What does educational involution mean?

My son will go to elementary school in September this year, but I have the feeling that my son is about to take the college entrance examination. When picking up their sons from school, the mothers gathered at the door asked each other: \”Has your child learned to write? Where did he practice his writing? Have you finished learning Pinyin? Have you learned addition and subtraction within 20? Where is the English class? Are there any foreign teachers?\” After listening to the mothers\’ chat, I felt panicked in my heart. Some of their children have already completed the first grade of primary school. Some children have to attend seven tutoring classes in one weekend: literacy, eloquence, thinking, English, piano, programming, and art. Some children are forced by their mothers to attend online classes for two hours after returning home from school. The most terrible thing is that the reasons why everyone is chasing after each other and working hard are surprisingly consistent: everyone else is learning, but we are not learning. What will we do if we can\’t keep up? The anxious attitude of mothers reminds me of the famous theater effect: \”In a cinema, everyone is sitting and watching a movie. Suddenly someone stood up and directly blocked the sight of all the surrounding audiences, causing the audience behind them to There is no other way but to stand up, and more and more people are slowly standing up.\” The same is true for educational involution. Watch the full version of the ultra-clear 1080P documentary How to Tell Online, a must-see for learning Chinese history and culture. In order not to let their children fall behind others, mothers have no choice but to follow the trend and let their children \”learn ahead of time\”, \”overlearn\”, and \”compare with others\”. study\”. However, is blind, crazy involution really good for children? Liu Qing, a professor at Peking University, once said in an interview: \”Involution has to pay a price.\” This is indeed the case. A Shanghai mother once said that her neighbor was a mother whose chickens were very fierce. When her daughter first entered kindergarten, she began to teach her the learning content of the first grade of elementary school. When she first entered elementary school, my daughter’s grades were indeed excellent. However, in the third grade, her daughter\’s grades began to decline, so she took advantage of all available time to give her daughter extra lessons. However, my daughter\’s grades have not improved at all. One day, she scolded her daughter in the elevator: \”Why are you so unsatisfactory?\” Her daughter said to her with tears in her eyes: \”Mom, please, don\’t force me. My mind can\’t move anymore. I don\’t want to study anymore.\” .\” But she completely ignored her daughter\’s pain and continued to blame her daughter. Then one night, the neighbor\’s daughter burned all her books in her room, almost causing a fire. Think about it, it’s really not worth the gain. Being ahead of the curve allows the child to win for a while, but it ruins the child\’s lifelong learning ability. Not only that, Yu Honghua, the attending physician at the Clinical Psychology Department of Beijing Huilongguan Hospital, said: \”Children learning too much knowledge too early is a premature development of the cognitive function of the frontal cortex of the brain, which will lead to a weaker ability to stabilize emotions. Entering junior high school and high school As the intensity of study increases, they will be unable to bear the pressure and develop anxiety, depression and other emotional problems.\” A 10-year-old boy in Hangzhou has been living under high pressure from his parents. As long as he is not first in the exam or has perfect scores, his parents will scold him severely: \”Why not first?\” Then, they will force him to study even more crazily and force him to make up lessons. As a result, he was forced by his parents toIf you suffer from hysteria, you will have a nervous breakdown when you hear anything related to study. Sometimes you will even convulse your whole body and collapse to the ground. Zhang Yide, an all-round academic master, has completed primary school courses under the guidance of his father at the age of 3. He can write essays in English at the age of 5. He frequently won awards in competitions during high school. But such a child who shone all the way committed suicide after being admitted to a top prestigious school in the United States. The \”China National Mental Health Development Report\” even shows: \”About 17.5% of school students aged 6-12 years old suffer from mental disorders. Patients with depression under the age of 18 account for 30.28% of the total number, exceeding 28 million people. \”All kinds of painful costs are warning us: blind rush and involution are quietly destroying our children. It will take away children\’s interest in learning, harm children\’s motivation to learn, cast a heavy shadow on children\’s psychology, and make them farther and farther away from success. Many netizens said: Taiwanese painter Cai Zhizhong is a very irresponsible father. But I think he is a very sober father. On his daughter\’s first day in elementary school, he took her to the classroom and asked her, \”Do you know how to go back?\” After receiving her affirmative answer, he really let her go back alone. When his daughter couldn\’t get up in the morning, he called her several times and let her sleep until she was late. When my daughter was 12 years old, she wanted to take the nursing license exam in order to earn more pocket money. He did not criticize his daughter for \”wasting time and affecting her studies\”, nor did he stop her. Instead, he suggested to her: Do you want to make money by painting? When his daughter scored zero on the math test, he treated her to steak and praised her: \”Wow, she scored zero on the math test. It\’s so awesome. It\’s like walking through a one-kilometer minefield without even stepping on one.\” He never He restricts his daughter\’s study, does not force her to attend cram schools and interest classes, and does not compare her with other children. He always respects, supports and encourages her. Many people say that he \”teaches nothing\” to his daughter. But what shocked everyone was that Cai Zhizhong\’s \”no education\” not only did not raise his daughter to waste, but actually made her daughter become exceptionally good. At the age of 12, Cai Zhizhong\’s daughter was able to fly from Canada to Japan alone. When she was 17 years old, she went to the United States alone for interviews and passed 4 well-known universities. After entering college, she spent five years studying at two schools and obtained a double degree. It can be said: Cai Zhizhong used a non-competitive education to cultivate a competitive child. He used his letting go to make his daughter independent and courageous. Use your tolerance and patience to give your daughter the opportunity to explore her own life and the possibility of being a late bloomer. As writer Chen Danqing said: \”The ultimate purpose of education is to induce people\’s creative power and awaken their sense of life and value. Once children gain more trust and expectations, their inner motivation will be stimulated and they will Smarter, more capable, and more understanding.