Youth mental health education is indispensable, especially when your child exhibits these 5 behaviors

Hello everyone, I am Douya’s mother. Looking at the news, there have been too many tragedies of children committing suicide and jumping off buildings in the past two years, including the recent incident of a boy jumping off a building in Chengdu. One after another, one by one, they are hitting the fragile nerves of parents. It is difficult to explain why children do this with one reason. Children who commit suicide have their own troubles. Perhaps in the eyes of our parents, it may be as trivial as a sesame seed, but to our children, it is a matter as big as the sky. \”Why is a good child depressed?\” \”How could a child commit suicide for no reason?\” There are traces of everything that happens. Is there really no sign before a child does something that hurts himself? Not necessarily, it’s just that the parents didn’t notice it in time. Actively pay attention to the child\’s mental health and provide timely guidance so that the child will not have thoughts of self-destruction. If your child exhibits any of the following behaviors, be extra vigilant. Recommended scientific parenting books. I really wish my parents had read this book. Download the electronic version. Vol. 1 hates learning and has particularly poor concentration. I met a mother before and her education method was very suffocating. The boy originally had poor math scores. As he learned more and more content, he could not keep up with the teacher\’s progress. How did this mother treat her son? She always scolds the child for being stupid and puts other children down on him. Almost every time the results come out, you can hear her roaring and scolding. This also created a vicious cycle. The more his mother scolded him, the more he felt that it was impossible for him to learn mathematics well. He became disgusted with learning and slowly became addicted to mobile games. Later, after having more contact with the child, I discovered that it was not that he didn\’t want to learn mathematics at all, but that he really couldn\’t learn it. But his mother didn\’t even ask him where he couldn\’t learn it, and would just belittle him. When a child shows extreme aversion to learning, this is actually a signal for help from the child, hoping that his parents can help him overcome this learning obstacle. Therefore, when a child cannot sit still while doing a problem, his eyes are empty, and his concentration is not good, it is not advisable to scold the child for being stupid, and saying \”you can definitely do it\” seems useless, because he just can\’t. To truly help children, we must identify the root cause of the disease and prescribe the right medicine. For example, if a child cannot keep up with the teacher\’s lectures, we can help the child catch up on the knowledge points every day, teach the child in vivid and interesting language, and give the child more examples. The examples will be more impressive and easier to understand. If a child has difficulty solving problems due to lack of knowledge, he or she can play role-playing games. Let the children be the teachers and the parents the students. Get a small blackboard and ask them to tell you about the new content they learned today. This will strengthen the children\’s memory and make it much easier to solve the questions. This trick is not only for children with weak foundation, but all children can try it. There is a mother on Weibo who used this method and achieved great results. Her Weibo post also attracted the approval of many parents. \”To be smart, I didn\’t sign up for my child\’s class, but signed up for my child\’s class! Prepare a whiteboard and eraser, and let my child tell me the daily lessons. A class costs five yuan, which is much cheaper than enrolling in a class!\” In short, when When a child hates learning, never subjectively blame the child for not working hard. He may really not be able to learn a certain knowledge point. All we can do is to learn from the bottom of our hearts.Accept the child and give him real help. Vol.2 Harm Your Own Body has a very heartbreaking saying: \”If you scold a child, he will not stop loving you, but he will stop loving himself.\” For children who do not yet know how to deal with emotions, when too much has accumulated in their hearts, they will stop loving you. When there is too much negative energy and parents are indifferent, it is easy to fall into a situation of isolation and helplessness. Some children will also get into trouble and do things that hurt themselves. There was a girl suffering from depression who cried and talked about her pain. She said she had mutilated herself countless times without her mother knowing, and thought about dying countless times without anyone knowing. Because her brother was about to take the high school entrance examination, her mother\’s thoughts were all on her. When she wanted to tell her mother about her sadness, she found that her mother was not interested in listening at all and interrupted her several times. She could only hide in bed and cry alone. The mother missed the opportunity to listen to the child\’s grievances this time. The child may close his heart in the future, and then the barriers and distance will take advantage of it. There is a famous saying in psychology: Where there is no response, there is a hopeless situation. When the child’s cries are not answered again and again, the calls for help are ignored again and again, and the grievances have nowhere to vent, in the long run, the child will fall into doubt and anxiety about life and himself. Especially when a child bites his nails, bangs his head, beats himself, cuts his wrists, etc., it indicates that there are serious cracks in his psychology, and the psychological pain can be temporarily vented through physical mutilation. Parents should pay attention to their own education methods at this time, whether they put too much pressure on their children, whether they are too strict with their children, whether they only focus on grades and ignore mental health, etc. There is a mother around me who holds parent-child symposiums every week. Everyone shares their happiness and unhappiness. She said that this way she can know the child\’s status, so that when the child encounters grievances, he will understand, Dad His mother is always behind him and is his most powerful support. For children, no matter how big the obstacles are, parents\’ encouragement and love are like timely rain and help in the snow, which is more important than anything else. Vol.3 Often threatens to run away from home. News about children running away from home is not uncommon. They run away because of poor grades and are afraid of punishment. They run away because of quarrels. They run away because they