Professor Li Meijin: The parenting style of parents before the age of 12 determines the child’s life

As their children grow up, many parents will wonder: \”Why does the gap between their children and their own expectations become wider and wider as they grow older? They become prone to lying, contradicting others, and getting into moods at every turn…\” \”Professor Li Meijin once said: \”Generally speaking, children who have behavioral or psychological problems such as truancy, lying, contradicting parents, fighting and injuries, etc., mostly occur between the ages of 12 and 18. And almost all problems in this age group It stems from the way parents raise their children before the age of 12.” In fact, when parents discover various problems in their children, they may have missed the best educational period. Before the child is 12 years old, education is the most critical. Before the age of 12, don’t force your children to do these three things. When educating their children, many parents always impose what they think is right on their children. But this is actually very detrimental to the child and will seriously affect the child\’s life. Parents, please remember that before your child is 12 years old, never force him to do the following things. ◆Forcing children to suffer losses. Many parents often say this when their children have conflicts with others: \”Suffering a loss is a blessing. If you step back, it will be over.\” They think that this can teach their children to be tolerant to others, and the starting point is for their own good. In fact, this is not the case. Sometimes blindly teaching children to suffer losses will harm them, make them develop a cowardly character, and even make them lose their principles and bottom line. There should be a bottom line when suffering a loss, analyze the seriousness of the matter, and decide whether to resist or resist. ◆Forcing children to share Some parents will accuse their children of being \”stingy\” to force their children to share. This is not only not conducive to cultivating children\’s habit of sharing, but also gives children a bad label and affects their children\’s self-development. No child is born willing to share. It is only with the development of cognitive abilities that children gradually develop the awareness of sharing. Therefore, parents should not force their children to share. If they understand and respect their children, they will be willing to share in the future. ◆Forcing children to be extroverted In the eyes of some parents, introverted children have no future, while extroverted children can enjoy themselves wherever they go and are lovable. Therefore, they will do everything possible to make their children become extroverted and eloquent. But forcing children to be extroverted will leave a profound psychological shadow on them and is not conducive to their healthy growth. In fact, extroverted and introverted children each have their own advantages. It is an achievement to let children follow themselves and be happy. Before the age of 12, set these 4 rules for your children. As the saying goes, there is no success without rules. In the process of raising children, it is necessary to formulate appropriate rules. Good rules will shape the child\’s life. Before your child reaches the age of 12, the following rules must be established for him. ◆Punctuality Punctuality is the first business card on the road to success, and it is a silent commitment between people. On the road of life, trustworthy people are usually punctual. Punctuality must be cultivated from an early age. Parents should adopt some practical education methods, such as having a regular daily routine and using alarm clocks skillfully, so that children can develop the concept of punctuality. ◆ Be polite. Being a polite person is the traditional virtue of our Chinese nation. Politeness is a person\’s best education. Although it cannot make people have smooth sailing, it can make people avoid many detours. From an early age, parents will teach their children to be polite and respect others.,speak civilly. ◆Honesty and trustworthiness As the saying goes: \”Small victories depend on wisdom, big victories rely on virtue.\” If you want your children to have good moral character, the first step is to educate them to be honest and trustworthy. Honesty and trustworthiness are the most indispensable education in a child\’s life, and it is also the foundation for a child\’s success. ◆Take responsibility A responsible person can be considered a mentally sound person. Therefore, far-sighted parents will choose to ingrain the awareness of responsibility in their children\’s hearts during the education process. Only by not condoning children who make mistakes, but by guiding them to face their mistakes correctly and take responsibility, can children shoulder their own responsibilities in future life. Before the age of 12, teach children these four abilities. Professor Li Meijin said: \”Many parents attach great importance to their children\’s academic performance, but based on my experience and knowledge over the years, in fact, if children can master some abilities, it is much more important than their grades.\” Before the age of 12, parents must teach their children these abilities to benefit them throughout their lives. ◆Concentration ability The strength of a person\’s concentration affects his efficiency in doing things. Therefore, as parents, we must cultivate our children\’s concentration ability from an early age. When your children are young, don\’t interfere with them casually. In this way, the child will gradually become more and more able to focus on the work itself and have a strong concentration. ◆Expressive ability Psychologist Carnegie once said: \”15% of a person\’s success depends on technology and knowledge, and 85% depends on language expression.\” Language expression ability has a direct impact on children\’s interpersonal relationships and personality construction. Teaching children to speak well and express well is the best gift parents can give their children. ◆Independence ability A writer once said: \”A father-daughter relationship with mother-son is to watch the child continue to travel far away.\” The growth of a child means the separation from his parents. As a parent, you must not only raise your children, but also educate them well. Only by knowing how to let go and letting your children learn to be independent can your children live a better life in the future. ◆Ability to resist setbacks In the long journey of life, it is impossible for everyone to have smooth sailing, and they will inevitably encounter various setbacks. When encountering setbacks, the ability to quickly get out of the predicament and move on is the ability to resist setbacks. Parents should help their children correctly understand setbacks, teach them to deal with failure correctly, and enable them to evaluate themselves correctly. Cultivate these five good habits in children before they are 12 years old. Educator Mr. Ye Shengtao said that the essence of education is to cultivate habits. The secret to making your baby smart, lively, and loved by everyone… The impact of habits on a person is important and far-reaching, and can make a person\’s life successful. It is necessary to develop good habits in children as early as possible. I hope parents will pay attention to the five good habits that must be developed before the child is 12 years old. ◆Study habits: complete homework on time, listen carefully in class, preview before class and review after class, study and think about problems independently, consciously read extracurricular books, insist on practicing calligraphy, etc. ◆Life habits: go to bed early and get up early, eat on time, do your own things, arrange time reasonably and effectively, take good care of books, school supplies, etc. ◆Dating habits: Get along well with classmates, be willing to help classmates, do not bully people who are weaker than yourself, do not associate with strangers, and stay away from people with poor conduct. ◆Healthy habits include brushing teeth in the morning and evening,Wash your hands frequently before and after meals, eat less snacks, exercise every day, and have good eye habits. ◆Be civilized and courteous in your behavior, greet teachers and guests proactively, abide by public order, refrain from making loud noises and fights, and take care of flowers, plants, and trees, etc. Professor Li Meijin once said a very sharp saying: \”Before the age of six, parents\’ nagging and words are gold. After the age of twelve, parents\’ words are garbage.\” There is no rehearsal in life, and children only grow once. Parents, please raise your children as soon as possible. , guide children correctly before they reach adulthood, and children will grow better.