\” Therefore, truly powerful parents must have the trait of \”anti-involution.\” Ripened fruit is not sweet. Children with chicken age may not be able to win all the time. Instead of \”pushing a new leaf to encourage growth\” and \”putting the cart before the horse\”, it is better to calm down and use a longer-term perspective to accompany your children\’s growth. The educator Rousseau once said: \”MistakesTime spent loses more than wasted time. A child who has been taught wrongly is further from wisdom than an untaught child. \”The more serious the involution is, the more we must stay awake. Only by clearly understanding the following three points can we prevent our children from becoming victims of \”involution.\” 1. Instead of forcing children to be excellent, it is better to find the child\’s zone of proximal development. Tian Yulan and Nan Li in the drama \”Little Willing\” both went on the road of crazy chicken babies, but they both failed miserably. Tian Yulan constantly put pressure on his son, forcing his son to be excellent, stifling his son\’s interest, and squeezing his son\’s enthusiasm. During the break, Nan Li eventually drove her son into depression and illness. Nan Li was forced to get involved in the \”strange cycle of involution\” and began to force her daughter to learn Olympiad mathematics that she did not understand, forcing her daughter to answer questions, which eventually led to her daughter running away from home. The parent-child relationship is also getting worse. Educator Vygotsky once pointed out in the \”Zone of Proximal Development\” theory: When setting goals for children, two factors must be taken into consideration: the child\’s current level; and the child\’s potential development level. Excessive expectations and excessive pressure are likely to overwhelm our children. Only by letting go of our \”comparison mentality\”, being more patient and understanding of our children, and setting up things for our children that they can achieve by tiptoeing. Only by setting goals can the child\’s internal drive be mobilized to the greatest extent and help the child improve step by step steadily and rhythmically. 2. Instead of forcing the child to be self-disciplined, it is better to cultivate the child\’s self-discipline. A father in Ningbo made a summer study schedule for his son. See I felt deeply suffocated in the end. From getting up at 7 a.m. until 10 p.m., apart from eating and taking a short rest, there were all kinds of study tasks. My son was like a clock, walking mechanically without any trace of himself. Time. I remember that American psychologist Rick Erikson once said: \”Children need to develop a sense of autonomy. If they do not develop well, they will deny themselves, resulting in self-doubt. \”In other words: self-discipline that is forcibly restrained and controlled is pressure, not true self-discipline. If you want your children to learn true self-discipline, you must give them more autonomy and let them learn to control themselves through choices and attempts. Himself. On Zhihu, a father shared his parenting experience: When his son first learned to write, he always held his son’s hand to teach him to write. However, his son’s progress was very slow and his frustration was also serious. After that, he chose to only encourage but not help, and let the children try to write and practice on their own. He found that his son\’s enthusiasm for writing has improved a lot and he has made great progress. So you see, only the children actively want to do it. Only one thing can make children more motivated and more self-disciplined. 3. Let children play, go crazy, and exercise. Some time ago, Ning Boyu from the University of Electronic Science and Technology of China was selected into Huawei\’s \”Genius Program\” and caused a lot of People\’s attention. What is different from the academic master in everyone\’s imagination is that Ning Boyu\’s world is not only about reading. He has been very playful and sports since he was a child, especially hip-hop, high jump, swimming, etc. He loved to play leisurely when he was in elementary school. He won the Chengdu Yo-Yo TV Competition. In middle school, he broke the 24-year-old high jump record of Chengdu No. 4 Middle School. In college, he won the street dance championship, high jump championship, and breaststroke championship.In addition, he is also a station B UP master who is good at a variety of content. As Professor Hong Lan, a doctor of brain science, said: \”There are three magic weapons to activate children\’s brain development: exercise, reading and games.\” The secret of Ning Boyu\’s success is inseparable from his love of fun, love of craziness and love of sports. It is these seemingly \”not doing his job properly\” that help him relieve stress, activate his brain, and allow him to continue to make progress in a virtuous cycle of relaxation and relaxation. Stuart Brown spent 41 years interviewing 6,000 people and found out after learning about their childhoods: \”People who cannot play freely in childhood cannot develop social skills, the ability to cope with stress, and the cognitive skills to solve problems. They may not develop cognitive skills as adults. They will be unhappy, have difficulty adapting to the new environment, and are prone to doing extreme things.\” For children, play and exercise are also important ways of learning. Those childhoods that have been compressed before they have time to expand wantonly have long been secretly marked by fate. To truly consider your children, you must give them a happy childhood. Let your children play, go crazy, and exercise to their heart\’s content, so that they can grow better and better in an unpredictable environment. ▽Life is a marathon, and what matters is not the child’s explosive power, but the child’s endurance and endurance. The more we want our children to win, the more we must overcome anxiety and maintain a stable mentality. Only when parents can stabilize their hearts can their children stabilize their lives. May we all stay awake under the great involution, take a longer view, and raise a child who is truly independent and full of heart.