What are the dangers of parents spoiling their children too much?

This is a letter from a mother to her son: Son, today, you once again inadvertently reminded your mother that housing prices in the urban area have risen again. If you don’t take action, you and your girlfriend will not even have a small house to live in. there is none left. This time, I had no reaction, let alone the answer you had been waiting for: Mom bought it for you. In an instant, the atmosphere became solemn, silent, and awkward. As expected, you slammed the door angrily and left. Standing in front of the window, watching your figure walking away, so thin and lazy, I suddenly realized that you are so willful that you don\’t know what independence is, and you still habitually cling to your parents\’ arms. But, dear son, you are already 25 years old, have a stable job, a girlfriend who needs care, and two parents who are getting older and need your care. Aren\’t these enough to make you mature and make you happy? Are you going to completely leave your parents\’ wings, let go of your laziness, and shoulder the responsibilities of an adult on your own? I remember that since you were very young, you were used to asking your mother for anything. You always say: \”Mom, my clothes are dirty, please help me wash them.\” \”Mom, we will go on an outing tomorrow, please help me pack the luggage.\” \”Mom, my girlfriend wants to eat jealous eggplant, Remember to do it for her after work.\” I have always been accustomed to listening to your instructions. I always thought that you would remember every good thing you did to you, and when we grow old in the future, we can get the same careful care from you. and care. And your father and I also saved every penny and opened a separate account for you in the bank, just so that one day, when you have your own little family, we can withdraw the money and give you a share. Real help. But now, I have discovered that this way of sacrificing myself and doing my best for you has not cultivated the child we want who knows how to cherish, but has instead created a social outcast with diminished wings and a severely weakened will. The more we love you and condone your endless dependence and demands on your parents, the more selfishness and laziness in your heart will grow endlessly… When you were 5 years old, you asked your mother to help you sort out the toys on the floor; 10 When you were 15 years old, you saw the stylish leather shoes on the feet of your classmates, and you cried and asked me to buy them too; when you were 15 years old, you wrote a love letter to the girls in the class, saying: \”My mother knows many people, who will bully you?\” , just tell me\”; when you were 20 years old, you were in college, and every time you called, you always complained about how terrible the food in the cafeteria was. Now, you come home every day to have a meal, and you often bring your girlfriend back to live with you. While I am working, I have to work hard to provide you with three meals a day. With all this busyness, I couldn\’t even squeeze out a smile. I finally admit that my unbridled love for you over the past 25 years has been a big mistake. Dear child, I have to tell you cruelly that your life before today was closely related to me, and I will no longer care about your future path. Please, like those who are self-reliant, move away from your parents and rent a house with your own salary. I will give you encouragement and courage, but I will not give you any more financial help. Son, mom is so sorry, I shouldn’t love you like this. And you should also feel guilty for what you did. Then, justLet’s forgive each other and start over. Where is the line between respecting children and doting on them?  It is worth pondering for every parent. Every mother loves her children. From the moment the child is born, mothers put all their love and thoughts on their children and worry about their children. \”No matter how hard it is, you can\’t hurt your children.\” Driven by this idea, mothers always respond to their children\’s requests without complaining. It is because of this excessive, excessive, and unconditional love that makes children dependent and think that Mother\’s love should be like this. When he grows up, he still hopes that his mother will love him with all her strength. In fact, maternal love can be selfless, but it must have conditions and boundaries, otherwise your love may become a harm to your child. Because of your blind dedication, the child may not be independent, have no sense of responsibility, and have no sense of responsibility… Whoever dotes on a child will one day bandage the child\’s wounds. Moms, please stop giving your children the wrong kind of love!