If you don\’t push your child, you will never know how good he is!

As a parent, your biggest wish is for your children to be outstanding. But behind every outstanding child, there is a pair of parents who are self-disciplined and good at supervising their children. On the road of educating children, never expect them to be self-conscious, because every self-conscious child is the result of strict supervision by parents since childhood! Sometimes, you will never know how good your child is unless you push him! I don’t know since when, many parents began to advocate “happy education” and began to “respect” their children more and more. The child does not study hard and is naughty all day long, but the parents say: \”It\’s okay, as long as the child is happy, don\’t let learning destroy the child\’s nature.\” The child doesn\’t want to learn piano halfway through, but the parents say: \”It\’s okay, we have to respect it. The child\’s preferences and interests are the child\’s biggest motivation. If the child doesn\’t like it, it\’s useless no matter how hard you force it.\” The result of such \”enlightened\” parents is that the child has a happy childhood, but the rest of his life is full of stumbling blocks. and full of regret. Education is never happy, it is boring to study day after day, and boring to practice over and over again. I remember attending a party. A colleague next to me looked at the young people performing various talents on the stage and said with emotion: I also learned violin for a while when I was a child, but I didn’t have the patience and gave up after a few days. Now think about it, at that time It would be nice if someone forced me to do it, and maybe now I will have a chance to show off. If a child wants to learn anything, it is impossible to rely on the superficial word \”like\”. Because no matter how deep your love is, it will be exhausted in practice day after day. The next road can only be walked with persistence and perseverance. There is never any overnight or easy success in the world, only persistence that accumulates over time. Now, when your child wants to retreat, you say just be happy. When your child wants to give up, you say just be happy. Then all the peers are moving forward desperately, but your child is standing still under your indulgence. Move, and the distance between you and others is getting farther and farther. Giving children so-called happy education has become the main culprit for children being left far behind by others. Life is taken step by step, and only after taking this step can there be the next step. Interest comes from practice! Thank you dad for forcing me to practice piano! This is what Lang Lang said when recalling his growth path. Piano Prince Lang Lang is my country\’s leading young pianist and one of the top pianists in the world. He is one of the people standing at the top of the pyramid. Lang Lang\’s current success is inseparable from his hard work and persistence over the years, as well as his father\’s strict requirements and \”force\”. In the movie \”Lang Lang\’s Song\”, Lang Lang recalled the hardships and setbacks of learning the piano. At first, he also backed down and was full of resentment towards his father. Under his father\’s \”force\”, Lang Lang finally stepped out of the shadows and continued his studies. Later, he achieved great success and became the piano prince we now know as Lang Lang. Daughter of New Oriental founder Yu MinhongMy son started learning piano when he was a child. He won the first place in the \”Vancouver Children\’s Piano Competition\” when he was 7 years old, and passed the piano level 10 exam when he was 8 years old. His wife felt that her daughter was talented at the piano and wanted to train her to be a pianist, so she greatly increased her child\’s practice time. Unexpectedly, the child\’s enthusiasm for learning piano dropped sharply, and he said to Yu Minhong: \”Dad, I don\’t want to learn anymore. I have no interest in piano anymore.\” After hearing what his daughter said, Yu Minhong said something sincere and thoughtful: Baby, when you grow up, , Everyone will have a lot of lonely times. If my mother and I are not with you at that time, if you can have piano and music to accompany you, you will not feel lonely anymore, because you can talk. It\’s up to you to decide whether you want to continue or not. This is Dad\’s consistent principle for you. A week later, he took his daughter to a concert. After the concert, Yu Minhong was deeply moved by his daughter and explained to her the importance of music to life and the pity of giving up suddenly. After listening to her father\’s words, her daughter not only did not give up the piano, but also practiced it more consciously. After that, her piano playing got better and better, and she won many awards. Robin Sharma writes in \”Who Do You Cry When You Die\”: It\’s not that you don\’t want to do something because it\’s hard, it\’s that you don\’t want to do it that makes it hard. Any learning process goes through a boring phase. At this time, parents do not \”force\” their children and let them \”don\’t learn if they don\’t want to learn.\” Then, children will always be able to stay at the stage of just dabbling, and will not be able to experience the joy of deep learning, let alone achieve great achievements. Far-sighted parents know how to push their children at the right time and encourage them to persist a little longer before they choose to give up. Tao Xingzhi once said: Teaching people should start from an early age. Children are like seedlings. Only when they are raised well can they sprout and grow. If they are not raised well, they are doomed to die young. In the most critical ten years before the age of 18, parents must not indulge their children or delay their children\’s growth in the name of love. \”It\’s the father\’s fault if the son doesn\’t teach.\” It\’s the parents\’ fault if they don\’t educate well. The child is a blank piece of paper. If you don\’t force it, some things will never grow into it. Children with both talents and talents are forced to learn piano and dance from an early age; children with top grades are forced to study hard and practice hard from an early age. Behind every outstanding child, there are cruel parents. Children\’s potential is \”forced\” out. When children are confused, the most important thing parents should do is to inspire their potential and force them to work hard. Remember: strictness is love, tolerance is harm, and indulgence is destruction. We can always hear people say regretfully: If my parents forced me to dance when I was 5 years old, would I be the one on the stage now? If my parents forced me to go into the water when I was 10 years old, would I be the one on the stage now? I can also go swimming with my friends; if my parents forced me to go to school when I was 18 years old, wouldn’t I be like this now… I once saw a Weibo post: A post-00s girl put I worked part-time in a shopping mall in Qingdao during the summer vacation. This is her third job. She worked the previous two jobs for a total of four days. “My boss said I was not suitable.” She said that she was already under pressure in life at the age of 17, so she wanted to earn some money.Money is not easy. I regret not studying hard. What we regret when we grow up is often not what we have done wrong, but what we have not done. Children, if you don’t work hard when you are young, you will only be able to give praise to others when you grow up. Therefore, as parents, we should teach our children to learn persistence and self-discipline, and we should also force our children to do so. Because if you don’t push your child, he may never know how good he is.