How to focus on cultivating children in first and second grade

A mother sent a private message in the background and said: \”My child is in the first grade and his grades are at the bottom of the class. I think the grades in the first grade are not important. I just want to cultivate study habits! I take him to read a lot of extracurricular books and watch documentaries every day. Although he is not very interested, I think the content is very suitable for him. However, I often receive calls from teachers saying that the child’s quiz is not ideal. I have some doubts. Did I insist on it wrong? \”I think , no matter what grade you are in, grades are very important. Only at this stage of first grade of elementary school, it is more important to develop study habits. Once you develop good habits, it goes without saying that your results will be self-evident. Obviously, this fan mother didn\’t understand it very well. She just thought it was suitable for her children, so she did it at a loss. Therefore, I would like to share my parenting experience and a family education book that I personally like very much. But we certainly don’t talk about study habits aside from grades. Under exam-oriented education, we still have to pay attention to children’s grades. How to develop the good study habits of primary school students in the three key habits of first grade? It requires help from three aspects: parents, teachers and children. In what specific aspects will it be carried out? I have summarized the following points. Parents, may this help your child? Point 1: Textbooks are always the focus of learning. Some parents attach great importance to extracurricular learning and read countless extracurricular books with their children, but ignore learning in textbooks, just like the mother at the beginning of the article. The video of 26 alphabet songs and standardized writing methods are simple and practical. In fact, during the exam, 80% of the knowledge points come from textbooks. If the children’s textbook knowledge is not consolidated and solid, how can they get good grades in the exam? ? Therefore, you must develop the habit of reading textbooks by heart, and you must be thoroughly familiar with the passages, articles, and formulas that are required to be memorized. Only then can you lay a solid foundation. Point 2: Develop good writing habits. Before entering first grade, my child was practicing calligraphy, but her writing habits were not very good. She was either lying crookedly or lying on her stomach. Several times I held a stick and watched from behind, so that I could sit more upright. The teacher said that if you don’t have good writing habits in the first grade of elementary school, your writing habits will only get worse in the future. This point is often emphasized in class, but some children still find it difficult to change. When writing, your posture must be correct. Remember the three ones: one foot away from the pen, one fist away from the table, one inch holding the pen, and sit upright. If your child has a hunchback habit, you can use a small backrest to cushion the back of the stool to help your child correct it. Pen holding posture is also very particular. At the beginning, you can buy a hole-in-the-wall pen for your child, or use a pencil holder to help your child develop a correct pen holding posture. Point 3: Accompanying children to do homework. I believe many parents will feel a headache when it comes to this point. Why is it recommended that parents accompany their children to write? Because if you only look at the results of the homework, it is difficult to see why. For example, my child likes math very much. Every time you see him doing math problems, he is correct. But the process is all kinds of strange. He always uses the \”Indian mathematics\” algorithm to calculate, which is different from the arithmetic method he is learning now. Therefore, every time I accompany him to do homework, I will watch from the side. Try to ask him to write down the steps for calculating the problem and compare it with the textbook. Are they consistent? If it is inconsistent, follow the instructions in the textbookUse the formula to calculate, and when you check the calculation by yourself, you can feel free to use any method you are good at. Parents of high-quality primary school students should remember that if their children are in the first grade, as long as they study well, that\’s all. No! For primary school students in first grade, there is also healthy physical and mental development. This is what I came to realize after watching \”Accompanying Children Through Six Years of Elementary School\”. The book introduces that after entering elementary school, children\’s self-awareness begins to develop, meeting new teachers and classmates, and learning new knowledge will undoubtedly accelerate the child\’s psychological growth. Therefore, family education must also keep up and abandon traditional educational concepts when necessary. First, there is no horizontal comparison. Some parents like to compare their children with other people\’s children, and like to say \”Look at xxx\”. To the children, this means the parents\’ disgust and indifference. Therefore, whether you are motivated by motivation or you are really disappointed in your child, it is not recommended to do this. It will make children increasingly hate communicating with their parents, seriously affecting the parent-child relationship. Secondly, establishing authority and intimidating education are both highly discouraged. Elementary school is a critical period for building a good parent-child relationship. The way you get along with your children lays the foundation for the healthy growth of adolescent children. The primary school stage is still the golden period for the development of thinking and intelligence. If parents do not pay attention to interaction, guidance and communication with their children, and only focus on learning, the gap between their children and their classmates will become wider and wider as their children grow older. Some parents feel that if this doesn’t work and that doesn’t work, then how can we take care of first-grade children? I suggest you read \”Accompanying Your Child Through Six Years of Primary School\”. The methods I summarized above come from this book. I started reading this book when my child was still in kindergarten and now he is in second grade. I still regard this book as a pillow book and take it out to read when I encounter confusion. Regarding cultivating study habits, the book contains detailed introductions and real cases, allowing parents to provide targeted guidance based on their children\’s situation. This is very friendly to parents whose children have just started entering first grade. And the content is very down-to-earth, not a stiff textbook. You just have to read the book and follow it! The book \”Accompanying Children Through Six Years of Primary School\” has a clear division of each school year. From first grade to sixth grade, the children\’s growth characteristics, physical and mental development characteristics and learning methods in each school year are clearly introduced. . Even if the child reaches sixth grade and faces the transition from primary school to junior high school, there are also holiday suggestions, how to make a complete holiday plan for the child, how to increase social practice, etc. Only by understanding your child can you educate him better. Therefore, it is recommended that parents with primary school students have a copy of it. You have books in your hands and methods in your mind, how can your children not be outstanding? Putting aside scores and talking about study habits is \”hiding one\’s ears and stealing the bell.\” Under exam-oriented education, how can children\’s grades not be important? What\’s more important is to find out the reasons behind poor performance, find solutions with your children, and cultivate good learning and living habits, so that you can make progress all the way and learn more and more easily!