Not all children end up in Qingbei. I would rather my daughter have a lifetime of sweetness in the alleys.

Recently, I accidentally came across a mother’s account online. In her videos, she often features various delicacies. For example, mooncakes with patterns printed on them: Tiramisu with thick fillings: Super-looking cream cakes: Baked golden buns: And Big Mac burgers that look bigger than your face: any of them When I took it out, it looked particularly fragrant and attractive. However, what is even more unexpected is that the person who prepared these foods was neither a professional chef nor the mother herself. But her little daughter, Longlong, who is only 10 years old. As a primary school student, Longlong did not like comics or star-chasing like other children of the same age. On the contrary, Longlong has had a strong interest in food since he was a child. Whenever he has time, he will sit in the kitchen and study various new dishes. Long Long’s mother said that Long Long didn’t like reading very much on weekdays. But as long as it was related to food, once Longlong picked it up, he would read it with relish. If you are an ordinary parent, seeing that your daughter doesn\’t like to study and \”fiddles\” with things that have nothing to do with study all day long, most of them will be anxious and prohibit their children from going near the kitchen. However, Longlong’s mother not only did not restrict her daughter’s hobbies, but has always supported her daughter: “I think if a child works hard to realize her own dreams, she must be happy, joyful, and unswerving; if she works hard to realize her parents’ dreams, Dream, then in the long river of time, you will eventually look back to find your former self. So, my girl, just be yourself.\” When Longlong first showed interest in cooking, he was only 5 years old. At that time, she was just taller than the stove at home, but she could already lift a kitchen knife to chop stuffing like an adult. From that moment on, the mother could see her daughter’s love for the kitchen. CCTV recommended over 500 excellent documentaries with high scores. The children watched the pattern and became addicted to self-discipline. Sure enough, as he grew older, Longlong became more and more comfortable in cooking. From preparing ingredients to washing them, to chopping, spooning, and plating…it won\’t take long for Longlong to bring out three or four dishes as if by magic. Sometimes, in the early morning, before the whole family has even gotten up, Longlong has already gotten up and prepared a beautiful breakfast for everyone. When my mother walked into the kitchen, she saw healthy red bean soup, soft bread, and steaming grilled chicken wings on the table. In response to this, my mother sighed from the bottom of her heart: \”I don\’t envy other people\’s children who get straight A\’s on their final report card. Because except for her (daughter)\’s grades, which are not all A\’s, everything else is straight A\’s.\” When someone else\’s classmate When he was busy answering questions, making up for classes, and determined to take the college entrance examination, Longlong told his mother seriously: He wanted to go to a vocational high school and learn baking in the future. Some netizens questioned Longlong\’s decision, but her mother stood firmly with her daughter: \”I think ideals are regardless of high or low, big or small, as long as they are loved, persisted in, and developed into a sustained career, then in the long years, I will definitely be happy and joyful in my life.\” Seeing this, I was really deeply moved by Mother Long\’s acceptance and support for her daughter. I couldn\’t help but think of a fable I had read before: Someone asked God: \”There are so many children in the world, why?\”But very few can achieve success and happiness? God replied: \”Because the horns on many children\’s heads have been cut off.\” The man asked again: \”What are horns?\” God told him: \”The horns are the characteristics of the child.\” Some children\’s horns are cared for and sparkled, while some children\’s horns are trimmed flat and neat. This is the difference between parents. \”If you think about it carefully, every child has a shining side when they are born. However, in the process of growing up, some children encounter acceptance, understanding and recognition like spring breeze. And some children What I encountered was simple and crude prohibition and belittling. I remember that Pixar once shot an animated short film, \”Gone with the Wind\”. The protagonists in it were a father and son. One day, the father and son were playing in the yard. The father blew away a Unexpectedly, his son actually flew up with the dandelions flying all over the sky. Seeing this magical scene in front of him, his father was surprised and happy. However, when he saw the look of fear and disgust on the faces of the passing neighbors, , as if the father suddenly realized something, he dragged his son back and hid in the house. Listening to the neighbors pointing outside the window, and then looking at the unusual son in front of him, the father fell into deep despair. Deep anxiety and worry. Later, in order to make his son behave like a \”normal person\”, the father made countless efforts: whenever he went out, he would wrap his son tightly; he also prepared a schoolbag for his son and put it in Heavy stones were placed inside to prevent him from suddenly floating; not only that, the father also tied a rope to his son\’s schoolbag and held him every step of the way… Until one time, when passing by a playground, his son looked at The other children were envious of the free swings and slides, and secretly broke free. He jumped up and down near the slide, and picked up a basketball to shoot… As a result, the adults and children around him were frightened. Everyone They all hid far away. There was no other way. The father had no choice but to grab his son and try to hold him and run home, but the son struggled hard. At this moment, the father couldn\’t bear it anymore, and he yelled at his son. Roar: “Can’t you be normal? ! The son was stunned for a moment, gave up the struggle, put on the hat again, and let the tears flow freely on his face. It was also at this moment that the flying son \”died\”. Cartoonist Cai Zhizhong said: \”Every child is Genius, but 90% of it has been taught badly by adults. \”Many times, it is not the children who are at fault, but the parents\’ pursuit of \”standards\” and \”normality.