How to cultivate children\’s interest in learning?

Faced with children studying online at home, how do parents guide and accompany their children? What should parents do if their children have problems such as insufficient independent learning ability, procrastination in learning, insufficient concentration, and poor self-discipline? Family is a child\’s closest classroom and first school, and parents are their children\’s first teachers. Parents spend every day answering questions for themselves and modeling their children\’s lives. Here we have sorted out several common problems and corresponding strategies, I hope it will be helpful to everyone. How to stimulate children\’s interest in learning? Teaching by example is better than teaching by words. The best education is by example. If we take the lead and lead by example, we will naturally have enough confidence to make demands on our children. Education with confidence is effective education. Even if no request is made to the child, the child is unconsciously affected by it. How to stimulate students\’ learning interest and motivation. Download the full video. Parents accompany their children to study together. Generally speaking, people are social animals, and children studying alone at home are more likely to develop negative emotions. If you don\’t go to work, as a parent, you might as well read a book, read a newspaper, and do something to improve yourself while your children are studying. In this way, the child will feel more peaceful. Let\’s \”pay attention together\” The online world is vast and boundless, and it is difficult to distinguish between true and false information, which can easily make children lose their way. As a parent, you should spread more official and true information to your children, filter out emotional texts, push rational articles, watch high-value film and television programs with your children, and check from the source to provide healthy and fertile resources for your children\’s growth. Soil. Things you need to know about the school. As a parent, you should pay attention to the school\’s information, understand the school\’s requirements, and know how the school teaches. Only by understanding can we help. This does not require parents to take over everything, but to observe from the sidelines, be prepared to make corrections, and remind supervision when necessary. If you take it seriously, your children will take it seriously too. If you don\’t pay attention to it, the possibility of your child being random will increase. Come in and take a look, it is worth a thousand words. Countless practices have proven that supervised learning behavior is often more efficient. As a parent, it is necessary to fulfill the responsibilities of observation, reminder, and feedback. Otherwise, learning will be just a formality and lack actual results. Walking in is a kind of close contact, which contains two meanings. Go into the room and see if the child is listening to the class, whether he is in good condition, and whether he is taking class notes. Open the homework and take a look, see the quantity of writing, and get a preliminary understanding of the quality of the completion. You don\’t have to be a professional, but as long as you open their homework and read their books, you can basically understand the same thing. . Helping to set high aspirations Some parents believe that it is the role of schools to set high aspirations. In fact, families also have the same task. Great ambition is an important factor in maintaining a child\’s lasting motivation for learning. So, what to do? Guide children to \”sweep the house\”. Parents can set up a \”family note board\” to let children see problems in the family and listen to how children view and solve problems. Guide children to \”see the world\”, and over time, children\’s learning motivation will change. When such children grow up, when the country needs it and the people need it,When faced with dilemmas, we can be more determined, not entangled, and not confused. Establishing ambitions from an early age will have a good impact on children\’s will, vision and way of thinking. Parents should let their children understand that your world is not only about learning, but also about life outside. Help your children slowly understand: what is meant by \”respecting knowledge and reverence for nature\”, \”seeking truth from facts and adhering to the truth\”, \”standing up and not being afraid in the face of danger\” and \”responsibility\”. Take responsibility and take positive actions.” At the same time, we must also let our children realize that there are all kinds of life in society, and understand what it means to be \”negligent and timid\”, \”adding fuel to the flames, having no position\”, and \”seeking profit without a bottom line\”. How to keep children focused? It is not easy to cultivate children\’s ability to be quiet and focused. There are a few tips: It is best for the whole family to do one thing at the same time. You should have a high-quality time with your children and family members. When parents and children work together, the chances of success will be greatly increased. Make an \”Electronic Prison\” When reading and writing together as a family, put all electronic products such as mobile phones and tablets into a box. This box is called an electronic prison. Learning in a focused state is extremely efficient. Start with reading and writing Why is reading and writing the easiest place to start? Reading and writing require no threshold. As long as you can read, speak, have