are beaten and scolded by their parents… Home should be the best place for children. In a place where there is a sense of security and belonging, why would children rather venture outside than live under the same roof with their parents? There may be elements of children\’s anger and reckless willfulness, but more often there is a communication problem between parents and children. A girl had an argument with her mother two days ago. Her mother locked her in the room angrily and went about her own business. Unexpectedly, the child unlocked the door and ran away from home. The police saw the girl crying on the street in the rain and listened to the child\’s complaints. In order to calm her mood, the super patient police officer gave the child guidance for nearly three hours. The mother came to the police station to pick up the child, and realized that she had treated the child too roughly. She promised to have a good communication in the future, and the mother and daughter were relieved. When children often say that they want to run away from home, parents should not take it as a joke, but should listen to their children\’s voices. Children would rather go outside to find warmth than listen to their parents’ opinionsMy harsh criticism is enough to show that the children no longer trust their parents and no longer open up to their parents easily. This time I may have run away from home, but next time I may really hide far away from my parents to prevent them from finding me. Running away from home is a signal, telling us that we should change our harsh education methods, put down our condescending attitude, chat candidly with our children, and listen patiently to his defense. Reshape children\’s expectations for home and parents. If there is a home that they want to return to and they can complain about their sufferings, they will not easily go to extremes. Vol.4 suddenly stopped playing with friends. People are social animals. Social interaction is a very important part of children\’s campus life. The friendship brought by peers also has a great influence on children. However, because children go straight, it is easy to cause friction and collision. Some children can just laugh and get over it. Some children with sensitive minds will have a strong sense of loss and frustration when they have conflicts with their friends, and may even Like a big mountain, the child can\’t breathe. My cousin\’s 5-year-old child is a particularly sensitive child. Since he has been taken care of by his grandma for the past few years, in order for the child to not cry, make trouble, and cause trouble, the grandma often lets the child stay at home and watch cartoons, and rarely allows the child to go out and interact with other children. Children playing. At this time, the child went to kindergarten, and there was no social space. He especially wanted to blend in with other children. It was okay when he got along well. Once there was a conflict with other children, the cousin would panic when he found out about his son. Gradually, he would not Don’t dare to play with others again. My cousin realized that her son had no social experience and would avoid conflicts when encountering conflicts. He was afraid of quarreling with others, so she patiently shared her childhood experiences with her son and told him that no matter how good friends were, they would quarrel and that it was no one\’s fault. Enjoy the process. Then she told the child that she could invite her good friends to play at home to exercise the child\’s ability to get along with others. The child gradually started to talk more and was no longer timid. No child does not need friends. Even if he only has one friend, he can still be illuminated by the sunshine of friendship. When your child suddenly loses a friend, don\’t treat it as a trivial matter. Talk to your child more and resolve his doubts and worries. Educational Psychology Book Recommendation: Psychology and Life pdf Baidu Netdisk Chinese 19th Edition + English 20th Edition In the Korean movie \”Our World\”, the introverted and kind-hearted Li Shan was depressed because he could not make friends. After making a friend and then being betrayed, the girl\’s heart suffered two consecutive blows. Parents who are busy making a living have no time to care about Li Shan. This girl with broken nails is extremely distressing. Children long for friendship, but they are also easily hurt by friendship. Parents\’ gentle guidance and patient listening at this time are as essential as drinking water and eating. Vol.5 Children can\’t stop talking. If your child keeps interrupting you and talking to you, it means that he lacks the attention of his parents and can only use this method to win attention. One time I went to a restaurant for dinner, and the boss was not very busy at that time. When her son saw his mother watching videos, he ran into her arms and wanted to tell her an interesting anecdote about what happened today. The mother said there He responded without a word, still staring at the screen. The child also looks at his motherWithout looking at himself, he deliberately spoke loudly. The mother still ignored him at this time. The child was so angry that he kicked the stool and made noise. Only then did the mother react and scold her son. The child ran away from him in aggrieved manner. Went to the house. I was eating while I was very anxious for my child. In fact, my child\’s request was very simple. He just wanted his mother to hear him say something and let her praise him, so he kept talking. Psychologist Weber proposed a term called \”childhood emotional neglect\”, which refers to the psychological trauma caused to children by their parents\’ failure to respond adequately to their children\’s emotions during childhood. When you are constantly playing with your mobile phone, you may miss an opportunity to talk to your children. When you are busy with trivial matters, your children may also be eagerly waiting for your response. Just like non-stop talking, behind the act of acting out and being rebellious, there is a search for the missing love and care. It is not only giving abundant material things and beautiful toys to children that can be called loving children. Spend more time with your children, talk to them more, and actively participate in their growth. This is the source of happiness for your children throughout their lives. When the above five signs appear, it is your child who is looking for care and help from you. How to Cultivate Children\’s Concentration Training Manual Video Course Section 53 Behind any behavior, there is the child\’s inner appeal. Only by understanding the child\’s psychology can you enter the child\’s heart. When a child feels accepted, understood, and loved, he will have great strength and will not do stupid things.