How parents educate their children about 5 yes and 5 no

Educator Mr. Cai Yuanpei said: \”Family is the first school in life.\” Family education accompanies a person\’s life, affects a person\’s life, and is crucial to a person\’s growth. Family education is particularly important in the growth of children. So, how do parents educate their children correctly? Parents have a great influence on their children. There are \”five do\’s\” and \”five don\’ts\” in educating children. Parents, please read this carefully! The \”Five Essentials\” of Educating Children 1. Educating children must be persevering. Educating children cannot only be done after thinking about it, but must be persevered. A child is a seedling, and the family is the child\’s heaven and earth. It requires careful care from parents, silent efforts to nourish things, careful observation of growth and continuous pruning of branches, in order to grow into a towering tree. Children\’s education should not be rushed. Parents need to be patient enough to accompany their children as they grow. 2. Moral education should be the first priority. Many parents have a misunderstanding of their children\’s growth and believe that their children\’s only task is to study. \”Everything is of inferior quality, only reading is of high quality.\” Reading has become a compulsory course for parents to educate their children. Indeed, reading is important, very important, but what is even more important is educating children to learn to be human beings. Only by learning to be human can they adapt to society better and faster. Parents should cultivate their children to be qualified talents with ideals, morality, culture, and benefit to society. 3. Equality and democracy. Democracy in the family means that everyone is equal and has the right to speak, and children are no exception. If parents have the final say in everything, it is not democracy; if children have privileges and are not restricted, it is not democracy; if one person in the family is superior and bosses around, it is not democracy. Although children are small, they are also members of the family, so they must treat each other equally and give them the right to speak. As parents, you must lower your \”height\” in front of your children, don\’t be too authoritarian, and know how to respect your children. 4. Set an example. Parents are a mirror to their children, and children are a mirror to their parents. Children are influenced by their parents from the day they are born. The words and deeds of their parents will have a profound impact on the development of their children\’s behavioral habits, personality and other aspects. Children are like parents, so parents should pay more attention to their own behavior and set a good example for their children. This is the best education for their children. 5. Home-school cooperation is required. Children need two wings to grow, one wing is the parents, and the other wing is the teacher. Only when these two wings are fully utilized can education be effective and children can spread their wings and fly high. There are no perfect parents and no perfect teachers. Parents and teachers are constantly growing and need to understand and accept each other. When parents and teachers meet, it is an encounter of love and trust. Supporting each other, tolerating each other, and cooperating with each other will make education more successful. Educate your children on the \”Five Don\’ts\” 1. Don\’t spoil your children. It\’s human nature for parents to love their children. But love can, but doting cannot. You know, too much tolerance is indulgence, and too much pampering is pampering. Your current doting is actually harming your children, making them ungrateful, incapable of understanding other people\’s hard work, and incapable of learning the ability to love. To truly love your children, you must learn to let go. Towering trees cannot grow in a greenhouse, and a thousand-mile horse cannot run in the courtyard. Children must eventually learn to face everything on their own. 2. Don’t protect your children. Another common mentality among parents is that they don’t want toWhen children are wronged, no matter what they do, no matter what they do wrong, parents easily forgive their children, and even protect their children because of their young age. However, blindly protecting shortcomings and indulging without a bottom line will ultimately only lead to children\’s future mistakes and evil. Mistakes are opportunities for growth and progress and must be faced and resolved. Parents should point out their children\’s mistakes in a timely manner, and let their children take responsibility for their own actions and make them pay for their mistakes. 3. Don’t compare your children. Many parents will intentionally or unintentionally compare their children with other people’s children in terms of study, personality, and behavior. They believe that this is a kind of motivational education, using this comparison method to stimulate children\’s ambition and give them a sense of urgency to become better and better. As everyone knows, this kind of comparison is a negative incentive for children, which may seriously dampen their self-esteem and make them feel helpless and inferior. No child wants to admit that he is worse than others. They want to be recognized by adults. Don\’t compare children, accept their shortcomings and deficiencies, and know how to encourage and appreciate them. 4. Don’t beat or scold your children at will. There is an old saying that goes like this: “Children cannot be effective without beating, and they cannot be talented without beating.” Indeed, education must have punishment methods. No matter whether you don’t scold or punish, you will not be able to cultivate outstanding children. But please remember that discipline is not about beating and scolding at will, nor is it about venting your bad emotions on your children. Hitting and scolding a child at will may make the child more and more rebellious, and may even bring a shadow to the child\’s life. Therefore, parents should not beat or scold their children at will. Strictly disciplining children requires a certain degree of control. More often, parents need to calmly communicate with their children and solve the problem from the source. 5. Don’t always reward your children with material rewards. Many parents always have a bad habit when educating their children, that is, as long as the children perform well, they will reward their children with material rewards. In fact, this approach is wrong. Montessori believes that rewards cater to the low-level abilities of human nature, while children\’s innate morals are noble. When children grow up in a suitable, loving and free environment, their various outstanding performances are spontaneous. Their natural instincts have been guiding them to grow in a better direction, and giving them incentives will only cause trouble for their growth. Material rewards are low-level, while the realization of self-worth is the highest level, which is the so-called spiritual encouragement. What parents need to provide their children is spiritual energy. A word of praise is more useful than 10 toys. Educating your children well is the most important task for parents. However, the profession of parent is not that easy. Children are your results, and you need to continue to learn and change. The road to family education is long and arduous, so parents must be patient.