People\’s Daily: How can parents get rid of bad habits? Please be patient for your child.

Satya, a famous American family therapist, once said a very classic saying: \”A child is never wrong. If he is wrong, it must be the parents\’ fault.\” The same is true for children\’s habits. When we find a bad habit in a child , often projecting the shadow of their parents. \”People\’s Daily\” pointed out that children are most likely to imitate these 12 bad habits of their parents. If you also have these 12 bad habits, for the sake of your children, please correct them as soon as possible! They are diligent and thrifty, but they are lavish on their children. Chinese parents are always willing to give to their children. They firmly believe that no matter how hard it is, they can\’t hurt their children. I would rather be a little more miserable and tired myself, but also try my best to give my children the best. Parents blindly support themselves in poverty and raise their children in wealth. The consequence is that children take their parents\’ efforts for granted and even complain that their parents do not give them enough. Parents\’ correct enrichment is more about spiritual enrichment for their children, so that they can learn to be grateful, learn to be independent, and learn to rely on their own abilities to fight for what they want. Only a child who knows how to be grateful can have a full life. Impolite children are a mirror of their parents, and parents\’ rude behavior will be reflected on their children. How can parents educate polite children if they themselves are foul-mouthed, always swearing, speak loudly in public, and disrespect their elders? Children are the mirror of a family. Behind an ill-mannered child stands a family without tutoring. Say hello to acquaintances when you see them, stay quiet in public, respect others, and use civilized language… If you want your children to understand these basic etiquette, parents themselves must first set an example. There are no children who are ungrateful, there are only parents who are ignorant of educational etiquette. Watching computer/adult programs with your baby Many parents like to watch TV themselves, and watch TV with their children, which not only satisfies their own preferences, but also attracts their children to TV. But in fact, leaving children to the virtual world on electronic screens is harmful but useless. It affects children\’s vision, limits the development of children\’s imagination, makes children inattentive and slow in thinking, especially some content on TV that is not suitable for children to watch, which will also affect children\’s physical and mental health. Therefore, parents should lead by example and try to open as many books as possible at home instead of turning on the TV. Only when parents stay away from TV can their children not be attracted to TV. Like to compare your own children with others. Survey reports show that children least like the five things their parents say, one of which is: Look at other people’s children/Look at other people’s children. How many parents like to compare themselves with other people\’s children, how many children have been hurt. Parents\’ unwarranted comparisons and denials will give their children negative psychological hints and turn them into their \”inner critical voice\”, subconsciously denying themselves. Children who grow up in families where parents always like to compare will not only fail to work hard because of the examples set by their parents, but will develop a sensitive and inferior character in the comparison, which may even affect the child\’s life. Shala, a writer who cares too much about children, wrote in \”Extremely Cruel, Specially Loved\”: \”The love Chinese parents give their children is not too little but too much. They can\’t bear to let them experience the hardships of life from an early age, so they shield their children from all wind and rain.\” unwillingChildren do their own housework, so do everything for them. Doting is not love, it is pure harm. The child comes from us, but does not belong to us. He belongs to his own vast future life. Parents who are truly far-sighted are willing to let their children do some housework within their capabilities, and know how to give their children the opportunity to be independent. Only if you are willing to use your children can they grow. In front of your children, vent your various dissatisfactions. Parents determine the atmosphere of the family, and the atmosphere of the family determines the character of the child. If parents always like to complain, always vent their emotions unscrupulously in front of their children, and even blame their children for all the unsatisfactory life, it will be a huge disaster for the children. If you love your children, you must let them know that they are not a burden to their parents, but their motivation for a better life. Leave bad emotions at the door and leave good emotions to your children. The \”National Family Education Situation Survey Report\” shows that among fourth-grade and eighth-grade students, \”not being able to do what they promised their children\” ranks first among parents\’ bad behaviors. In a child\’s young mind, parents are the whole world, and what parents say is the truth. Never use your children\’s trust in you as your capital to deceive them. A child who grows up with parents\’ dishonesty not only learns not to keep his word, but also dares not to trust others easily. Don\’t promise what you can\’t do, and do what you promise. Children will be in awe of how honest their parents are. Procrastination in doing things, not having a sense of time, always postponing things you said you should do indefinitely, not waiting until the last moment to do things, causing you to be in a hurry no matter what you do, and you may even be late. The above symptoms are all manifestations of procrastination. If parents procrastinate in doing things, it will subtly affect their children, making them have no sense of time, always being unpunctual, and needing to be pushed for everything they do. Parents should instill the correct concept of time in their children from an early age, so that their children can develop the good habit of doing things in an orderly manner and doing everything in advance. Do not follow traffic rules when crossing the road, do not use zebra crossings, do not look at the traffic lights, cross the road directly when you see an opportunity, cut through traffic jams when you can, and do not give way to pedestrians. Children see parents\’ disobedience of traffic rules and will imitate them. Traffic rules not only restrict us, but also protect us. If children develop bad habits of not obeying traffic rules under the influence of their parents, they may easily encounter danger. Parents are the best teachers in their children\’s lives. They should always provide traffic safety education to their children in daily life. When driving or picking up their children, they should set an example and strictly abide by traffic rules to set a good example for their children. Criticize your children in public. Parents can educate their children when they make mistakes, but they should be careful not to criticize their children in front of outsiders. Many times, children need face more than adults. When children feel embarrassed, the shame they feel is far greater than we imagine. Therefore, when a child makes a mistake, parents should find a place where no one else is present, point out the child\’s mistake, and tell him what to do. In this way, the child will be more willing to accept criticism and the educational effect will be better. Only by achieving the goal of “inspiring others in front of others and insinuating others behind the scenes” can we both letChildren realize their mistakes and maintain their self-esteem. We all know that exercise is good for the body if we don’t like exercise, so how to cultivate good exercise habits in children? Ron, an American medical doctor, pointed out that letting children participate in exercise itself is not enough to tell and educate children that exercise is very important. Only when parents, especially fathers, can set a good example through their own exercise behavior and attitude towards exercise. Exercise is an important factor in maintaining good health, so that children can have a healthy body and have the strength to meet and fight for a brighter future. Parents, hurry up and take your children to exercise! A big temper can be lost at any time. An educationist once said: There is one thing in this world that is harmful but useless – and that is losing your temper. Losing temper is the biggest enemy of education. The greater the temper, the worse the educational effect. Children can always easily catch parents\’ bad emotions, and over time, children will also be affected by such bad emotions. Either you become a grumpy person, or you become a submissive person with no self-confidence. The bad temper of parents makes a child who should grow up happily walk on thin ice every step of the way facing the future. Controlling emotions is a practice in life and education. The best education is for parents to lead by example. If you behave and treat others, your children will be like you. There is no other way to educate but love and example.