How to cultivate children’s quality education?

Parents\’ cultivation and habits are the best or worst education. My friend\’s daughter is over 1 year old. He told me that although he doesn\’t like reading, he forces himself to read every day. The purpose is to let his young daughter see her father reading, and her daughter will also like reading and learning. While lamenting that being a parent is not easy, I also agree with my friend\’s understanding of this aspect. This move can indeed serve as a good role model for young children. However, many parents don\’t understand this. Qiangqiang\’s mother is very upset recently. Qiangqiang is only 3 years old, but she is often constipated. When I asked about Qiangqiang\’s diet, I learned that Qiangqiang only likes to eat meat and doesn\’t eat much vegetables or fruits. After further research, I found that there was a reason for Qiangqiang\’s picky eating, and Qiangqiang\’s parents also had the same eating habits. Such situations abound in life. Are eating habits, words and deeds inherited? Of course not, but these can be imitated and learned. The father uses fists and kicks to educate his son, who often fights with children in kindergarten. He requires his daughter to behave dignified and be polite to others, but the mother uses harsh words to the neighbors. The purpose of education by British educator Whitehead PDF The family is the first and most important environment for children to grow up, and it may accompany the child throughout his life. A Chinese proverb, \”Like father, like son,\” confirms the impact of parents\’ behavior on their children. Children who are just a few months old begin to learn language from their parents by babbling, and they start to toddle around one year old. After a child learns to speak and walk, the intonation of his speech and the way he walks may bear traces of his parents. This is true in It is especially obvious in young children (before kindergarten). Children are in the \”map age\” before the age of 3. They regard people\’s behavior patterns as some maps and learn various behaviors according to these maps. To organize the family, the first priority is to cultivate oneself. \”Han Feizi\” once recorded the story of \”Zengzi killing pigs\”. Zeng Zi\’s wife goes to market, his son is crying to be troubled by her. His mother says to him: \”You go home first, and after I come back, I will kill a pig for you to eat.\” When his wife came back from market, Zeng Zi wanted to catch a pig and prepare to kill it. His wife stopped him and said, \”I was just joking with my son.\” Zengzi said, \”You can\’t joke with your son. Your son doesn\’t understand anything. He only learns from his parents and obeys their instructions. Now If you deceive him, you are teaching him to deceive. A mother deceives her son, and the son does not believe his mother. This is not the right way to educate a child.\” So Zengzi cooked pigs for the child to eat. The story of Zengzi killing a pig tells us that as parents, we must pay attention to our own words and deeds, because this is really related to the growth and education of our children. \”Four Books: Great Learning\” once said: \”In ancient times, if you want to bring enlightenment to the world, you must first govern your country; if you want to govern your country, you must first regulate your family; if you want to regulate your family, you must first cultivate yourself.\” We must manage the family well. , The key to educating children well is self-cultivation. This shows how much influence parents’ words and deeds have on their children. Teaching by example, the so-called teaching by example, is a way of education that directly or affects children through one\’s own actual actions. Teaching by example is one of the most important and frequent forms of education in family education. Regardless of whether parents consciouslyUnconsciously, their own behavior plays a certain educational role. Children have less social experience and narrow social contacts. Parents will naturally become role models for them to imitate, and parents will become their earliest and longest-serving teachers. Suhomlinsky, a famous educationist from the former Soviet Union, once said: \”The comprehensive development of a person depends on what kind of person the mother and father are in front of the children, and how the children understand the relationship between people from the examples of their parents.\” Relationships and social environment.\” This shows the important role of parents\’ actual actions. Using the education method of teaching by example, first of all, parents are required to pay strict attention to their own cultivation. Our country has attached great importance to self-cultivation since ancient times. The impact of parents’ words and deeds on children. Overdressing can easily mislead children into following fashion. Parents’ overdressing can easily set a bad example of fashionable appearance for their children, making them mistakenly believe that fashionable dressing is important, encouraging children’s consumer psychology of following fashion and wearing famous brands, and distracting children from their studies. Parents should teach their children to dress generously and neatly, which is more respected than fashionable clothes