What should I do if my child is bullied?

When a child grows up, the task of parents is not only to raise the child, but also to raise the child to be tough and brave. I saw a video today. In the video, three boys bullied a girl. The girl couldn\’t bear it and started to fight back. In order to mediate, the teacher called the girl\’s mother. When the mother arrived, she did not blame the girl, but secretly asked if she had suffered any loss. If he suffered a loss and returned it, the girl would hit him. Finally, the girl\’s mother said, \”I\’m sorry for not holding back. I\’m sorry, classmate.\” After the mother apologized to the teacher and classmates, she took the girl away. The girl asked her mother, \”Don\’t you ask me why I fought with my classmates?\” Mom said, you must have your reasons for fighting. Mom believes in you, because I know that you will not fight for no reason. A good parent-child relationship means that parents trust their children unconditionally. The mother\’s trust makes the girl especially trust her, and she will tell her mother whether she is at school or encounters other things later. As a child grows up, the trust of parents will make the child full of confidence and strength. When the child encounters confusion and helplessness, the mother\’s timely guidance will also play a key role. Like the girl above, because of her mother\’s trust and guidance in her when she was a child, the little girl has become particularly confident when she grows up, and feels confident and secure no matter what she does. The confidence comes from the unconditional trust and support of parents for their children since childhood. Because of love, they become loving and energetic people. The case of the little girl reminds me of what my niece told me a few days ago about a little girl in their school who was bullied. Several people beat each other, but the girl never dared to fight back when being beaten. Seeing that girls are easy to bully, they even asked boys to bully her. In the end, the girl couldn\’t stand the bullying and jumped off the building in despair. After the parents heard about their child\’s condition, they were heartbroken. However, no matter how heartbroken they were, they could not save their lives. Adolescent children, if they do not receive correct guidance from their parents, will touch the bottom line of morality and law in their ignorance and fearlessness. Let your life go into the abyss due to wrong choices. Teacher Todd lectures on preschool child psychology for free download [180 episodes completed] So what exactly is bullying? Is bullying just a beating? Yes, campus bullying includes mental attacks, verbal insults, verbal attacks, various nicknames, being isolated and beaten by classmates, being harassed by classmates, and often extorting money. Therefore, do not wait until your child is hit before thinking it is bullying, but always pay attention to your child\’s status and situation at school. To avoid unnecessary personal injury to children due to negligence. Just like Yi Yao in \”The River of Sadness\”, when she was in school, because several classmates didn\’t like her, they harassed her in various ways, made trouble for her, and even used bad language to ridicule and insult her. In the end, Yi Yao couldn\’t bear it. Live, choose to jump into the sea to end your life. When Yi Yao ended her life, her classmates who had bullied and ridiculed her were frightened and regretted that they had followed everyone else\’s advice. Regret shouldn\’t attack Yi Yao with bad words, but regretting and being afraid are futile for the disappearing life. Regarding bullying, it also gives us a warning not to ignore our children. As parents, we must pay attention to our children\’s emotions at all times. But the premise is that there must be a good parent-child relationship between the child and the parents.The relationship determines the closeness between parents and children. The parent-child relationship is more important than anything else, and the parent-child relationship is the cornerstone of child discipline. Just like me, I have had a good relationship with my mother since I was a child, so I always tell my mother no matter what happens. I remember when I was in elementary school, I was bullied by my classmates because I was introverted and didn\’t like to talk. When it was innocuous, I usually ignored it. One time, a classmate hit me. I couldn\’t bear it anymore and I couldn\’t fight back, so I ran home and told my mother. When my mother found out, she went directly to school and asked who had just hit me. My classmate stood up in fear, but my mother scolded him. I promised not to hit me again. When other students saw my mother defending me like this, they were also very scared. So after that time, no one in the class dared to continue to bully me. And because of that time, I knew that I was not a people. I was protected by my mother. My mother\’s protection gave me a sense of security in my heart, and I also knew how to fight back and protect myself. Psychologist Dai Elkind said: What children need to know most is that they are important to their parents and will always be surrounded by love. So what kind of children are easily bullied? When parents who have a bad relationship with their parents go to school, children who are bullied often have problems with their parent-child relationship. Parents do not pay attention to their children. As for children, parents do not respond to bullying the same way. As a result, bullying becomes more and more bold and even unscrupulous. Children who are too sensible. Some children are always afraid that their parents will worry because they have been well-behaved and sensible since they were young. The same is true when things happen at school. They always do not tell their parents. Furthermore, when they are bullied, they also leave themselves alone in order not to worry their parents. Accept bullying from peers. Parents are afraid of trouble and always ask their children to be humble. Some children, after being bullied, will tell their parents immediately when they get home. But some parents are afraid of trouble and will say, is it your own problem? Otherwise, why do others only trouble you? Be obedient at school, don\’t cause trouble, and just avoid them in the future. As everyone knows, there are some rebellious children. The more you avoid them, the more they think you are afraid of them, and they will bully you unscrupulously. Therefore, when you encounter a child being bullied, you must first understand the situation. Is it a simple quarrel between classmates, or is the child being verbally insulted, or having his privacy revealed or given a nickname. Single-parent families and left-behind children For single-parent families, many children will have an inferiority complex, especially some bad children, when they see their classmates come from single-parent families. They felt that they had no one to protect them and were weak, so they bullied them. The same is true for left-behind children, because their parents are often no longer around, and those more rebellious children see that their parents are no longer around. They will feel that no one will care if they are bullied, so they will bully them unscrupulously. Introverted and timid children always don\’t speak much, behave in a submissive manner, and are afraid of anything they say. Therefore, those bad children feel that they are being bullied or threatened, and they dare not speak out. Written at the end: Children are bullied, partly due to the child’s personality, but more often than not, it is the result of parents’ neglect of their children. Therefore, if you want your children to grow up healthily, you must first establish a good parent-child relationship with your children. When parents and children have a good relationship, the children will communicate with their parents no matter what happens. Furthermore, the children will suffer unnecessary harm and bullying. But forChildren should also be given correct guidance and know how to protect themselves, but they should not judge or bully others by following others\’ opinions. Only with correct guidance can children grow up to become excellent people.