This is how you make your children better [with accompanying methods for grades 1-9]

The true identities of 68 college entrance examination top scorers have been exposed. Their family education has these three characteristics: parents attach great importance to their children\’s education and help their children develop various good habits from an early age. Parents praise or supervise their children in a timely manner so that they can develop their strengths and make up for their shortcomings. Parents should set good examples for their children, communicate, learn and grow together with their children. No wonder some people lament: The best education is to \”fight your parents and fight your mom.\” The exam is not only a competition of knowledge on the paper, but also a competition of investment in education. The protagonists of investment are parents; the place of competition is the family. Excellent children must be \”accompanied\” by their parents. All parents must know that the new semester is coming, and parents are asked to provide their children with high-quality companionship! Five \”pitfalls\” in the company of parents are destroying children\’s potential. An education expert once said: Excellent children are the result of high-quality education, while problem children are the product of problem families. Parents\’ wrong way of accompanying them may destroy their children\’s efforts and potential. The first pitfall: being too perfunctory and not really solving the problem. Companion is not just as simple as accompanying. If parents accompany their children while doing their own things, it means they are not accompanying them. Children need to be \”seen\”, not \”accompanied\”. The second pitfall: poor patience and failure to control emotions. Some parents hate that iron cannot become steel, and lose their temper at every turn, beating and scolding their children. Only seeing the children\’s shortcomings and failing to see their good qualities, losing patient companionship will become \”poison\” in the child\’s growth. The third pitfall: too little response and a long distance from the children. Some parents are very perfunctory. No matter what their children do, they just say \”ok\” or \”got it\” and get over it. For children aged 3-12, a lack of parental involvement is not conducive to the child\’s growth. The fourth pitfall: preaching too much will make children disgusted. Preaching is not education, it is just a way of venting and an irresponsible accusation. Parents who always preach are standing on the opposite side of their children. When parents arm themselves with authority, children will use emotions to protect themselves. The fifth pitfall: Expectations are too high and put pressure on children. Children are not machines. We must maximize the feedback from our children if we give them love and care. When educating children, one should not be too utilitarian. Accompanying your child should not be just for him to get good grades. Companionship is a very complex concept. When parents stay with their children, it is more important to understand what their children are thinking, needing, and fearing. Only by being deeply involved in the growth of children and accompanied by parents can effective education be achieved. Outstanding children are all \”accompanied\” and most need these five types of high-quality companionship. Really high-quality companionship does not depend on the length of time, but on the quality of the companionship. The first type: attentive companionship. Accompanying your children should be done \”with all your heart\”, not \”with all your strength\”. Pay attention, listen attentively, and help attentively. Only when parents are attentive can they help their children discover and solve problems. The second type: respectful companionship. Don\’t hit your children, don\’t blame them blindly, don\’t be condescending, even if they are your own children, you must give them due respect and trust. Real companionship is to be friends with children. We all need to lower our posture, respect each other, and tolerate each other.. The third type: patient companionship. When communicating with your children, you must pay attention to your wording and attitude, explain the truth clearly, and avoid getting angry or labeling your children. We all understand some truths, but children may not understand them, so we need to spend more patience to educate our children. The fourth type: companionship with a normal heart. Not all children can score 100 points in the test. If a child reaches first place, there will be children applauding on the side of the road. Achievements do not mean everything, children still have many possibilities. We need to help children understand themselves correctly and find the most appropriate growth path. The fifth type: companionship to grow together. Dong Qing said: What kind of person you want your children to be, first of all, you have to become. The process of parents accompanying their children is the process of setting a good example for their children. Leading by example and teaching through words and deeds is the best education we can give our children. The best parents are constantly making progress while accompanying their children in learning, striving to keep up with their children\’s pace and be their children\’s guides. Parents are only valid for ten years! A pair of good parents is worth 200 good teachers! Once upon a time, a little note about the interaction between a boy and his father moved the entire Internet. My father is a high school teacher and is very busy at work. He leaves early and comes home late every day, leaving very little time to spend with his children. So, the son wrote down everything he wanted to say to his father on a note, and then posted it on the door or on the coffee table. The note contained both his inner thoughts and the math questions he wanted to ask. When the father sees it, he will write a reply on the note. Although the father and son cannot \”get along day and night\”, they can \”communicate feelings on the note\”. The small note carries the heartfelt words of father and son, and also records the child\’s growth process. There are many ways to accompany each other, and being busy does not excuse parents’ absence. I remember a writer said: The role of \”parents\” has an expiration date, and it is very short, only ten years. A child only grows up once, and education cannot be repeated. Every parent must be personally involved with their children. Companionship does not require \”a lot of\” time, even if it is only 10 minutes a day, as long as parents are wholehearted and let their