but also look up at the sky and tell them what the real target of their dreams is. Children have a magical receptor that can know whether you really love them. In the whole movie, this line was the one that resonated with me the most. Yes, don’t think that what you do is independent, children can actually feel it. How you are is what your child will be like. Your three views will be contagious to each other, and you will teach your children by words and deeds. A few months ago, I had a fight with my wife and I dropped a book at home. Unexpectedly, last month, our 2-year-old son suddenly dropped things at home because we did not agree to his request. They cannot learn yet, but they can imitate. On Zhihu, there is a question and answer that has been quoted countless times. The question is: How much influence do parents have on the formation of their children’s outlook on life? A thumbs up answer belowThe case is: When I was in my 20s, I suddenly discovered that the content, tone, and demeanor of my complaints were exactly the same as those of my family. In the movie, because Ma Haowen never gives up easily and works hard to make progress, his son Ma Fei gradually becomes a person like him. Good family education has always been about parents’ precepts and deeds, using your correct outlook on life to influence your children. Sorry, Dad is also a father for the first time. When Ma Haowen said this line, I saw the middle-aged man sitting next to me shed tears. My eyes are also moist. Ma Haowen\’s apologetic words are self-blame for his incompetence. Being in jail, with a low income, and having too many things, he could not pay more for his son Ma Fei. However, there are no perfect parents in this world. When you are a child, you always feel that your parents are too ordinary. You have too many expectations that they can’t meet. You have too many requests and they always pass them by. And when you finally become a parent, you will find that balancing career and family is too difficult. Not only do you have to work hard to make money, but you also have to take care of your children in every detail. We must seize every penny in our hands, but we must not wrong our children. There have been countless tsunamis in your heart, but you never wanted your family to know. You always blame yourself for not doing enough, not expressing yourself well, and not being able to give your children the best, but you have done your best. Sorry, parents are also first-time parents. But we are willing to grow with you and achieve mutual success. My child, please be patient. At the end of the movie, Ma Fei finally returned to Earth after going through many hardships. Waiting for him were countless cheering crowds, a heroic coronation for him. Also walking towards him was his white-haired father, Ma Haowen. After going through the ups and downs of the world, through the filter of time, and through the empathy of experiencing a desperate situation together, they finally understood each other. Of course, this is still an idealistic film. The change of many things requires a process; the correction of many concepts requires proof again and again. But the enlightenment significance of the movie on reality can be seen. Some people say that parents are also hierarchical. Parents at the lowest level are those who leave their children alone. Parents at a higher level only dote on their children and eventually turn them into useless people. Parents at a higher level are too strict with their children and never take into account their children\’s specific feelings. Parents at the highest level follow the laws of education, cultivate their children\’s correct outlook on life, and influence each other with their children. What floor are you on? The father and son in the movie \”Galaxy Tutorial\”, Ma Haowen and Ma Fei, have reached the highest level. And you, don’t be the parent who only wants to do good for your children, and don’t be the parent who is too obedient. You should be like Ma Haowen in the movie, a somewhat \”inexplicable\” and somewhat \”ridiculous\” parent. You should start with companionship, be loyal to education, and be shaped by three views. You should go up level by level.