What to do if you have adolescent children at home

When I lived near No. 1 Middle School, I would occasionally go to Laoman Casserole to eat mutton and pickled cabbage pot. At that time, the mutton was relatively pure and naturally tasted delicious. After so many years, sometimes I still go back and regain the satisfaction of my taste buds and feel nostalgic. That day, when I just sat down, a woman at the table across from me looked at me intently for a while, and then said, \”It\’s Momo\’s mother, do you still recognize me?\” I looked at her face and recognized her. It turned out to be her. The mother of her son’s kindergarten classmate in Cambridge. How could a person who was so outstanding back then become so haggard? Seeing my confused expression, she laughed at herself and said, \”Are you too old to recognize me?\” I couldn\’t say it directly, so I just laughed and said, \”What a coincidence, I haven\’t seen you for almost twenty years, right?\” When the child was in kindergarten, her son could be regarded as the best in the class. He had thick eyebrows and big eyes, was good at studying, and was very popular with the kindergarten teacher. She herself is a strong woman, one of the few parents of female college students in that era, and she works in design in a unit. She also has very high requirements for her children. She named her child \”Cambridge\” because she hopes that her son will enter a prestigious school and achieve a great career in the future. Before finishing the kindergarten class, she sent Cambridge to primary school one year ahead of schedule. Duel? Don’t compete with adolescent children. High-definition scan and PDF download. When Cambridge was in the fourth grade of primary school, I met her again. It was obvious that she was very happy that time, saying that her child was doing well in studies and did not fall out of the top five in the class. \”I will be responsible for the logistics, provide food and drinks, watch him finish his homework every day, and then accompany him to do a few sets of papers.\” A primary school student, after finishing his homework, asked him to do a few sets of papers, so he could rest. Time? I don\’t agree with her tactics of asking questions, but she said that she has formed a habit and the children did not express that they cannot accept it. I didn’t say much. Every child has his or her own education method. Seeing how caring Cambridge’s mother is for her children, I sincerely admire her and feel that hard work pays off and Cambridge will definitely make a difference. In the blink of an eye, when I see her again, my child should have graduated from college, but she has become so vicissitudes of life. Is it because she has worried too much over the years, or has other changes occurred? Since we hadn\’t seen each other for many years, and we weren\’t very familiar with each other at first, we didn\’t talk much. She had a simple meal, packed another meal to take away, and asked for my contact information before leaving. Not long after, I received a call from her, saying she wanted me to help her contact a psychological counselor. She did not shy away from her old age and directly brought the topic to her children. It turned out that Cambridge did not get into a prestigious school as my mother expected, but only an ordinary one. What is puzzling is that when he was in his third year of college, Cambridge suddenly gave up studying. He stayed alone in the newly purchased rough house at home and refused to meet anyone. I helped her contact the psychological counseling teacher and agreed to contact the child in the name of a decoration company designing a new house. I didn\’t get satisfactory feedback after that, and I couldn\’t help but feel vaguely worried about this child. If there are good results after counseling, she will not fail to share it with me. Afterwards, I thought that most of the young people of Cambridge’s generation were only children who were born and grew up with a golden key in their hands, and theyI have never experienced the test of strong winds and waves, and everything is self-centered. When the living environment cannot fully meet their own requirements, many things in society are very different from their ideals, and many children cannot adapt. It is inevitable to have psychological problems of one kind or another. As a parent, it is normal to hope that your children will succeed and your daughters will succeed. However, you must also consider the characteristics and preferences of your children and choose the direction suitable for their development to guide them. You cannot generalize and train them all according to one model and toward one goal. It’s okay to have a high spirit, but it must be consistent with objective reality. There are indeed some good people among people, but most people are just ordinary people. They are just unknown people. Why should children have to work hard to achieve that elusive goal? You train him and constrain him as an outstanding top talent. One day, when he finds that no matter how hard he tries, he can\’t reach it, other than giving up in frustration, how many people will bite the bullet and hold on? If he quits midway, can he still muster the courage to choose again? Children must adopt educational methods that match this period in each period of growth, and special attention should be paid to the youthful rebellious period. Faced with adolescent rebellion, many families are at a loss and often get into trouble. Xiaomei once wrote an article describing this mood (if you are interested, you can follow \”Xiaomei\’s Garden\” and find \”The Woman Who Gets Crazy Late at Night\”. Looking back at her mood at that time, I think she can be regarded as a typical representative of a middle-aged parent). I have said to different parents more than once: You must have enough patience with your children. When communicating with him, you should take advantage of her good mood and wait for him to calm down, speak in a pleasant way, make insinuations, put the problem on other people\’s children, and make insinuations. Slowly she will understand. Most parents fail to handle their relationships well with their children because they fail to observe their children\’s needs in detail. They get angry before their children get angry. Such a result is bound to be counterproductive. I also had a conversation with a netizen about this topic today, and I would like to express my views as someone who has experienced it, hoping it will be helpful to those in need. I originally wanted to write another short novel, but I happened to meet a netizen who mentioned the issue of children\’s education. I happen to be a person who has experienced it, so I would like to share my insights, hoping to inspire those who are trapped in education confusion. Thank you for reading!