To parents: Never expect your children to be “conscious” on the road to education.

In the process of growth and learning, do children rely on conscious self-discipline, or do they rely on parental discipline and supervision? In fact, many parents have thought about this issue more or less in the process of educating their children. In my opinion, the reason why a child is a child is that he lacks consciousness. Therefore, on the road of education, parents should never simply expect their children to be \”conscious\”! In family education, don’t expect your children to be conscious. Parents often say: “My kid is always doing things unconsciously, so I have to supervise him in everything.” Recently, my best friend is often worried about educating her son. She always follows He complained: \”My son\’s self-consciousness is really bad. I have to keep an eye on him all the time.\” Take the matter of eating ice cream as an example. I had already eaten one ice cream in the morning and promised not to eat it again within a day. Will eat again. Unexpectedly, I saw him hiding in his room secretly eating ice cream again in the afternoon, thinking that his parents would not be discovered if he hid. I told her that on the road of educating children, never expect them to be self-conscious. In the past, I also thought that my child should be left alone so that she would have more freedom to do what she wanted to do. However, I later discovered that it is a long process to educate an excellent and self-conscious child. When a child is still young, parents must not expect him to be conscious. If you do not restrain your child, it will only make him indulge himself more and more. The reason why some children are \”unconscious\” is because of their \”laziness\”, and this \”laziness\” comes directly from the parents themselves. I have a good friend whose son just entered the first grade. Her son refused to go to school, so she would ask for leave for him or negotiate various conditions with him so that he could go to school obediently. I told her: \”Your kind of education won\’t work. After your children learn to negotiate terms with you, they won\’t be self-conscious and won\’t listen to you.\” She said there was nothing she could do. She was used to being spoiled when she was a child, but now the older she gets, the more disobedient she becomes. Now, he doesn\’t realize it, so I can only coax him in various ways. I believe that if she keeps educating her child in this way, he will become more unconscious and do whatever he wants in the future. There is a saying that I have always recognized: good children are brought out by management, and naughty children are brought out by spoiling them. It is very simple to raise a naughty child. From love to doting, if the child is pampered and indulged for a long time, he will become a naughty child. And if you want to raise an excellent child, it is also very simple, then you must give him just the right amount of control! Parents who are far-sighted will be a little cruel. Parents who are truly far-sighted will not expect their children to be self-conscious when educating their children. Jay Chou, the king of Chinese pop music, once revealed in a program the bitter history of being forced to learn piano by his mother when he was a child. Jay Chou started learning piano at the age of 4, and was asked by his mother to practice for 2 hours a day. As a child, he was so active that he couldn\’t sit still at all, so his mother Ye Huimei would hold a cane and sit silently to supervise him. Whenever he hears the sounds of other children playing and playing games outside the window, Jay Chou feels particularly sad. Jay Chou even complained to his mother: \”Why do I want to learn piano while everyone else is playing?\” However, his mother still would not relax her demands on him and forced him to practice the piano with a cane, so he could only continue to practice. Jay Chou after becoming famous, thank you very muchMom’s hard work. It is precisely because of his mother\’s high demands that Jay Chou has a place in the Chinese music scene with his musical talent. In \”The Longing for Life\”, Liu Xianhua also revealed his experience of being forced by his parents to learn to play the violin. When he was a child, he was not willing to learn at all. It was not until he participated in a competition when he was eleven or twelve years old that he started to like playing the violin. Angelababy, who was standing by, saw that Liu Xianhua could play the violin so well, and asked Liu Xianhua: \”Then do you feel grateful to your parents now?\” Liu Xianhua said, \”Thank you very, very much.\” Finally, Angelababy sighed and said: \” Why didn\’t anyone force me in the first place?\” Parents who are truly far-sighted will inevitably be a little ruthless when educating their children. When children are young, if parents do not force them, they will miss the best opportunity to learn. After all, everyone only has one life and cannot do it again. There is no point in regretting after missing it. Therefore, when a child is not very self-conscious and cannot take the initiative to learn, parents must strictly supervise the child so that he can become a talent! The sooner children\’s consciousness is cultivated, the better. As soon as the results of this year\’s college entrance examination were released, Guangxi\’s science champion Yang Chenyu immediately became popular. He scored 140 points in Chinese, 150 points in mathematics, 150 points in English, 290 points in comprehensive science, and a total score of 730, breaking the record for the highest total score in science in Guangxi since the resumption of the college entrance examination. Talking about her son’s high scores and winning the title of science champion, Yang Chenyu’s mother said bluntly: “I thought he would do well in the exam, but I didn’t expect him to do so well.” Talking about her experience in raising children, Yang Chenyu’s mother said: “You must do well in the exam. When a child does not have the ability to think independently, supervision will form a habit, but once it is established, the road ahead will be easier. We usually only take care of his logistical work, and leave his schoolwork to the teacher, so we will not disturb him. .\” I very much agree with Yang\’s mother\’s educational concept. When children do not have the ability to think independently, parents must do a good job of supervision and cultivate good study habits in their children. Yang’s mother also mentioned that the process of supervising children’s habit development is very painful, and that they should be monitored and paid attention to at all times. Moreover, during the supervision process, parents themselves must also be self-disciplined and cannot let their children learn to play with their mobile phones while themselves. In the final analysis, when parents cultivate their children\’s consciousness, they must first set an example and set a good example for their children to learn from. With a mother who is so good at educating her children, it is no wonder that Yang Chenyu stood out among many candidates and became the top scorer in the college entrance examination. If Yang’s mother hadn’t forced him when he couldn’t study consciously and supervised him to develop various good study habits, he wouldn’t be where he is now. The earlier the child\’s consciousness is cultivated, the better, because the establishment of consciousness is a long and complicated process. Before this, children cannot learn consciously and must be accompanied, supervised and controlled by adults. If a child lives in an environment without any coercion, he will never grow up and cannot withstand any setbacks. On the contrary, if you cultivate your child\’s good habit of conscious learning from an early age, he will also become what everyone calls \”other people\’s children.\” As a parent, once you seeWhen a child\’s behavior goes beyond the norm, he must point it out in time and correct it, otherwise he will make the same mistake again and again. Sometimes, a child needs appropriate coercion. This coercion is not to oppress him, but to help him overcome difficulties and make him stronger when his will is weak. There is a saying that goes well: Parental discipline is the foundation, and children’s self-awareness and self-discipline is the goal. If you lay a solid foundation, you will not be afraid of the earth shaking. On the road to education, never just expect children to be self-aware and self-disciplined, parents still have to play a supervisory role! 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