5 parenting taboos, the earlier you know, the better

Surveys show that families raising boys are far less happy than families raising girls. Boys are naughty, noisy, love to get into trouble, and disobedient to discipline, which is enough to give parents a headache. One mother complained like this: Before giving birth to my son, I was as beautiful as a flower, had a cheerful personality, and lived an exquisite life. After giving birth to my son, I had a bad temper, yelled, and my life was in chaos. Boys are indeed difficult to teach, so parents must be more vigilant about their own education methods to prevent their sons from going astray. Professor Li Meijin said that if you want your children to avoid detours and become an excellent person, parents must keep in mind the taboos in raising children. There is a saying that says avoid being spoiled: Towering trees cannot grow in a greenhouse, and a thousand-mile horse cannot run in a courtyard. The biggest difference between educating a boy and educating a girl is that you cannot always pamper him, protect him, and treat him like a delicate grass. A boy who has been pampered since he was a child does not have the sunshine of a man, and it is difficult for him to have a bright future. In some families, parents are afraid of making their boys suffer and are reluctant to let them do anything. The boy should be satisfied with what he wants to eat, what he wants to wear, and what he wants to use. It is not difficult to imagine the ending of a boy who grew up being pampered and pampered by his parents. Some people have been studying for decades and returned from studying abroad after graduating with a master\’s degree, but they have not found a job for a long time and have used up their old mother\’s pension money. Some people still have nothing to wear but food to eat even after they grow up. Because their parents have passed away and there is no one to take care of them, they starve to death at home. Every boy must shoulder heavy responsibilities when he grows up and face the challenges of society and life. Parents must let their son endure more hardships when he is young, let him take care of his own life, and let him learn to take responsibility. Boys cannot be pampered. They must withstand the wind and rain of the outside world in order to thrive without fear of wind and rain. Avoid being too clingy to your mother. We will find that boys are usually more clingy to their mothers because most children have an \”Oedipus complex\”. The mother is the boy\’s first love object, while the father is the boy\’s competition object. He will unconsciously attack and reject his father. As a mother, you should keep an appropriate distance from your son, let your son have more contact with his father, and learn more from his father. But mothers who love their children too much often have no taboos. Instead, they feel complacent because of their son\’s closeness. Especially a stay-at-home mother doesn\’t know how to grasp the measure of intimacy with her son. In her eyes, her son will always be her son. Excessive intimacy will hinder the normal growth of boys. Not only will they be too dependent on their mothers, they may also become feminized. Dr. Emerson Ergerich wrote in \”Raising Boys\”: Boys cannot be treated as little dolls forever, and boys cannot be allowed to grow up forever. One day when he wakes up, he will be a boy and no longer a little doll. When he wakes up another day, he will be a man and no longer a boy. A father cannot be absent from his son\’s growth process, and he must become his son\’s idol and role model, so that his son can emulate him. Only when a boy truly leaves his mother\’s arms can he truly grow into a man. Avoid being addicted to games and mobile phones. Being addicted to games is often the biggest factor affecting children\’s performance, especially boys. In a class, if a boy takes the lead in playing a certain game, within a few days, all the other boys in the class willWill love this game. There are several reasons why boys are more likely to be addicted to games: ① Boys’ visual-spatial thinking is relatively developed, and playing games can easily arouse their interest; ② The plot setting of the game allows boys to become heroes and save the world, which satisfies their pursuits. Stimulating psychology; ③ When boys encounter pressure in the real world, they don’t like to talk and often use games to get rid of it. Parents cannot tolerate their son\’s addiction to games, let alone condone it. Unless you decide to give up your child, or are sure that your child is self-disciplined enough, it is best not to put a mobile phone in your child\’s hands. After all, there are too few conscious children. As long as they play for 10 minutes, they will be completely attracted and completely forget to study. It only takes 10 minutes to become addicted to games, but the damage to your children will last a lifetime. Parents should set an example and not play endlessly with their mobile phones in front of their children. Limit the time period and purpose for children to use mobile phones, so that children can use mobile phones as a learning tool rather than an entertainment toy. Avoid lack of companionship. Lack of companionship is the real situation of this era. Boys who lack companionship and discipline since childhood are more likely to become rebellious, irritable, and often antagonize others due to their personality. Companionship is the education that children need most. Without the companionship of their parents, children may lead a life out of control. In the TV series \”Little Joy\”, Ji Yangyang\’s father has been working out of town, and his mother also accompanies him out of town. Ji Yangyang, who grew up with her grandmother and uncle, was very resistant to her parents who suddenly came back from the air before the college entrance examination. Parents who have been absent for a long time finally remember to participate in their children\’s growth, but they are already separated from their children by a huge distance. No outstanding boy grows up in the care of his parents. A timid boy will not suddenly become confident and independent when he grows up. A boy who loves to cause trouble will not know how to restrain himself and return to etiquette when he grows up. To cultivate a boy into an excellent man, he cannot be indulged or neglected when he was young. A boy\’s successful traits need to be cultivated from an early age. Don\’t imagine that \”he will naturally understand it when he grows up\”, and don\’t be superstitious that boys should be left alone. Avoid Suppressing Education In the CCTV documentary \”Mirror\”, Jiaming had high hopes from his father since he was a child, and his father was very strict with his education. Jiaming bought a pet, but was thrown away by his father as soon as he got home; the secret to making your baby smart, lively, and loved by everyone… Jiaming wanted to go out on a bicycle to play, but before he could finish his words, his father firmly opposed it; Jiaming wanted to learn painting and singing, but his father said no, he could only study… Being suppressed since childhood, Jiaming had his wings cut off by his parents, and he would never be able to fly in his life. Some parents want their sons to be absolutely obedient to them and just want to raise their sons to be the \”best\” in their minds. They don\’t like the child\’s personality, don\’t understand the child\’s thoughts, don\’t ask about the child\’s thoughts, and turn building up the child into suppressive education. Boys who grow up in a high-pressure environment will gradually lose their independent opinions and suppress their thinking ability. Facing superior parents, boys will be fearful, shrinking, and timid. You know, boys are born unable to sit still, and it is useless to suppress them alone. in every boyParents should respect the boy\’s energy and cultivate it patiently so that he can truly stand on his own in the world. Raising a boy is definitely not an easy task. Parents need to have more understanding and respect to be more relaxed.