The benefits of guiding children to learn independently

A child\’s learning is not just his business, but in the final analysis, the implementation of learning must be done by the child. Therefore, it is very important to let children have autonomy in learning. But this is also the biggest headache for parents and teachers. If a child is unwilling to follow through, he will not learn even if he uses coercion, inducement, control, or command. A true academic master must be a child who can learn independently. So in the education process, how can parents stimulate their children\’s autonomy in learning? Why cram school is useless Before the double reduction, many parents would enroll their children in cram schools. Parents who have applied can think back to the fact that they have spent so much money and have their children’s performance made a qualitative leap? Has the child’s learning initiative improved? What kind of children’s tutoring is effective? Even if a child is willing to learn, he knows that he has not laid a good foundation in some areas and needs to ask a teacher to explain it to him. Only when children have such direction and purpose can tutoring be effective. But tutoring for most children does not have ideal results. Many parents see others making up for it, so they just follow the crowd and make up for it, and then the children are not willing to do it, or even very unhappy. Such tutoring is definitely useless. In fact, whether tutoring or other methods can help improve a child\’s performance, the key lies in whether the child has the behavior of independent learning, whether he has the will and motivation to learn, and whether he knows how to learn. The willingness to learn independently and the ability to learn independently are two conditions that support children\’s independent learning behavior. Willingness plus ability equals behavior. If you want to do something, you can do it, and then you will do it. The child wants to learn and knows how to learn, and then he can learn independently. What parents have to do is to inspire his will and then cultivate his abilities. But the problem is that many parents don\’t do this. why? Because many parents have not recognized the real problem and do not know how to deal with it. Parents have neither the will nor the ability. Stimulate children\’s will If children are to be able to learn independently, will must come first. Does the child have the desire to learn? Many parents have a wrong understanding on this issue. In fact, children all want to learn well. Even if the child\’s current behavior is not paying attention to class, procrastinating on homework, and being addicted to mobile phones, even if he no longer believes that he can learn well, deep down he still wants to learn well. When parents see these behaviors of their children, where will they attribute the reasons? Many parents will think that the child is not willing enough and has a bad attitude, because the questions are very simple, he can do them, and he is capable. So where did the parents go wrong? The mistake lies in confusing children\’s independent learning ability and problem-solving ability. Independent learning ability means that children can arrange their own time and learning tasks, and then execute them according to the plan. The child has this wish, but the parents still attribute it to the child\’s wish, which is suppressing the child\’s autonomy. It is impossible for parents to suppress their children\’s wishes and at the same time want them to be able to learn independently. If parents label him every day, the child will be affected by these words. Much more repression, his will will become weaker and weaker. So what do parents do? Parents should constantly affirm their children\’s wishes, even if it seems that they are playing with their mobile phones all day long. With constant encouragement from parents, children will gradually change. But this process is not that fast. The older the child, the longer it will take. During this process, parents should be more patient with their children. Ability to learn independently The main reason why children do not have the behavior of independent learning is the lack of independent learning ability. This ability is not something you are born with, but something you develop. However, many parents have never had this awareness and have not cultivated this ability in their children. How to cultivate children\’s autonomy? First of all, children need to know what their current goals are and what they want to do today. For example, some children don\’t even know what homework they have today, so it\’s impossible for them to arrange their own homework. Then the child must have a sense of time. The concept of time is the feeling of \”how long does it take me to do this\”. With a more accurate concept of time, the child\’s time arrangement can be more reasonable. But many children\’s concept of time is inaccurate. The younger the child, his time perception is very slow. Maybe what he thinks is five minutes is actually more than twenty minutes. So how to cultivate children\’s sense of time? The cultivation of ability requires continuous practice. If you want to cultivate your children\’s sense of time, parents should let their children arrange their own time. Then during the implementation process, parents should let their children watch the time more. The more times you do this, the more accurate your child\’s sense of time will become. Because the cultivation of time concept is to establish the connection between things and time. But there is a prerequisite for such time perception training, that is, during this process, the child\’s emotions are stable and he is learning with a normal mind. [Value 298 yuan] Download the 30-lesson collection of training on independent learning ability. Learning is not just a matter for children, but it must be the children who perform it in the end. Those who can become academic masters must be children who can learn independently. If a child is unwilling to study, tutoring or anything else will have no effect. For children to have the behavior of autonomous learning, they must have the willingness to learn and the ability to learn independently. What parents have to do is to constantly affirm and stimulate their children\’s wishes, and then cultivate their children\’s ability to learn independently.