children feel love and attention, it will be successful companionship. You can read a story with your child; you can share interesting things with your child today; you can solve homework problems with your child; you can play his favorite toys and games with your child… We always want to give our children the best, but… I don’t know, what children need most is just the company of their parents. There is a saying that goes well: Parents and children have always been in a state of perfecting each other. Parents do their best for their children, but with their children, we can feel the most complete dependence, trust and love in the world. Even if we accomplish nothing outside, when we return home, we are still the parents of our children. \”Parents\” is the most glorious title in our lives. While the children haven’t grown up yet, while we haven’t grown old yet, we should accompany them well, educate them attentively, and work hard to achieve their success. Educating your children well is the most important undertaking in a parent\’s life, and it is also an honor that cannot be surpassed by any success. A principal of a prestigious school said sincerely that most of the children who are excellent in all aspects in the school are brought up by their parents. In fact, an outstanding child has nothing to do with school education.Most likely it’s because the child’s family education is good; and for a so-called “poor student”, it’s mostly because there’s something wrong with the family’s education. Indeed, companionship is the best education. However, there is a lot of knowledge in how to accompany! The following are suggestions from teachers at famous schools for parents who accompany students in school. They are fully organized for grades 1-9! The earlier these suggestions are implemented, the better the effect will be. When the child reaches senior grade, it will become easier and easier for both parties. It’s not too late to see it now! Collect now! Grades 1 and 2 of primary school 1. Write neatly. If you don’t let your children develop the habit of writing carefully from the beginning, and wait until they are in senior grades to correct them, the efficiency of their homework will plummet, which will directly affect their performance. Learning interest. 2. Children whose homework speed scores are significantly lower than the class average have a common characteristic, that is, their homework speed is slow. Therefore, accuracy is not required at the beginning, only speed. It is strictly forbidden to play while doing homework. Try not to eat or go to the toilet while doing homework. Do the homework he is not good at first. At this stage, it is important not to misunderstand the pursuit of achievement as wanting the child to be number one, nor should we only focus on scores and rankings, causing children to mistakenly magnify the meaning and importance of achievement. Encourage children to pursue \”their best performance\” and \”compete with themselves\” and let them understand that performance is a kind of self-examination rather than the pursuit of scores and rankings. In the first and second grades of primary school, children should also be cultivated in the habit of reading aloud and writing simple diaries every day. In short, we must cultivate good children\’s study habits. The study habits of the third and fourth graders in elementary school directly determine the academic performance of the college entrance examination. The correlation coefficient between the grades of the third grade of elementary school and the second grade of high school is 0.82. It goes without saying how important it is. This stage is an important stage for children to gradually take shape in their learning. At this time, children have their own opinions, so it is also an unstable stage. The good habits developed by children in the first and second grades must be strengthened and not relaxed. After the third grade, you no longer need to sit next to your children to do their homework like you did in the first or second grade. They begin to actively accept new knowledge, but you need to teach your children to make plans, sort out wrong questions, and take notes. 1. Chinese parents can make a reading plan with their children to record the number of words read each month. Middle grade is also a critical period for children to write good compositions. When children usually write diaries, they should be guided to write more about what happened in their lives and describe more details. 2. Mathematics begins in the third or fourth grade. If your child learns easily and likes challenges, he or she can learn some Mathematical Olympiads, but it must not be forced. Learning the Mathematical Olympiad requires a training attitude and a normal mind, but it does not mean coping casually. The most rare thing about learning the Mathematical Olympiad is persistence. First of all, parents must persist, do a good job in emotional guidance, and use practical actions to tell their children to persist since they have chosen. If you persist, try your best to do well. 3. English In the third and fourth grades, English is a transitional period from listening and speaking to reading and writing. Children usually read more English picture books and require children to spell words, etc. In the third and fourth grade, children begin to be taught to draw key points, organize error booklets, and take simple notes. Taking notes and finding key points complement each other, but children should try their best to listen and write at the same time. Remember as much as possible. Never miss the teacher\’s lecture just to take notes.Lesson content. After the fifth and sixth graders reach the senior stage of elementary school, they no longer need to worry about the details of their homework. You only need to remind them when they are lazy occasionally, encourage them when they encounter setbacks, and work with them when they really can’t find a solution. Is it easy to find methods? At this time, children have the ability to learn independently and a learning method that suits them. Do you understand the old saying \”It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish\”? You will have the same peace of mind in junior high school and high school from now on. 1. Chinese language literacy is a long-term accumulation process. Children who develop good reading habits in primary school will not be any worse at Chinese language when they enter junior high school. It is best to sort out the ancient poems that you have learned in primary school or that are required, and read and recite them regularly to make sure you are familiar with them. To accumulate idioms and classical Chinese words and phrases, one must know their meaning and characters, and understand the language feel of classical Chinese. 