How to educate rebellious children

When children have \”growth problems\”, the cause can usually be found in their parents. What\’s more important is that parents should live their own lives and let energy focus on their own lives. A key reason why too many Chinese parents pay too much attention to their children is that their lives are already boring. Don\’t rush to say \”My child has a problem\” because it is very likely that the problem is with the parents themselves. Here I would like to give some suggestions to mothers: 1. Don’t be eager to thoroughly understand your children who have entered adolescence. As long as the children keep the bottom line of “study well and don’t do bad things”, don’t always think about having a heart-to-heart talk with your children. 2. Don’t always focus on the “problems” of your children. Adolescent children will naturally have many problems. This is determined by the development characteristics of adolescence. 3. Respect the rebellious wishes of adolescent children. If you let them develop on their own and give them sufficient space to grow independently, most of their rebellious behaviors will naturally disappear. 4. Reflect on yourself, are you particularly afraid of your children leaving you? We recommend 12 inspirational movies suitable for children to watch during the holidays. After watching them, you will naturally stop playing with your phone. 5. Enrich your own life. If your own life is not boring or empty, then you will not be too clingy to your children. 6. Improve your relationship with your husband, shift your emotional focus from your relationship with your children to your relationship with your husband, and let your husband fill your emotional hole. The Master’s insights: 1. Parents pay too much attention to their children, but “overwhelm the children”, so the probability of children having problems is relatively high. 2. It is unrealistic to \”expect your children to have a heart-to-heart relationship with you forever\”, especially for children in high school. If your child can always have a heart-to-heart relationship with you, it must be a very harmonious and commendable family atmosphere. 3. Don’t be your child’s manager, be his friend. 4. It is normal for children, especially adolescent children, to have problems. Pay more attention to the children\’s strengths. A person\’s success is to magnify the advantages and minimize the disadvantages. 5. Parents should enrich their lives. Give yourself space and give your children space. Parents who love life will have children who love life, are positive, optimistic, and healthy.