A mother\’s emotional stability is a blessing in a child\’s life

There is a kind of happiness called mother\’s emotional stability. If you can achieve emotional stability, your child can have a happy life. After picking up the children from school today, I took the children out to eat because the water supply in the community was cut off, but I didn’t bring diapers for my second child when I came out. I asked my husband to take the car home to get diapers. Before getting off the car, Dabao said, \”Mom, please remember to take down the finished plasticine princess for me.\” I said yes, but because I was pouring water for Erbao, I took some more things. Only after I left the community did I remember that I didn’t bring the princess plasticine for Dabao. When Dabao found out, he was very angry and said, \”Go back and get me some plasticine.\” I said, \”I\’m sorry. It\’s my mother\’s fault that I forgot.\” But we were already out. After eating and shopping, we went home and played. Dabao didn’t let go and kept asking for plasticine. I said, Mom forgot to bring you your favorite plasticine. You are angry with Mom. Mom can understand, but you still forget to get it even if you are angry. If you are really angry and sad, you can cry, and I will cry slowly with you. When you have cried enough and are in a better state, I will accompany you to dinner. At this time, Dabao said to me, I won’t cry anymore, I want to go down to eat. Feeling Better, a British BBC children\’s emotional intelligence training cartoon, full 25 episodes 1080P After Dabao\’s mood stabilized, I said, it was your mother\’s fault for not getting you some plasticine just now. Next time, she must remember what you told her. When your child is in a strong mood, don\’t try to explain it to your child. Instead, understand, accept, and tolerate her bad mood, and stay with her. Wait until the child\’s mood stabilizes before guiding the child in the correct way. At this time, I told Dabao that in fact everyone makes mistakes sometimes. I hope that next time when others make mistakes or forget to do something for you, you can use a gentle attitude to tolerate others. Dabao said yes, and Dabao\’s bad mood disappeared in my acceptance. If I had seen Dabao like this before, I would have yelled at her in anger. The result was that both she and I were unhappy and both went home angry at each other. But these times Dabao loses her temper, I always treat her with an accepting and tolerant attitude, and I find that Dabao recovers faster and faster. At the beginning, when her husband saw Dabao losing his temper, he said, \”Look, it has become like this. You don\’t talk about her or make noises with her. You are spoiling the child.\” To be honest, I was questioning myself at the time and wondering whether this was the right thing to do. But after these few times, I found that my parents were emotionally stable and that they accepted and tolerated their children. It is the best gift that parents can give their children, and it is also the best time for parents to discipline their children. Because of my acceptance of Dabao and my ability to deal with Dabao\’s bad moods emotionally, Dabao no longer roared and was hysterical. It’s about knowing how to express, for example, I was very angry and unhappy, even if she was really angry at the time, as long as I stayed with her. Her bad mood will pass quickly, and it will no longer break out in unhappiness like before. Even a small incident can linger for several hours. Yu Minhong once said: If the family is a copy machine and the parents are the originals, then the children are the copies. If there are problems with the copies, they must be traced back to the originals. In other words, the problems in the children are all reflections of the parents. So, whenWhen we blame our children for throwing tantrums, we should first examine and manage our own emotions. When we don’t manage our emotions, but allow our emotions to vent, the violent emotions will burst out like wild beasts. We may be comfortable at the time, but our children are paying for our bad moods, especially when we observe our children carefully. The child shows that fearful look in his eyes, sometimes clasping his hands, feeling helpless, and sometimes trembling. These are all the sequelae of the roaring. This kind of sequelae may accompany the child as he grows up, and even affect the child\’s entire life. I once saw a saying on the Internet that if you have an emotionally stable parent, it will be a blessing in your life, and I really agree with it now. As parents, when we are happy, we will tell our children that mommy loves you very much, really loves you, but when we are angry, we will tell our children that mommy loves you very much. But what words are hurtful, what words are said, hurtful words are like a knife cutting through the child\’s heart and leaving a deep mark. Do you think the child will still believe that her parents really love her? Obviously they will be suspicious, but because they rely on and love their parents, they can\’t do anything to their parents, but they will stop loving themselves. In terms of personality, they will also become worried, cowardly, no longer trust the people around them, and sometimes belittle themselves. After reaching adolescence, they will become irritable and irritable. Even various kinds of rebellion to express one\’s inner dissatisfaction and depression. After reading \”The best parenting is to let children be themselves\”, I was even more touched. One of the protagonists, Yun, was yelled at by his parents since he was a child, which left deep scars in his heart that he can\’t get rid of when he grows up. Fortunately, she found a way to reduce stress and forget the pain, which was to keep reading, but her brother was not so lucky. He stopped studying early because he didn\’t read enough and didn\’t know how to educate himself. His thinking and vision were very limited. Especially when he encountered a major blow or failure, it was difficult for him to adjust himself quickly and he often fell into confusion, difficulty and low self-esteem. ,Inextricable. There is another child named Tiantian. When she was young, she would get angry at her mother if she did something unpleasant, but her mother would tolerate her gently every time. At first, the author laughed at her friend, saying she was too spoiled, but when Tiantian turned 6, she discovered that Tiantian was particularly patient and treated Yue Bao as gently as her mother once treated her. Looking back at the above two cases, we can see how much influence parents have on their children. Imagine that children have been using their own energy to fight against their parents. One can imagine how much energy she still has to spend on studying. This is why I always emphasize the need for parents to talk to their children, because I know how harmful yelling can be to children. Therefore, in order not to cause psychological harm to my children, I have been trying to learn different ways to adjust and release the anger in my heart. To control anger, you don’t want your children to vent unscrupulously because of you, and keep your children in an environment of fear and fear. I hope to be a role model for my children, rather than teaching them how to manage their emotions all the time while I yell and lose my temper without restraint. Just like now, many parents in life, like me at first, have been asking their children not to lose their temper, but when they meet their childrenWhen others are disobedient, we are the first to lose control. Parents are their children\’s first teachers and the guides on their children\’s growth path. The kind of person a child will become depends largely on the love, companionship, and example he receives from his first educator. From now on, let’s learn to be the best role models for our children! Let us use love and tolerance to build fertile soil for our children, so that they can live their own unique lives in their own way.