What if the teacher calls the parents to complain?

I saw such a piece of news that was both ironic and educational. A little boy crashed a plane in class and his teacher called his father to complain. After the child came home, the father bought a box of paper and asked his son to fold as many as he wanted. It can be seen from the video that at around 2 o\’clock in the morning that day, the child had already crashed more than 500 planes, and the father still had no intention of letting him go. Netizens joked that the father\’s trick was \”using magic to defeat magic\”; others felt that this method was not necessarily suitable for children. But judging from the way my father handled the complaint when the teacher complained, I think it is commendable. Today, let’s talk about the topic “How do teachers call parents to complain?”! As soon as the teacher complained, the parents became worried about my Dabao for a while. He didn’t know what was going on, and he was always not paying attention in class. He often had problems when playing with his classmates after class. I receive calls from teachers complaining almost every day, so much so that I don’t even want to read individual messages or phone calls from teachers. I was very anxious, and whenever the teacher complained, I had no good temper towards the child. As soon as school is over, there will be indiscriminate criticism. As a mother, I feel dissatisfied. The child I taught is obviously a good child, but why does he behave poorly when he comes to the teacher? In this strange thinking circle, I feel uncomfortable, and my children are also unhappy. Many parents must have had a similar experience to me. As long as they receive phone calls or text messages from teachers, they will inevitably feel anxious: \”Did you disrupt the classroom discipline?\” \”Did you get into a fight with your classmates?\” \”Did your academic performance decline?\” \”…\” In the end, a stress reaction gradually formed: The teacher\’s phone call must be up to no good! When parents become anxious, their children will suffer. When parents hear complaints from teachers, they will assume that their children are disobedient and have problems. When the child comes home, he will be greeted with either scolding or corporal punishment. Parents believe that their actions are for the good of their children and help them correct their wrong \”behaviors.\” But this approach has actually caused more problems for the children, even more than what the teacher complained about. A good mother\’s parenting experience for parents aged 0-3 years old in ultra-clear pdf. First of all, children will become fond of lying. Children who are often scolded by their parents will have a behavior that loves to lie. Once adults find out, they will attribute it to the child\’s bad learning. But a large part of the reason children become prone to lying is to avoid punishment. In order to avoid being scolded by adults, they would lie to deceive their parents. It seems that things have gotten worse, but in fact there is a problem with the parents\’ education, which has caused the children to lie because they are afraid of facing the consequences and being punished. Secondly, the child becomes timid and lacks self-confidence. Sociologists believe that parents\’ behavior, especially their emotions, have an important impact on children\’s mental health development. When parents become anxious and distrustful of their children because of a teacher\’s complaint, a negative psychological suggestion will be formed and passed on to the children, making them feel their parents\’ anger and distrust. In the initial stages of growth, children will unconditionally trust their parents and feel that what they say is right. Therefore, once parents criticize their children\’s problems, they fall into negative emotions such as \”I am not a good child\” or \”I am a poor student\”, deny themselves, and become timid and lack self-confidence. Again, the child becomesMore rebellious. During the time when the teacher complained to me and I severely criticized Brother Dabao, he promised me that I would be obedient, but the next day, the teacher’s phone call still came as promised, and the topic revolved around “He hasn’t changed, it’s more like deliberately causing trouble.” . Later, when he calmed down and talked about that experience with his child, he said that his mother didn\’t believe him anyway, so why should she be obedient? Criticizing children without understanding can easily arouse rebellious emotions in children, and they will alienate their parents and refuse to communicate with adults. If it reaches this stage, it will be worse, because the child will not listen to the guidance of adults and will leave a lot of regrets in the future. Finally, it affects the teacher-student relationship and makes students hate learning. My cousin\’s studies have always been good, but in her third year of junior high school, she changed to a chemistry teacher who was a friend of her uncle\’s. The teacher often told his uncle about his cousin\’s performance. After hearing this, his uncle began to criticize and educate his cousin. After a period of time, his cousin\’s academic performance dropped, and he did not listen to chemistry classes at all. Now when talking about the past events of her youth, my cousin regrets that she did not study chemistry seriously because she hated the teacher. However, complaints from teachers and distrustful criticism from parents are really a big blow to adolescent students. This causes them to lose interest in learning and affects the teacher-student relationship. The teacher has many students, but we are the only children. I once saw a mother’s handling of a teacher’s complaint, and I couldn’t help but give a thumbs up. When the teacher called, the mother listened sincerely to the teacher\’s explanation of the child\’s problem, and sincerely expressed her apology and determination to educate her child well. After hanging up, she did not reprimand her son immediately. Instead, she patiently understood what happened with her son and accepted his grievances. Afterwards, the child was guided to analyze the problems he had in the incident. After the mother\’s analysis, the child understood his own problems and then corrected them. This is what my mother said: \”The teacher has many students, but the children only have us.\” This sentence touched my heart very much. Yes, teachers do take care of many students, and sometimes their handling methods become solidified, and children will feel aggrieved and uncomfortable because of the teacher\’s handling. If parents criticize him again at this time, it will only push the child further. Methods and techniques for managing children\’s emotions Parenting books How to cultivate children with high emotional intelligence Ultra-clear PDF Faced with complaints from teachers, what parents have to do is not how to punish, but the following three points: First point: Stabilize emotions Fan Deng said: An excellent parent is not about high IQ or high EQ, but about maintaining emotional stability. Only when parents are emotionally stable can they analyze problems rationally and help their children solve problems. If you are emotionally unstable, how can you educate your children? How to express it rationally? The second point: Give children the opportunity to express themselves. Sound communication between parents and children is necessary in the growth process of children. No matter what mistakes your children make at school, be sure to give them a chance to express themselves when talking to parents. Only through children\’s expression can we understand the causes and consequences and help them analyze and solve problems. On the contrary, if parents do not give their children a chance to express and defend themselves, they will shut out their parents. The third point: Communicate more with teachers. When I sent my children to school in the past, I heard some adults sayThe teacher said: \”The children will be left to you. If they don\’t obey, they will be beaten.\” I think the teacher would also feel a big headache when facing such parents! In a child\’s life, the most important education is family education, followed by school education, and finally social education. Parents should distinguish priorities and communicate more with teachers. The purpose is to achieve co-education at home, better understand their children, and provide positive guidance. In the process of raising children, parents choose to stand by their children not because they want to protect their children, but because they must first give trust and let the children know their parents\’ attitude towards them, and then solve the problem. Under the correct guidance, children will become better, but if they are pampered and sheltered, the result will be the opposite. Therefore, the way parents handle it, the size needs to be well understood. Going back to the father at the beginning, the reason why I admire his parenting style is because he did not beat or punish him, but adopted a \”let you play as much as you like\” approach. This method may be fun for children at the beginning, but they will gradually understand that they should not play with origami airplanes in class. In this way, the purpose of education is achieved. No?