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How can we stimulate children\’s inner motivation to learn? I think parents can make some attempts from these aspects. How can children get into a good school? What should parents do? Children love to play, chase celebrities, play with mobile phones, and beat kings, but they don’t like to study. What should they do if their parents have to push them forward? Let the child study hard. Even if his words are worn out, he still goes his own way. What should we do with this child? We all know that there are many types of families, and there is no one size fits all, and there is no master key. We cannot judge children based on whether they can get into key schools. However, there is one thing that all parents should spend their energy on, which is to stimulate their children\’s inner motivation to learn. We have seen many reports that children are tired of studying, tearing up books and burning them after exams, etc. These are the most tragic things. So, how can we stimulate children\’s inner motivation to learn? I think parents can make some attempts from these aspects. Let children understand why they need to study. Once I went to a school and asked the students in the first grade of junior high school: Why should they study? Some answered \”for my mother\” and some answered \”for the Education Bureau\”. His parents told him that the competition is so fierce and he must study hard. Only by studying hard can he go to a good university, graduate and have a good job, and only by having a good job can he live a good life. The child asked what constitutes a good life? My parents said that I probably have a house and a car. The child said that he now has a house and a car. Therefore, Chinese people never know what a good life is. It is probably a life that is better than that of their neighbors. There are 4 questions in the minds of children of this age. If you overcome these 4 questions, the child will have a very strong motivation to learn – 1. What is the meaning of learning? Reading is meaningless, sometimes it just means being strong without desire. You tell your children, there are people and animals on earth, what kind of life do cats live? How cats lived a thousand years ago is still how they live now, but people are different. People live a creative life, because people can learn. Nature has given people the brain for learning, and classroom learning is a narrow part. It’s okay if you don’t study. It’s the same as cats and dogs coming into this world. 2. What is the use of learning? Classroom learning is training your thinking. How can you tell when your thinking has been trained to a high level? If you go to the countryside, find an old woman about my age and ask the same question, you will see the difference. I know trigonometric functions, analytical geometry, and the relationship between variables. If these two old ladies asked you to take one back with you, which one would you take? 3. It’s not that I don’t want to learn, but studying is too hard. What should I do? My child, suffering is emotion, and feelings are caused by thoughts, not things. What needs to be changed is the thinking. For example, someone invites you to have a meal with a monk, and the table is full of vegetables. The monk took a look and felt that this man respected me too much. When you look at it, what do you mean, treat me to a meal full of vegetables. Two people react differently to the same thing just because they have different ideas. Human beings are different from animals. If they work hard, they will be rewarded, and humans will have fun. Nothing embodies the rewards of hard work better than classroom learning. This is the joy of human beings. 4. So-and-so did not graduate from elementary school, and nowNow you\’re a billionaire, how do you say that? Getting rich is determined by characteristics. The first is investment courage. The second is strong action. The third is to be able to divide 400,000 if you earn one million. There are more people who have not graduated from elementary school and are living a very hard life. Humans have two parts of enjoyment, material and spiritual, while animals only have material enjoyment. Parents should not put utilitarian things on their children. Parents should communicate with their children \”why they need to study and what is the purpose of learning.\” I think a person\’s learning should not be limited to textbooks, life is the best school. We all have this experience: – Go hiking, if you are very interested in natural science, then you must have a deeper feel for nature than others; – Go to the ocean park, if you know the habits of marine animals very well, then you must More interested than others; – Go to a history museum, if you lack understanding of this period of history, and seeing those artifacts (artifacts) will not arouse much interest, you are just here for the children; – Go traveling to see ancient buildings, if you don’t have Without the background knowledge of building this building, this building can only become a souvenir of your visit here. If you think the world is fascinating, your children will think the same because passion is contagious. Parents should help their children establish the concept that you are not a test machine, and you are not studying for your parents. You study to explore this wonderful world and make your life more colorful; you study to increase your wisdom and explore your unique personality and life value, thereby making your life more meaningful and happy; You learn to better use your strengths and talents to help others. Tell your children during the chat that the learning process is a process of continuous self-exploration. You will gradually understand what you like, what you are good at, what you don’t like and what you are not good at; you will learn some knowledge and skills, so that you can have more knowledge in the future. Choice, do what interests you. For your children, you only need to put forward three requirements: 1. You must work hard and sum up your experience, but don’t care too much about test scores. 2. In today\’s era when knowledge updates so quickly, how you learn is more important than what you learn from books. I hope you can learn various abilities, such as time management ability, learning methods that suit you, the ability to analyze and solve problems, the ability to think independently, the ability to find resources and self-study, etc. 3. I hope you are curious about the world, want to explore the unknown of the world, have a strong thirst for knowledge, and have a lifelong love of learning. I hope you can find one or two subjects in school that you are very interested in. I hope you can get into it and even use your spare time to read more relevant information online. I hope that when you ask the teacher a question, the teacher may not be able to answer it immediately, but will say, \”Well, that\’s a good question! I have to think about it and then answer you.