ideas, and have memory, you can read and write. My method of \”treating\” the monkey-shaped doll starting from three minutes is to ask him to keep writing for three minutes and keep writing – first let the child go to the toilet, drink good water, and ensure that three pens can work smoothly, and then give him A three-minute hourglass tells the children: As long as they fill three minutes, they don’t have to write anything anymore. Children over 6 years old only need to be given three minutes to start writing, and they can usually write for 15 to 20 minutes. What should I do if my child can’t stick to the plan? Why do children always resist plans? This is because the child has two major needs that have not been met. One need is called a sense of control, and he feels that he has no sense of control over things. The other need is a sense of value, and the child\’s sense of value has not been satisfied. First, before making plans, ask your children: What things do you particularly want to do? Did you feel so happy after doing it that you didn’t want to stay in bed when you opened your eyes in the morning? You have to respect your child\’s true answers. If a child does not do something he particularly wants to do, he will resist the plan. No matter how wise or great the plan is, children will resist it. The second is that the child\’s sense of value must be satisfied. When a child likes writing, it is usually when he makes a major breakthrough and writes a good article. Only when a person meets the challenge and achieves success will he like something. The content of the plan should consist of things that both parents and children find valuable. Therefore, our plan must include these two parts: what we want to do and what we should do. A plan that has a sense of value and control can be executed and is worth executing. Why are plans never completed? Because there are no details. What does a plan look like that is easy to execute? For example, in the picture above: 9:00~10:00 is for learning English. As mentioned later, it is Lesson 5 of Intensive Reading, where you plan to learn exactly what to study. What to read? Specifies which book to readBook. What is social? How to plan for social networking? You can make an appointment with social partners in advance, agree on specific time and social projects, and make the plan as detailed as when, with whom, and how to play. Such a plan will be easy to implement. From these details, you can see that this is a plan with an extremely strong will to execute. This is the ability to make plans. First, the child\’s sense of control and value need to be satisfied when setting the plan. Second, we must implement it concretely and in detail. How to improve children\’s self-discipline ability? Start with a collective contract. Before children have developed self-discipline, replace self-discipline with constructive heterodiscipline – collective contract, and set aside time for cultivating self-discipline. The details that need to be noted are that family conventions, class management conventions, activity group activity conventions, etc. should all be co-created by children under the guidance of parents or teachers. During the creation process, the basic principles of fairness and justice, balance of responsibilities and rights, full discussion, one-case-by-case discussion, and majority ruling should be adhered to, highlighting the convention\’s conventional nature (the rules are clearly stated in advance, and the matter is not the person), and the instrumentality (nothing is done morally). (Nothing can be solved with tools, no unwarranted elevation or accusation), value neutral (aims to gather organizational identity, improve operational efficiency, and balance diverse interests). Parents or teachers should also be equal parts of it and cannot be arrogant. A system unilaterally formulated by parents or teachers may arouse children\’s confrontation, or only require children to do it, but parents or teachers fail to set an example, which will make the contract unfair. Only when children participate in co-creation and harmony Only the contract that parents abide by together is vital and everyone will abide by it. The management system must be appropriate. The management system should not be one-size-fits-all. For example, during home study, you can work out a mobile phone usage schedule with your children. For example, you can agree to use your mobile phone during these two time periods (15:00-16:00 in the afternoon and 19:00-20:00 in the evening) to upload homework. , answer questions, share summaries, browse news, etc., fully think and communicate, and spark sparks of thinking. The more self-disciplined the children are, the greater their authority to use mobile phones will be. Users who violate regulations will be demoted, their permissions will be reduced, and they will be banned from using mobile phones for a full period of time. This management system is set up so that everyone can understand the truth: the more self-disciplined, the more freedom, so that everyone can cultivate their own self-discipline ability. Help children clarify their goals, break them down, and achieve goals that truly come from their hearts. Only then can children have the inner strength to fight for them. Only when it is written out in writing and has extremely clear goals can children sort out their own goals. For example: I will study mathematics hard this semester, I will read more this semester, etc. This is not a good goal, but can only be regarded as a good intention. It is