\” In such an environment, even if the children are outstanding at first, they will gradually become useless. The mediocre people with special talents no longer have the light in their eyes. Do you still remember the \”Wandering Master\” Shen Wei? When he was a child, he liked painting, literature, and history, but his father thought these were useless. Only by learning mathematics, physics and chemistry well could he find a good job in the future. Work. Under the pressure of his father, he could only give up reading \”idle books\” on the surface, but secretly picked up garbage and sold it in exchange for books. Until he fulfilled his father\’s wish and joined the Audit Bureau, he still kept picking up garbage.Rubbish habits. As a result, he was regarded as \”sick in the brain\” and his father often scolded him. In this way, Shen Wei, who had a bright future, simply gave up his job, left home, and chose to wander around. In fact, rather than creating \”standardized\” children, we should cultivate children with love: protect their talents and accept them for who they are. In this way, our children will not fall into a helpless black hole, but will live a steamy life doing things they like and are good at. Some time ago, I saw a video online about Long Ping, a visiting professor at Tsinghua University. There are three children in his family. The eldest is a daughter. She has been introverted since she was a child, but she has achieved outstanding results and has now become a well-known lawyer. The second is a boy. He is currently in his second year of high school and is doing well in studies. The only thing that worries him is his 11-year-old daughter. The younger daughter is only in fifth grade, but unlike her older siblings, her grades are a mess. In second grade mental arithmetic, other children can do 20 questions correctly in 5 minutes, but what about her? Even if you use your hands and feet together, you can only solve 5 puzzles in the end. But Professor Long Ping was not worried at all. On the contrary, when he mentioned his youngest daughter, he always looked proud: \”I think she will be more promising than her brothers and sisters in the future. I am very confident.\” Because he found that his daughter not only has a cheerful personality, but also likes to draw. In his opinion, his daughter can give lectures in the future and pursue the path of art student. Therefore, he did not blindly act like a chicken, nor did he compare his younger daughter with her older brothers and sisters. Instead, he encouraged his younger daughter to do what she liked. With the support and encouragement of Professor Long Ping, my youngest daughter has always been confident and optimistic. Just like Zheng Yuanjie, the king of fairy tales, said: \”A good educator should use 50 educational methods to educate one child, rather than using the same educational method to educate 50 children.\” Parents have all thought about using control or transformation way to allow children to follow the path we have planned. But after watching the tragedy of those geniuses disappearing from the crowd, we will eventually understand: every child has his own season. The greatest respect for a life is to see, accept and respect his differences and provide him with the soil to bloom. In the past, my focus was always on my daughter’s “shortcomings”. In my eyes, she is rigid if she doesn\’t like to talk, she doesn\’t do her job properly if she likes to draw, and she doesn\’t focus on her studies if she stays up late writing novels. But after talking to my daughter\’s teachers and classmates, I saw another side of my daughter: she is good at painting, and half of the classmates in the class have their heads drawn by her; although she is not good at words, her compositions are always in Chinese. The \”model essay\” in the teacher\’s mouth… It turns out that my daughter, who has mediocre grades and doesn\’t like to talk much, is also a sparkling existence in the eyes of others. After realizing this, I began to buy books on painting and literature for my daughter from time to time. When we chatted, I would patiently listen to her talk about the inspiration for her creations, and learn a little bit about her world. Only then did I realize that when my introverted daughter mentioned her hobbies, the light in her eyes could be so dazzling and the smile on her face could be so sweet. In fact, success for parents is not just raising children who can go to Tsinghua University or Peking University. See the child’s strengths and let him follow his own preferencesLiving in a joyful way is also a victory for education. There is a line in the movie \”Stars on Earth\”: \”Child, you don\’t have to do everything as well as others. You just need to discover the brightest side of yourself, and you will be a unique star on this planet.\” Maybe. , the best love that parents can give their children is never to force them to live according to other people\’s lives in the name of \”for your own good\”. Instead, it ignites the fire in his heart, allowing him to shine with love and live a different kind of fireworks in the world. In this way, even if he is destined to fail to reach the top, he can still have happiness and fulfillment for the rest of his life.