and brand-name clothes, and let their children develop thrifty and clean dressing habits. Pay attention to cultivating children\’s healthy habits and encourage them to participate in physical exercises such as walking and playing ball. Quarrels and fights can easily mislead children into violence. If parents often use quarrels to resolve differences of opinion that occur in daily life, or even fight with each other with fists and kicks, it is easy to mislead their children into misunderstandings that \”quarrels and fights can also solve problems\”, causing children to imitate their parents\’ use of fists to solve problems when playing with children. Disputes that occur at times encourage children\’s violent tendencies. Therefore, when couples have disagreements over trivial family matters, they should calmly communicate and negotiate to resolve them, and never quarrel loudly or get physical in front of their children. Being obsessed with the Internet can easily mislead children into becoming addicted to the Internet. When some parents have free time, they either use their mobile phones to play WeChat, play games, or chat online, which will attract their children to become interested in mobile phones and the online world. However, since mobile phones and computer screens radiate, excessive screen exposure time will affect children\’s sleep and lead to a decrease in children\’s interest in learning and academic performance. Children playing with mobile phones during meals can also distract their appetite, affect weight gain, etc. However, some parents tell their children not to play with mobile phones during meals while they themselves use their smartphones to send WeChat messages. As the saying goes, teaching by words is worse than teaching by example. Families with children should formulate rules for the use of mobile phones and computers and require all family members to abide by them, so as to better prevent children from developing Internet addiction. Making irresponsible remarks can easily mislead children into despising moral education. Many parents, especially women, always like to make irresponsible remarks about other people\’s looks or behaviors. Some parents gossip and do not pay attention to avoid their children, making their children feel that it is okay to say bad things about others behind their backs. Gradually, their children learn this behavior. Children with this kind of bad behavior will develop from talking about others behind their backs to making up \”stories\” about children, instigating relationships between children, and then telling lies to deceive parents or teachers, which seriously endangers the children\’s moral education and is not conducive to the children\’s thinking and morality. Quality cultivation. Therefore, as parents, we must set a good example for our children. Even if there are people or things that need to be discussed, we must avoid them to avoid disturbing them.If children are adversely affected, we must pay more attention to educating children to respect others. Criticizing and complaining can easily mislead children into lacking self-esteem. Some parents often criticize and complain about unsatisfactory work, body dissatisfaction, unhappiness in life, lack of money, etc. This will affect their children\’s self-confidence and cause self-esteem problems. Suppose your father often complains about unsatisfactory work and has low self-esteem. This will send the wrong message to children, especially boys, that \”Dad is incompetent and I will be stupid too\”, weakening the self-esteem of those children who have difficulty studying and have poor academic performance, leading to failure to make progress. Therefore, if you are unsatisfied in work and life, go to your pillow or your lover to get comfort. Don\’t criticize and complain about your children. Comparison and preaching can easily mislead children into rebellion. Some parents always like to compare themselves with others in everything. Their jobs are not as good as their friends\’, their incomes are not as high as their neighbors\’, their children\’s studies are not as good as their classmates, etc. They often educate their children by saying, \”Look at the kids next door,\” or \”How is your classmate so-and-so?\” , \”Why can\’t you be as motivated as other people\’s children?\” etc. Both adults and children have self-esteem. How about saying \”good children are exaggerated\”? For children, such comparisons and preaching will not only fail to mobilize their enthusiasm, but will easily lead to rebellious psychology. Smoking and alcoholism can easily lead children to develop bad habits. Some parents often resort to drinking to relieve their worries due to social interactions and heavy work pressure. This will convey to their children the wrong message that smoking can make friends and drinking can relieve stress. Over time, children will feel that smoking is attractive to men, imitate adults and secretly smoke cigarettes, try drinking to relieve study pressure, and gradually develop a liking for tobacco and alcohol, or even become addicted. Parents themselves should find more active ways to relieve stress, such as exercising, traveling outdoors, meditating, chatting with friends, etc. and staying away from tobacco and alcohol.