Why don’t punishment and praise work? Because they are all superficial and can also damage the parent-child relationship.

Stop punishing your kids because it doesn\’t work! What you need is this 5-step action guide… and stop praising your children. Try to use \”encouragement\” instead. Some sisters find it incredible. It is understandable that punishment is ineffective. Opposite praise is also ineffective. The roads at both ends are blocked. Now, what else can we do as parents? Indeed, it seems that punishment and praise are either/or…

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I cry as soon as I get an injection. How to deal with the medical trouble?

Every time a child goes to the hospital for an injection, it is an \”alternative symphony\” of crying sounds from children of all ages: the baby in the swaddling clothes is \”ouch~ouch~ouch~\”; the 2- and 3-year-old children are \”wow wah wah\” ; 4 and 5-year-old children are rap types, crying and negotiating with their parents: \”I don\’t want 5555, mom, let\’s go, let\’s go…\” The flu has been raging recently, and many children…

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To all mothers: If you want to teach your children well, please live well yourself first

Last weekend, I attended a parent-child therapy class. After a mother came to the stage, she said that her daughter in elementary school had begun to refuse to study, and was clamoring to play games and mobile phones in various ways. No matter what she said, the line of fire always opened up and both parties ended up losing, and they entered a completely frozen dilemma. . After hearing this, the teacher just asked the mother how she would evaluate her daughter. This mom keeps complaining…

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Smart parents stand shoulder to shoulder with their children

On New Year\’s Eve, after watching TV and scrolling through Moments, someone posted something, \”The most classic line of this year\’s Spring Festival Gala: Educating children is not only a matter of school, but also inseparable from family education. Giving children the best love is not just about material things.\” Satisfaction, and more importantly, high-quality companionship.\” I watched that sketch show. The couple only cared about making money abroad, leaving their children alone at home…

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There are three levels of Chinese parents. Which level are you on?

1. Parents from the bottom: Completely free-wheeling, unable to raise outstanding children. Which is more cruel, forcing children to study or letting children indulge? Hidden in the plan for the child is the pattern of the parents, and the pattern of the parents determines the future of the child. Parents at the bottom have no life but survival. They are busy making a living every day and have no time to think about their children\’s future. Look at the street vendors…

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As a parent, do you want your children to be afraid of me?

I took Ningning around the community and passed by the property management center. Before I had time to react, the girl ran straight into the door where someone else worked. A deep male voice came from the room: \”Children, you are not allowed to come in here!\” I quickly wanted to run to pull Ningning out, but she jumped into my arms and whispered: \”Mom, I\’m afraid .\” He must have been frightened by this strange man…

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Having a son has driven my mother crazy!

How wild is your baby boy? In 2016, I gave birth to my second child, a boy, and my first child was a girl. As a result, I received many praises from my relatives and friends: Congratulations, it all comes together as a good word. Wow, I have a son and a daughter, so perfect! I can\’t tell that you are so good at giving birth… I smiled softly: Men and women are the same everywhere! …

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What happened to those children who cried and refused to go to kindergarten?

A mother\’s question brought back painful memories in me. \”Mom Maodou, my child just doesn\’t want to go to kindergarten, what should I do?\” asked an anxious mother. \”My child went to a kindergarten near our home for a while and adapted well. This kindergarten did not meet our requirements, but we have no other better choice for the time being. We both have to work, and the elderly will not…

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To cultivate children who love reading, first grasp the three critical periods of parent-child reading.

Many mothers ask me, \”How to raise a child who loves to read?\” I began to consciously start parent-child reading when Xiaoyu was more than five months old. Along the way, the little guy developed the habit of reading independently for half an hour every day, and reading together for about 15 minutes before going to bed. Independent reading is when he comes home from school and I will be busy preparing dinner. And he will…

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