\” Learning is not equal to book knowledge, nor is it equal to academic performance. Book knowledge is only a part of learning, and life is the best and largest campus. Parents should not take over everything, learn to let go. I used to take students to the countryside to learn farming and saw children picking apples in the orchard. The children were jumping and picking them from the treesWhen eating apples, sometimes they rinse them with water, sometimes they don\’t even wash them, and they just eat the apples after wiping the skin. Look at how these children usually eat fruit at home. The parents have peeled the apples, cut them into slices, placed them in the fruit plate, inserted the toothpicks, and handed them to their hands. The children still look like they are too lazy to eat. . This is what we call \”the apple picked in one hop\”. The same goes for children\’s learning. Parents should set expectations for their children at an appropriate level. Don\’t do everything, just give the \”apple\” directly to the child, otherwise the child will not be interested. For example, children who work too hard, procrastinate, do not take their homework seriously, or fail to complete their homework are often related to the following behaviors of many parents: paying too much attention to their children\’s learning results; worrying about their children\’s future development; being too involved in the children\’s responsibilities. Category (for example, parents ask their children to start doing homework over and over again, then sit next to the child to supervise, and finally help the child check the homework question by question, requiring the child to correct each question correctly). The result is that every homework handed in gets full marks or high marks, but can you say that it is a child\’s homework? When you take the child\’s responsibility as your own, the child will think that learning is for their parents and that learning is not their responsibility. The child will show procrastination in doing homework, being absent-minded, and not wanting to complete the homework. Poor handwriting, incorrect grammar, incorrect spelling, sometimes forgetting to do homework, or leaving homework at home, and sometimes going home with not-so-good grades in exams. This is a normal thing and is part of a child’s growth process. inevitable experience. If parents become angry, complain, urge and scold, they will not only consume their children\’s energy in dealing with the negative emotions caused by these, but will also deepen their boredom and fear of learning and hinder their sense of responsibility and initiative in learning. development, the consequences of which are much more serious than the child\’s initial \”trouble\”. What parents have to do is to clearly tell their children that learning is your responsibility, not your parents’ responsibility; you study for yourself, not for your parents. Establish boundaries: For example, when the winter vacation homework should be completed, it must be completed by oneself, what the completion effect should be, who can ask for help if there are difficulties during the completion process, etc. Gradually let go and allow children to take responsibility: including the consequences they will bear after school starts if they fail to complete their homework, and the criticism they will bear if the homework error rate is high, etc. Parents can also make other agreements with their children. After the rules are set, parents only need to remind them occasionally: Have you done your homework? Tell your child that if he needs help in any subject, he can tell me and we will find a solution together. As long as he knows how to organize his time, knows his priorities, don\’t get too involved, and just praise him for his good time management sometimes. Some parents like to compare. Why are other people\’s children so smart? I am number one, what about you? In this way, the child gradually forms the mental stereotype of \”I am stupider than others\”, and even develops the resistance of \”Mom likes others\”. Don\’t compare, base it on your own child\’s actual situation. If your child can jump 1.2 meters now, then 1.3 meters is a more appropriate goal. Don’t ask yourself just because other children can jump 1.5 meters.My own children must also jump that high. Don\’t force your children to study just for your own sake. Reading under pressure is not good. Let your children feel a sense of responsibility and achievement. Parents have always been a hindrance to their children\’s growth, especially parents of only children, but you don\’t realize it yourself. Many problems of only children are due to their parents not allowing them to grow up. What is the highest sign of growing up? It\’s a choice. Theoretically, children aged 0-6 years old are controlled by their parents; children aged 6-12 years old are jointly controlled; after the age of 12 years old, the children control themselves. But is this possible in China? I think a 30-year-old son is controlled by a 60-year-old mother. How is it possible to cultivate children with a sense of responsibility for learning in this way? 1. Be in the same trench with your children. When a child experiences natural consequences and realizes that his original choice was unwise, our attitude should not be to gloat and add insult to injury by scolding the child, \”Look, look, I told you, but you just didn\’t listen. Now you know you were wrong.\” ?\” Instead, it should be an encouraging attitude, \”Child, it\’s okay. Mom (father) also did a lot of wrong things when she was a child. Every time you learn, you gain wisdom. This is how children grow up.\” 2. Stimulate children’s internal motivation. I firmly believe that every child is born with positive seeds. As long as parents provide high-quality companionship, care, appreciation, listening and encouragement to their children, conditions will be created for this seed to thrive, and the child\’s internal motivation will be controlled. inspired. Of course, give your child the time they need to make progress. 3. Accept your child’s imperfections. In the short term, children under constant supervision may perform better than children after parents let go. This is why many parents are afraid to let go. But a child\’s performance under parental supervision comes from external control, not from inner strength. In the long run, the inner strength will be stronger and more lasting. After all, we can only accompany our children for a certain period of time. The rest of the way requires the children to have the internal motivation to go on. Therefore, we must accept the \”dissatisfaction\” shown by the children as they grow up. Perfect\”. As long as we change our attitudes and methods, many of our children\’s \”problems\” will also improve. I often hear parents complain that their children who are already in high school are not very responsible for their own affairs. This may be because the parents took over too much responsibility when the children were young, or perhaps the parents have too high expectations for their children in terms of \”responsibility\”. 4. Let children feel a sense of accomplishment. Why do I like mathematics? When I was in middle school, I was the first in the class to solve a difficult problem assigned by the teacher. The teacher ran over from the podium, touched my head and asked, \”Do you feel better now than after eating a piece of candy?\” Still happy? I say yes. From then on, I fell in love with mathematics and thought that I was good at mathematics. That’s the magic of encouragement and a sense of accomplishment. I believe that after a period of communication and running-in, the child will grow rapidly. Let’s work hard together!