If parents do these three behaviors of doting on their children, the children will definitely have no future!

There is an old saying in China, \”Parents love their children for their own purposes.\” Parents\’ love for their children should be free and tolerant. However, doting brings more restrictions to children, hindering their personality development, and ultimately makes children grow into weak-willed and selfish people. In life, many parents cannot distinguish the difference between love and doting. Chenma reminds: When parents have the following three behaviors, they are doting on their children, so be careful. Everything is satisfying for children. As the material conditions of modern families are getting better and better, many parents are almost always responsive to their children\’s needs: if their children like a new pair of sports shoes, the parents will \”buy\” them; other people\’s mobile phone models are better than mine. It’s new and has more powerful functions than mine, so parents “switch”; my classmates have gone abroad to travel and summer camps during the summer vacation, and parents “go”;… Whenever their children make requests, parents never consider whether their children really have these needs behind them. , I just feel that even though other people’s families have children, our family cannot fall behind, and we are willing to be frugal, miserable and tired. As a result, a family that was not originally wealthy has raised a \”rich second generation\” who spends lavishly. Some parents even feel that they are too busy at work and cannot always accompany their children, so they regard satisfying their children\’s requirements as a kind of compensation for their children, and they will satisfy them one by one no matter what the children ask for. As everyone knows, children who are satisfied with everything will become self-centered in the long run. If they are not satisfied at all, they will lose their temper and complain that their parents do not satisfy them in everything. Chen\’s mother saw this news on the Internet: A 12-year-old boy broke something in a teahouse and asked his mother to compensate him. Her mother just gave him a few words of education. As a result, the little boy grabbed his mother\’s neck severely and beat her in front of everyone. It is not difficult to imagine how much parents would dote on their children before they would let their children do something to their mother in public. A child who has been doted on for a long time is bound to lack the ability to be independent and take his parents\’ efforts for granted, which will only lead to intensified demands and comparisons, and finally become a selfish \”white-eyed wolf\”. Reluctant to let children suffer Schopenhauer said: \”Life is pain, and we can convert pain into happiness.\” Effort is the process of transformation, although in this process, we may feel more difficult. If children don\’t endure hardship, how can they learn the ability to turn pain into happiness? Parents who are not willing to let their children endure hardship are actually stifling their children\’s ability to survive and adapt in society in the future. Japan\’s NHK TV station recently reported this news: A 56-year-old man was unemployed for a long time because he failed to study as a teenager and had trouble finding a job. He relied on his parents to support him all year round. Later, after his father got cancer and his mother suffered from cognitive impairment and passed away one after another, the man finally died in a cold home after eating up the last meager pension of his parents. The cause of death was long-term malnutrition… A man with hands and hands The adult man with weak legs had been living at home for 30 years, and he eventually starved to death at home, which is simply embarrassing. I once saw such a fable in Chenchen’s storybook: A high-quality stone wasThe sculptor chose this stone to make a Buddha statue, but it turned out that the stone was very painful, so the sculptor had to give up carving it and use it as an ordinary paving stone. The sculptor found another stone. This stone knew that its qualifications were mediocre, and the only way to get rid of the fate of becoming a paving stone was to endure the pain of carving. In the end, this stone was carved into a beautiful Buddha statue, which was respected by people. The truth of this story is very simple. Even Chenchen, who has just entered kindergarten, knows: only those who can endure hardship and are not afraid of pain can have a better life. Looking back at our real life, how many parents are afraid that their children will suffer hardship and be burdened, and treat their children like flowers in a greenhouse since childhood. When the children finally enter the society, they will not be able to bear any blow and will ultimately achieve nothing. The more parents love and care for their children, the more willing they are to let them endure hardship. The hardships he endures today will eventually pave the way for a better journey tomorrow. Blindly Covering Their Children\’s Mistakes Many parents like to use \”the child is still young\” and \”the child is not sensible\” as excuses to blindly cover their children\’s mistakes. But they don’t know that spoiling a child is like killing a child. Every indulgence of parents is equivalent to building a wall of confinement for their children. There is such news on the Internet: A 31-year-old man was caught using a fake driver\’s license. According to relevant regulations, the traffic police imposed a fine of 5,000 yuan and administrative detention for 15 days. Regarding this, his parents were extremely emotional: \”You have gone too far. He is still a child, only 31 years old! Why do you punish him so severely?\” He is still a child at 31 years old? The policemen at the scene were stunned when they heard this! Although it is said that no matter how old a child is, they will always be children in the eyes of their parents. However, this 31-year-old adult man did not \”stand up at thirty\”. Instead, under the \”protection\” of his parents, he gradually embarked on the path of making mistakes despite repeated admonitions. . It is reported that the man was once detained and his driver\’s license was revoked for traffic accidents. However, he still did not repent and relied on his parents\’ favor to go his own way. There is no child in this world who does not make mistakes while growing up. When a child makes a small mistake and the parents do not pay attention to it and choose to protect the child, the child will eventually be taught lessons from society and punished by the law. Qian Wenzhong, a professor at Fudan University, once said: Today’s children, the cost of making mistakes is too low. We must tell children that they must pay the price if they make mistakes. If we continue to allow an atmosphere in which parents make concessions to their children, it will be terrible for their children in the future, and our future will be terrible. Parents\’ true love for their children should be to have requirements, constraints, and rules for their children\’s behavior, and to educate and guide them with love for their children. It is about letting children learn to be content and grateful, helping them establish a correct view of money, and letting them know how to do everything according to their ability; it is about letting children know how to let go, being willing to let children endure hardship, and letting children grow on their own, rather than creating a greenhouse to slowly raise children. Abolition; it is necessary to first teach children to face mistakes, have the courage to take responsibility, and teach children to distinguish right from wrong. Doting is not beneficial to a child\’s character or life. If you have the above three behaviors of doting on your children, you must correct them in time. Don\’t delay your child\’s life because of your temporary softness!