When the child grows up, he becomes the good-for-nothing Mr. Zhuang. Their families all have one thing in common.

I still remember that in class before, I was checking several knowledge points that the students emphasized repeatedly. I glanced at the absent-minded little X and asked one of the questions, but he couldn\’t answer it directly. It was a very small knowledge point. I didn\’t want to continue to pester and delay the class, so I asked him to memorize it after class and come to me to check it during the big class break. During the break, Little It\’s a lot of fun playing around.\” I asked him to call Xiao X over. After a while, Little I asked him why he didn\’t come to me and didn\’t say anything. I asked him to memorize that little knowledge point again. He looked straight and said, \”I can\’t memorize it.\” I criticized him and said, \”I can\’t memorize such a simple knowledge point in class.\” I have repeatedly emphasized that I have asked you to memorize it many times before, and now I have given you time to prepare after class, and you still can\’t memorize it! Is this stupid or lazy?\” The original intention was to make him reflect on his laziness and lack of effort. I will not educate him later. Think about it. As a result, he didn\’t play according to the routine! He actually thought about it seriously and told me: \”It\’s because I\’m stupid.\” I almost choked out a mouthful of blood from him! I have been teaching for nearly 20 years and have seen many students who do not study hard. This child is the first child to face the teacher\’s temptation and choose \”stupid\” between \”lazy and stupid\”. The problem is: he\’s not stupid at all! Looking at his big black and white eyes, imagine that he was jumping around in the corridor a moment ago and had quick reactions. Now, in order to deal with me, I have to say that I am an \”idiot\”. I am angry and amused. I think this child has been lazy for so long that he is unwilling to take the initiative to make any efforts to change himself. A word suddenly came to my mind: laziness leads to stupidity. As a middle school teacher, every time I receive a new student from junior high school, I always have this feeling: No matter how active the children are when school starts, and you don’t even need to observe them deliberately, you will always be \”sucked in\” within a week or two. \”I\’m forced to\” first get to know some of my classmates – those who are particularly naughty and those who are particularly lazy. Let’s not talk about the naughty ones, let’s talk about these lazy children first. After three or two days of hard work, they will \”reveal their true colors.\” Even if the teacher deliberately assigns very little homework in order to develop habits and confidence in the children, there will still be children who do not complete it. When asked why they did not complete their homework, they often frowned, or stared with big or small eyes; they acted innocently, painfully, contemplatively, or silently… After some negotiation, they agreed. However, there was still no improvement the next day… I couldn\’t help but sigh in my heart: These children no longer feel that they should complete their homework. They have subjectively given up on actively using their brains and hands-on problem solving, and have entered a state of numbness. In fact, they also want to work hard and leave a good impression on the teacher. But good wishes cannot defeat lazy habits. After a little effort, they found that it was \”too tiring\” to complete their homework every day. As a result, the brain enters a state of \”sleeping\” and \”passive confrontation\” with homework again. You talk to him about other things, and he laughs at the same time. As long as you mention studying, your whole person will become dull. thisHow does laziness develop? I couldn\’t help but think of my own child. When he first entered the first grade, he had bad habits and had to do his homework very late every day. Once the teacher assigned him to recite a text. It didn\’t work. At around nine o\’clock in the evening, he was tired and wanted to sleep. His dad said: Don’t sleep if you don’t know how to memorize it! You can’t go wrong if you want to carry it to one place! He turned to me for help, and I said: Listen to Dad. That night my son cried and recited it, from sadness to despair, and finally to recitation. In the future, although he is still slow in doing homework and memorizing things, and wants to be lazy, I think he has a bottom line in his heart, which is: he can procrastinate, but he must complete it. I think every child may experience subtle psychological changes from the first time he encounters difficulties in doing homework and feels his parents\’ attitude and requirements towards him and his studies. Those parents who are gentle and strict in attitude give their children respect and a bottom line that cannot be exceeded; those parents who are tough and strict in attitude also give their children a bottom line, but the children feel depressed and are prone to rebelling as they grow up; Parents with wavering attitudes give their children room for bargaining; parents who complain give their children a reason not to learn and an attitude of shirking responsibility elsewhere. Parents who \”do whatever they want\” allow their children to become people who have no requirements for themselves. Those parents who are too tolerant to their children are often those who think they \”know a little bit about education\”. They adhere to the concepts of tolerance, acceptance, and happy education, and hope to achieve better educational results by \”ignoring the children\” than by \”taking care of the children.\” As everyone knows, tolerance, acceptance of children, and happy education are by no means without requirements for children. If you \”educate\” children without requirements, the children will have no requirements for themselves. The result of indulgence is that the children will have no bottom line in doing things. If parents are lazy in educating their children, the children will be lazy in asking themselves. Once or twice does not seem to matter, and three or four times does not seem to have a big impact on learning. However, the child\’s psychology has slowly changed during this indulgence. By the time the results are clearly visible, the child\’s laziness has already developed. How many children are being indulged in this way and become \”stupid from laziness\”! My feelings towards such children were anger and confusion when I was young, but now I feel distressed and sighing. How stupid are they! It is the loss of the habit of thinking and diligence. In the long run, children who were over-indulged by their parents when they were young will become unsatisfactory in life as adults due to \”lazy stupidity\”. As a teacher, I have seen all kinds of children, and by witnessing their growth, I am deeply aware that as children advance in grade, learning becomes less and less something that can be done with IQ alone. I have seen children who were able to do well in studies based on their intelligence alone at the beginning, but because of laziness and lack of good habits, their grades were getting worse and worse; I have also seen children whose grades were not top-notch at the beginning, but because of perseverance, patience and good study habits, their grades were getting worse and worse. Children who have overcome the bottleneck period, become more confident as they learn, and achieve results far beyond the teacher\’s expectations. Mr. Ye Shengtao said: The essence of education is to cultivate habits. The main place for cultivating habits is at home, no matter how smart your children are,Whether they know it or not, parents should cultivate their children\’s awareness and habits of not taking advantage of opportunities, studying seriously, and doing things seriously. When children encounter difficulties, it is a good opportunity to cultivate this awareness and habit. Parents should find ways to accompany their children to the end, rather than wavering, complaining, or just turning their backs. At this time, your attitude is very subtly affecting the child\’s psychology, and your actions set an example of \”doing\” for the child. Those children who have developed lazy habits are not hopeless. However, children alone cannot overcome this long-standing bad habit. He needs the full support and help of his parents, as well as their understanding and patience. I hope that more and more parents will wake up and invest in scientific family education. Parents must learn to really care – spend money wisely, and education should not be blindly followed, but should be suitable for children. Use inspections instead of nagging, pay more attention to children\’s learning, and discover problems in time; be firm enough to discipline, do not indulge, do not be lazy, and protect the growth of children. Children must learn to work hard – be proactive, regard learning as their own business, and regard learning as the most important thing; think positively, preview before class, review after class, and ask for advice in time when they encounter something they don’t understand; study actively, and learn more Write more, read more, practice more, and take every assignment seriously. 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