not clear to what extent it can be achieved, and it is easy to be compromised in the implementation. If it is planned that \”my math score will be improved from C grade to B grade this semester, or I will read six books, including a well-known domestic classical novel, a well-known foreign science fiction novel, a biography, and a philosophy book, \”An introductory book, a modern European history book and a travel book\”, is there any success in executing it?The discounts are clear and easy to self-monitor. Sharing your goals with your best friends or posting them will help urge you to fulfill your commitments. If this is combined with a creative contractual reward and punishment system, the effect will be better and children will be more willing to persist. We need to have a sense of ritual when we do this, and we need to give our next actions a sense of meaning. The more meaningful a thing is to us, the more we are willing to persist. The child will not grow up to be what we want him to be, he will most likely grow up to be what we want him to be. In this sense, only highly self-disciplined parents and teachers can cultivate highly self-disciplined children. There are no shortcuts, and precisely because there are no shortcuts, the acquisition of this quality is so precious. Where to start creating a positive and healthy parent-child relationship? You can let your children participate in family affairs, clean together, cook together, read a book together, discuss a topic together, and share each other\’s learning insights. The family check-in plan is an activity that can quickly unite family dynamics. You can pick a goal to check in together, and then complete the check-in task within the specified time in the form you like. In addition, pay attention to these details in your daily life: The bottom line should be clear. Let your children understand that rules need to be followed and cannot be changed at will. Rewards and punishments must be clear. Punishment is not corporal punishment. When a child does not do well, a thing can be canceled. Rewards must be timely, such as encouraging children: It’s great to see you overcome the little glutton and wait patiently for everyone to eat together! Electronic use by children of any age must be limited to no more than 20 or 40 minutes at a time. If the child is young, no more than 20 minutes; for senior children, no more than 40 minutes is best. No more than twice a day, preferably at a fixed time. Know what you are doing and stick to the bottom line. While at home, parents should estimate how long it will take their children to complete their homework and how they will complete it. Let your children understand that if parents check their homework and find that it has not been completed, there will be a price to pay. This is often said to be more strict and watchful, and it also depends on whether parents can maintain the bottom line. It requires both empathy and hard control. Many parents are afraid of their children crying. When faced with their children\’s crying, the key is to calm them down. Don\’t try to reason too much with your children, but your parents\’ attitude should be gentle but firm. When a child needs to end the game, he or she can say: \”You have to end it. We can still have time to play games tomorrow.\” Therefore, parents need to use a calm tone to convey the awareness of the rules to their children and let them understand that the rules are necessary. Observed and cannot be changed at will. How to stay calm when encountering problems and grow together with your children? How to control emotions when dealing with children? As a parent, it is important to block negative emotions in time, take a deep breath, and seize the time to think about the following. First, remove yourself and rationally observe what you feel and think. This is the first step to re-evaluate. Second, ask yourself why you are angry. You may say, \”Because my son is too stupid, what will I do in the future?\” At this time, you have to stop and say again, \”I have an idea. My son is too stupid. What should I do in the future?\” That is, you need to add the prefix \”I have an idea.\” Because it\’s only yoursIdeas, ideas are not facts, avoid confusing ideas with facts. The third step is to cut off the wrong logical chain. For example, there may be a negative correlation between good grades and success and happiness. Life success, living standards, and quality of life may be more closely related to variables such as personality integrity and values. Happiness is not a state, but an ability, the perception of happiness. The opposite of happiness is not unhappiness but numbness. Step 4: Dance with discomfort. Sometimes the survival instinct formed by evolution is our enemy. The survival instinct makes us feel uncomfortable with many things, things, and situations in order to increase the body\’s vigilance, respond promptly and appropriately, and improve the probability of survival. But when our \”discomfort threshold\” drops lower and lower, to an unreasonable level, our life becomes unbearable, and we will fall into bad behavior patterns, which will affect the health and even lives of ourselves and those around us. causing devastating effects. Some things, things, and situations that make you feel uncomfortable should be peacefully coexisting with them, dancing with them, restraining each other, and forming a balance. In fact, they are part of your life. Understand these principles, comply with the laws of nature, do things without doing anything, and teach without words.