2. Mathematics Parents in the upper grades of elementary school should try their best to let their children learn Mathematical Olympiad. No matter whether their children learn well or not, they will definitely not let their children become stupider as they learn! After those children who have learned Mathematical Olympiad enter junior high school, their thinking is obviously better than those who have not. Having learned the Mathematical Olympiad more actively and with a better ability to accept new knowledge than them, these children became more enthusiastic about learning, and their test scores gradually widened. The mathematics test is also based on the high school entrance examination, and many of the questions are original questions from the high school entrance examination. They are all about finding patterns, periodic cycles, counting figures, simple calculations, defining new operations, summing sequences, solving equations, etc… The laws of operations, especially the distributive law, must be used in reverse. In short, it is best to learn more knowledge about the Mathematical Olympiad in primary schools. All geometric knowledge (graphic knowledge) in primary school must be learned well, so that you will not be distressed in junior high school. Geometry in primary school is closely related to geometry in junior high school. 3. English Although I started learning English in junior high school from the alphabet, the progress was very fast. New lessons were taught before I could digest them. The homework was all extracurricular test papers, and there were several large ones on weekends. It is recommended that you learn English more solidly in primary school. If you learn more, it will be much easier to learn English in junior high school. Primary school English listening, speaking, reading, writing and memorizing are all indispensable, otherwise it will become a difficult subject. The junior high school stage, from primary school to middle school, is a relatively large span for children. They need a new understanding in terms of study habits and learning methods. In this transition, the role of parents is also crucial. No matter how busy you are, here are 5 things you must do. 1. Enhance awareness – Sit down with your child and have a good chat about life in junior high school. Facing an unfamiliar environment with classmates, it really takes some time to adapt. The length of adaptation time has a lot to do with the child\’s own adaptability. At this time, parents should beware of the emergence of two extreme mentalities: one is that after a long summer vacation, the heart has already \”flyed\”, and they also think that studying in junior high school will be as easy as studying in primary school, so they are careless; the other is that they are too worried about studying in junior high school , for fear that he would fall behind. The former requires \”insight\” from parents, emphasizing the importance and certain difficulty of junior high school learning, while the latter requires more encouragement and confidence from parents. 2.EstablishGoal – Compare the high school entrance examination formats in recent years to help children find their place. The examination scope and examination policies of the high school entrance examination, as well as the admission scores of different schools, will change every year. As the \”background\” of their children, parents need to spend some time and energy on these aspects. They can usually pay more attention to some official or educational websites. . Referring to the high school entrance examination scores in previous years can help children basically determine a direction for their efforts and make every step practical. 3. Fully understand the school system, basic regulations, examination selection, etc. and clarify them in advance. Many parents enter the junior high school of a school just so that their children can enter the high school of the school in the future. Therefore, they should understand the selection criteria of the relevant schools for direct admission to high school as early as possible. What conditions must be met? Ranking based on overall scores; whether there are requirements for scores in specific subjects; what is the allocation of specific quotas… These are all issues that parents need to consider in advance. Understand the relevant school systems as early as possible to create conditions for your children\’s junior high school learning as much as possible. This will prevent you from being in a hurry and affecting your child\’s progress in high school. From now on, be aware of the situation and adapt accordingly. 4. Communicate early – convey the child’s basic situation to the classroom teacher. It needs to be emphasized that communicating with the teacher is not for the purpose of \”snitching\” or \”finding out the details of the child\” in the future. Parents should have a correct attitude and not leave the child with the feeling of being monitored at any time. Especially for boarding students, who spend most of their time in school. To know their children well, parents must go through the bridge with their teachers. The teachers here include not only the head teacher, but also various classroom teachers. After all, the high school entrance examination is a comprehensive and selective examination. The main purpose of communicating with teachers is to prevent children from being too partial to subjects, understand the changes in children\’s mentality, and actively cooperate with teachers. 5. Find a way – how to deal with children who are about to enter adolescence? When children reach the junior high school stage, they already have their own ideas, and \”disobedience\” is commonplace. At this time, parents can no longer scold or take action as before. What is needed is to patiently reason with their children. Whether you can educate outstanding children or not, this is a critical period. Parents should not only be the mirror of their children, but also constantly expand their own knowledge, learn more from outstanding parents, and change the simple and crude education methods before. Junior high school is a new starting point for children, and it is an important step in the long march for parents. If you want to play this game of chess well, you must make every move well. Children\’s education has a long way to go, and as parents, we must also grow up with our children. According to the educational focus of each stage, help children become talents and adults!