Behind every successful child, there is a pair of \”cruel\” parents

Most \”Chinese-style families\” have loving mothers and strict fathers. Behind every child\’s growth, there may be a father holding a long whip. Parents may not all hope that their children will become successful, but everyone hopes that their children will one day grow into a mature and independent adult and live the life they want. But if you want to live a life you really like, it\’s very expensive. In the movie \”Dangal!\” In \”Dad\”, the protagonist\’s two daughters, Geeta and Babita, under the strict education of their father, went from resistance and rejection at the beginning to love, and finally stood on the stage of the Olympic Games. After watching the movie, many people criticized what their father Mahavira did. When his two daughters rejected, resisted, and rejected him, he didn\’t hesitate at all: Run, keep running, keep running! The two daughters eventually embarked on a path of self-actualization, all thanks to their dad. He masters technology, physical fitness, and has tactical and psychological training. More importantly, he understands that on the road to educational growth, there is no happiness at all, and perseverance is everything. Parents’ expectations are the continuation of dreams. Mahavira was once a wrestler and has always had a dream in his heart, which is to win a world championship gold medal for India. But due to the pressure of survival, he had to give up this dream temporarily. But this dream has always been lingering in his mind. After marriage, he pinned this dream on his children. Unexpectedly, in a twist of fate, Mahavira\’s wife finally gave birth to four daughters one after another. Just when he was about to accept the reality, an accidental incident made him discover that his two daughters, Gita and Babita, had the talent for wrestling. One day, the two of them beat the boy until his face was bruised and bruised. So, Mahavira started devil training for his two daughters: getting up before 5 o\’clock every day, practicing until the sun goes down, not allowing them to eat high-calorie snacks, and ruthlessly cutting off their long hair…see At this point, Mahavira\’s approach is very similar to those parents who are \”fearful that their children will lose at the starting line and force them to attend various training classes.\” Decisions are made in the name of \”for your own good\” without any regard for what your children think. Facing their domineering father, the sisters also resisted, trying every means to avoid training, tampering with their father\’s alarm clock, and pretending to be injured while running. Once, the sisters finally escaped from training and secretly attended their friend\’s wedding. When they were talking about their bitterness with the bride, the bride cried and said that she was envious of having such a father. Because the bride\’s father only asked her to do housework since she was a child, and as soon as she turned 14, he hurriedly married her off to a man she had never met. Then she was trapped in the kitchen and with her children, and she lived a life with one eye on her. At this time, the two sisters realized that their father\’s actions had actually been \”saving\” them. For the future of their daughters, they would not be like their neighbors, trapped in heavy housework and hopeless throughout their lives. Before my father decided to train the two sisters to wrestle, my mother had such worries: My mother said, \”What if they are injured?\” My father said, \”Then heal them.\” My mother asked, \”What if people in the village gossip?\” What to do?\” The father said, \”Don\’t worry about them.\” The mother asked, \”Who will marry our daughters in the future?\” The father said, \”I trained them.If they are sexually active, they have the right to choose their own husbands. \”The attitudes of the two sisters changed from resistance to acceptance. The beautiful road is always full of thorns, and the children will always avoid the hardships. At this point, as a child without the ability to judge, parents cannot let him choose on his own. . The only person who can provide guidance and guidance is the parents themselves. Parents are cruel because they want to protect their children’s future. In \”Deliberate Practice\”, the author studied the childhoods of many outstanding figures in different fields and industries. It was found that these outstanding figures were When they were children, their parents tried every means to prevent them from giving up halfway. Parents love their children deeply, so if they are harsher now, they will be sweeter in the future. Behind every successful child, there is a To the \”cruel\” parents. After practicing day after day, the eldest daughter Gita finally became an excellent wrestler. She needed a stage and everyone\’s recognition. So Mahavira avenged his daughter. After becoming famous, the news of women participating in the wrestling match spread throughout the village. On the day of the match, the whole village came to watch this \”good show\”. Facing a row of strong male opponents opposite, Gita did not start from the easiest The player who broke through started, but the strongest player was selected from the beginning. The courage to move forward and the attack without showing weakness made the surrounding audience cheer and cheer for Gita. In the end, Gita lost to his opponent and won the Second place. Coincidentally, there are many examples in real life of \”ruthlessness\” leading to success. In his autobiography \”Journey of Thousand Miles, My Story\”, Lang Lang recorded how his father forced him to practice piano: At first , I would practice piano after dinner until seven o\’clock, then to eight o\’clock, then to nine o\’clock, ten o\’clock or even eleven o\’clock. The walls of the apartment building were very thin, and the neighbors around me, and even the neighbors in the gatehouse next door, began to complain. ! Some people even threatened to break his hands if he continued practicing. But his father calmly replied: \”I will call the police!\” Ignore them and continue practicing! After his success, Lang Lang recalled: \”It was a cruel time, but without my father\’s persecution, maybe I wouldn\’t be where I am today.\” \”Gita eventually fell in love with wrestling, and Lang Lang also enjoyed playing. For children, what achieves something is never to do it well only if you are interested, but to be interested only if you do it well. The true meaning of good education , there is someone who guides you to choose a certain path, and then gradually discover the fun in it and enjoy the success it brings. The vision of parents is to give their children the best love. After emerging in the game, Mahavir did not stop there, he He taught Gita indoor wrestling again and successfully sent her to the national championship. When Gita returned to the village surrounded by flowers and crowds, her life was completely different from that of the married women in the cloister. Later, Gita went to college, received new training, met more opponents, and moved towards a broader world step by step. The night before the final, Gita asked her father: \”What is the strategy for tomorrow?\” Dad said: \”Tomorrow\’s strategy is to win.\” If you only get a silver medal, you will be forgotten soon, but a gold medal will be remembered and become an example. Look at the girls over there, it’s not for you, you’re for girls like themchild. For the sake of those women who have to live with pots and pans for the rest of their lives, tell those women who think women are inferior to men, you can win. \”This is also the meaning of education. You must fight alone and defeat yourself before you can save yourself. At the last critical moment, Gita relied on the movements taught to her by her father, threw her over the shoulder, and then completed the final victory. The father, who was locked up in a dark room by his coach, heard the Indian national anthem being played and knew that Geeta had done it. There is a lyric in the interlude of the film: The world is full of illusions, only pain never lies. No matter when, Everyone needs to be equipped with a certain share of anxiety, worry, or hardship, just like a ship needs a certain amount of ballast in order to navigate a straight and stable route. Some people say that the biggest regret in life is: there is no such thing as In my happy childhood, I didn’t have a single skill. Looking back at the past, it was chaos. Looking forward to the future, it was unclear and I didn’t know where I was going. When you love your children, don’t just be satisfied with the cheap happiness in front of you, but “force” your children to practice Just one skill gives them the capital to fight against the ups and downs of life. The above is all we have shared.