How to communicate with the teacher about your child’s problems so that the teacher can treat your child well

After little D entered elementary school, I realized very clearly that she was different from me when I was a child. She was definitely not the well-behaved child in the eyes of the teacher. She did not have good academic performance and was not as sensible as I was back then. Her grades were average and she was \”having fun and having fun\” all day long. She looked down upon the honors that many primary school students cared about. She was also very happy that her classmates chose her as the class representative and class cadre. , but there is absolutely no motivation to “must do it”. I have mentioned to you before that the third stage of growth in my life is to realize that my children are ordinary people. I have actually crossed this hurdle. I believe that many readers who follow me also have this idea, but there is really a difference between being normal and lying flat. How do parents communicate with their children? The most acceptable way of education for children.mobi For example, I have never been a \”lay-down\” parent when it comes to communication with teachers. I have always believed that a school is an ongoing family, so I need to have more contact with teachers, understand parents, and understand children, so that we can achieve true \”home-school cooperation.\” If a child is not outstanding, or even often \”has some problems or causes trouble\” in the class, the teacher may always come to the parents to complain. In parent groups, in private messages, or when picking up the child from school, the teacher may suddenly name and criticize him. . This is really troubling. If I talk about it too much, I will doubt whether my own baby can do it or if it is too bad. So today I want to talk to the parents of \”Puwa\”. There is a way to make their children \”proactively progress\”, and also to make the teachers have a better and more positive attitude towards the children, and to reduce the number of complaints and complaints – this method is , parents take the initiative to go to the teacher and praise their children to the teacher. Many friends may understand my intention after seeing this. Children need attention, and getting positive attention from people they care about (such as parents, teachers, etc.) is also a way to motivate children to a certain extent. But we all know the truth, but it must be difficult to operate. After all, \”taking the initiative\” to praise yourself sounds awkward, and if you don\’t do it well, it will easily make the teacher think that we parents are not objective enough. Therefore, \”how to praise\” is very important. I have two principles. 01 It’s not up to the standard, and they praise the process of little D’s kindergarten for having handmade works. To be honest, according to little D’s ability at the time, there is no way that they can achieve the excellent works that their kindergarten posted (although many friends will complain, it’s all because of Pindad) mom). I also complained at the time, but then I thought about it from my perspective. The core of manual homework is to encourage parents and children to have high-quality interactions. Good results must be the most intuitive way for teachers to feel \”sincerity in parenting\” because teachers cannot see us and our children. The process of interacting at home. At that time, I would often put a small card in Little D’s handiwork, sometimes to share Little D’s creative ideas, and sometimes to share tidbits of our interactions while working together. This \”self-promotion of going the extra mile\” not only allows teachers to see the child\’s hard work, but also the parents\’ intentions in accompanying the process. This is a method that many teachers welcome and like very much. Some people may also say that our teachers will definitely not accept this trick. If they want performance, they hope that parents will do it for their children and do it beautifully. My FatherMy dad used to be a primary school teacher. I have heard about this situation since I was a child, and it does happen. But for me, I don’t want to change my environment, but my mindset. Later, Little D went to elementary school. During the first semester, his teacher frequently posted comments about his daughter in the WeChat group, saying that he was like a \”dog crawling\”. But I still insist on \”praising\”. I take the initiative to communicate with the teacher about Little D\’s current situation and the plans made by our family. From time to time, I send comparison photos of \”progress\” to the Chinese teacher. Such praise not only stabilized my mentality as a mother who had just become a primary school student, but also the Chinese teacher changed. By the second half of the semester, Little D\’s handwriting was still not the best in the class, but the teacher would Take the initiative to praise Little D for his progress, persistence and efforts. This is helping both parents and teachers to look at children from a \”developmental\” perspective. It is said that the result is important, and the process is also important, but in real life, we and the teachers will inevitably forget it. Then our \”active praise\” is to allow adults to see the difficulties of children. Only children who are seen can be empowered. 02 For those who cannot score, take the initiative to praise that after entering school, most of the child\’s development is measured by \”scores\”. As a parent, I completely understand this. After all, this is one of the most \”efficient\” ways. But I have always held the view that parents should be their children\’s external regulators, and families should make up for what the school does not have/neglects. Therefore, I will also take the initiative to praise Little D’s qualities that “cannot be graded” with the teacher. Little D and I have always maintained the habit of chatting before going to bed, and she will also share with me what happened at school. For example, not long ago, she told me that the teacher praised her for her perfect score in Chinese dictation. This is a typical \”can be scored\” project, so I will follow the results and talk to her: How do you feel? What are you most proud of? Were there any uncomfortable/frustrating parts? (Talk about the child’s own feelings). So, I learned that a perfect score indeed made little D happy, but what made her even more happy was that she made mistakes in dictation several times before, and was encouraged by her teachers and classmates; and that she thought of many ways to avoid making mistakes every time. Those words are written correctly (imagination method, association method, etc.). I told Little D at that time, remember the kindness others have done to us and the help others have given us. When others need such help in the future, we should give it without hesitation, let love flow, and our happiness will be will be higher. Then I greatly praised Xiao D\’s learning strategy. He always made mistakes. If he just kept doing it the same way, he would be a bit \”stupid\” sometimes. It would be like running on the wrong track. It would be very tiring to watch. , but it is getting further and further away from the result. If you find out you made a mistake, you can think of a new way. This is better than writing down perfect marks! After reading Non-Violent Communication Skills online in pdf+epub+mobi, I took the initiative to praise the teacher, not about Little D’s perfect score in dictation, but about the two points of “gratitude” and “learning methods” she mentioned. This is to help parents, but also to help teachers, to look at children from a more \”comprehensive\” perspective. This kind of \”active praise\” also allows our parents\’ educational views to be passed on to teachers. When both teachers and parentsWhen it is clear that our focus in raising children is not just academic performance, perhaps the role of \”home-school integration\” can be maximized. 03 Appreciation perspective, not problem perspective. Looking at children in kindergarten/elementary school is a watershed. Many parents change from \”their own baby is so cute\” to \”look at other people\’s babies.\” After comparing with \”others\”, what we say the most to our children is often to point out their problems, but we lack a lot of encouragement and praise. What I mentioned today about \”taking the initiative to praise\” teachers is not only a communication method, but also a basic mentality of parenting. That is, no matter how old the child is, we must look at the child from an appreciation perspective rather than a problem perspective. When we can develop children who proactively praise themselves to teachers, we will have a more comprehensive perspective and a more peaceful mind. This becomes more and more important as children grow older, because we must always know that when we enter the class and enter the society, there will always be only one number one. Good family education is not about trying your best to raise a child who is always \”number one\”, but it can really give the child the courage to sing that sentence. Who said that the one who stands in the light is the hero?