We must teach our children: not taking advantage is education, and dealing with favors is cultivation.

From a young age, my mother will teach her children not to take other people\’s things casually, because when you grow up, you will understand that you have to pay back any favors you owe. Education is the best gift parents can give their children. Today I would like to share some short stories with you and talk about issues of courtesy and human cultivation. I remember once taking the high-speed train to Zhengzhou, I brought some biscuits with me, and the packaging was nice. When I was eating happily, I noticed a little girl in the aisle staring at the biscuit in my hand with a longing look on her face. I was amused by her appearance, so I took a bag and said, \”Little sister, take it and eat it.\” She had already reached out to me, but in the end she retracted her hand, and the expression on her face changed again and again, as if she was doing something. It was a fierce psychological struggle. He said to me: \”Mom said you can\’t just take other people\’s things. Brother, I don\’t want it anymore.\” I said: \”Then you say thank you to me. After you say thank you, you don\’t just take it.\” The little girl said to me sweetly. He said thank you, took my biscuits, and ran away happily. Not long after, the little girl came back with a big apple in her hand and said to me: \”Brother, eat the apple.\” I said: \”Brother won\’t eat it, but brother thank you.\” The little girl said: \”Mom said Yes, I have to give gifts to others even if I take them. If you don’t want me, I won’t leave.” I said, “Okay, okay, brother, I accepted it. Thank you for your gift.” This incident left a special feeling for me. I have a deep impression that such a young girl knows that it is wrong to take advantage of others. I think this is education. He actually knows about \”reciprocity of favors\”! My mother had a best friend. Before I was born, they were neighbors for several years. After that, we all moved but our relationship remained as close as ever. My aunt is from Chaozhou. Chaozhou people like to make brine. Every time they brine duck wings and duck feet, they will send a portion to my house. Every time my mother bought something useful, she would send it to her house. I think that through the ritual of exchange of favors, we let each other know \”I remember you, I care about you, and I need you.\” My mother and her best friend have a strong sense of ritual, so our relationship has been so good for 30 years. Even now, my aunt has two grandsons in her arms and is often busy taking care of the children, so there are fewer opportunities to visit, but this ritual has not changed. My family has been renovating the house recently, and whenever my mother has no time to watch, my aunt always volunteers to do it. When she needs help with something, my mother does her part. What this story tells us is not that \”the important thing is not how many people know you when you are brilliant, but how many people remember you when you are down.\” Why do people remember you? It depends on the ritual of exchange of favors. Understanding how to communicate with others is a kind of cultivation in dealing with others. When I was studying, my classmates invited me to dinner for someone’s birthday and asked me if I would go. I shook my head and said, \”I\’m not familiar with him, so it wouldn\’t be appropriate for me to take advantage of someone else\’s meal, right?\” My classmate said \”righteously\” that it would be foolish not to take advantage of him, so he had to drag me along. As the saying goes, eating people is short-tongued and taking advantage of others is soft-handed. I still bought a small gift when I passed by the boutique. When I got to the place, the owner saw it and said I was too polite. The meal was a feast for both the host and the guest, and he deliberately left my contact information. Later, our relationship became particularly good. Once I asked him: \”How did we become friends? MingIt turns out that there is no intersection at all? He said: \”Back then, you were the only one who was not close to me and brought gifts to my birthday party. I know you have good intentions and don\’t like to take advantage of me.\” Of course such a person is worth paying attention to. \”This story tells us that all emotions in the world are a kind of ritual. Through rituals such as \”not taking advantage\” and \”favor exchanges\”, we let each other know \”I remember you, I care about you, and I need you.\” And There is a story that everyone must know: \”My father used three bowls of egg noodles to teach his children the meaning of not taking advantage.\” One morning for the first time, my father made two bowls of poached egg noodles. One bowl had eggs on top, and one bowl had no eggs on top. Serve. The father asked his son which bowl to eat? \”The bowl with the egg.\” \”The son pointed at the bowl and said. The father said: \”Let me! Kong Rong could make pears at the age of seven! You are ten years old! The son said: \”He is him!\” I am me! No! The father asked tentatively: \”You really won\’t let me?\” \”I really won\’t let it go!\” The son answered resolutely and bit into half of the egg with lightning speed, indicating that he had registered a trademark for this bowl of noodles. \”Don\’t regret it?\” \”The father was very surprised by his son\’s movements and amazing speed, but he couldn\’t help but ask one last time. \”No regrets!\” \”In order to show his unbreakable determination, the son also ate the last leftover. The father watched silently as his son finished eating. He took the bowl without eggs and began to eat hard. There were two eggs hidden in the father\’s bowl. The son saw It’s clear. The father pointed to the two eggs in the bowl and warned his son: “Remember! People who want to take advantage often fail to do so. \”The son looked helpless. The second time on a Sunday morning, his father made two bowls of poached egg noodles. The scene reappeared, one bowl had eggs on top, and one bowl had no eggs on it. The father asked casually: \”Which bowl should I eat? \”I\’m ten years old, let Dan!\” \”The son said, taking the bowl without eggs. \”Don\’t regret it? \”My father asked.\” No regrets! \”The son answered resolutely. The son ate very quickly and didn\’t even see the egg at the bottom. The father took the remaining egg noodles and when he ate them, the son saw an egg on top, and to his surprise, there was another egg below. Father Point to the egg and say remember: “Those who want to take advantage may suffer big losses! The third time, several months later, the props were still the same as before. The father asked: \”Which bowl to eat?\” \”Kong Rong gave me the pears, and my son gave me the noodles. Dad is the elder! You eat first!\” \”Then I\’m not polite.\” The father picked up the noodles with eggs without any courtesy. The son calmly picked up the eggless noodles, and the bowl of noodles quickly reached the bottom. The son accidentally discovered that there was an egg hidden in his bowl. The father meaningfully said to his son: \”You don\’t want to take advantage! Life will not let you suffer.\” This story tells us that what seems to be \”suffering\” is actually to help children convey the principles of \”education\” and \”cultivation\”. And these two kinds of people will not mix well in society.