Foreigners are \”quarreling\” like crazy. How many of these 11 parenting pitfalls have you skipped?

Yesterday when I was browsing the Internet, I saw a discussion on reddit about the \”big pitfall of parenting\”. It was very lively with people coming and going. The experiences of these foreign parents are very interesting and reasonable. I have sorted out the representative views, I believe it will be helpful to everyone. Come on, take a look at these 11 parenting pitfalls. How many have you jumped? 1. Refusing to talk about “sex” with your kids without realizing how harmful it is. Bollocksave: My son woke up yesterday with extreme pain in his testicles. We finally rushed to the hospital and the examination revealed that he had testicular torsion. Fortunately, I can still have surgery and I will be back to health soon. His doctor told us that the first three patients had to have their testicles removed because testicular torsion took too long. These three patients are all teenagers the same age as my son, and they are too embarrassed to tell their parents. So, never do that to your child. It might cost them their balls. StealCandyFromBabies: One of my female students has cognitive delays (a 16 year old acting like a 9 year old). Within a few months of classes, she gradually showed signs of pregnancy. Recently, she had been playing with some older boys, and the teacher immediately figured out what was going on. But the poor girl insisted that she couldn\’t be pregnant because she had never kissed any boy. Her parents told her that kissing could lead to pregnancy, just because they didn\’t want to ruin her. Should I say innocent or something? It seems that the boy doesn\’t like kissing. 2. Overprotection, children are spoiled or overly independent Woctordo: Overprotective parents will always keep an eye on their children, but when you shield them from all the wind and rain, they will either end up being spoiled or overly independent. Cashm: My daughter and her husband are \”helicopter parents\” (overly involved in their children\’s lives, like helicopters hovering around them). It hurts every time I see them educating children. The children do not have any personal space and are always looking for opportunities to educate them. They are almost 12 years old, and they still have problems eating and sleeping… 3. Never admit that they have done wrong in front of their children Aelle1209: Refuse to admit their mistakes to their children, or refuse to admit their mistakes to others in front of their children. Your children will always remember times when you hurt their feelings and then they pretended it never happened. They will remember you yelling at the cashier and refusing to apologize for your mistakes. They may become a jerk, or they may overcompensate and blame all bad things on themselves. Because you set a bad example. RagingLion: Many parents never apologize, and that\’s not right. Children are much smarter than their parents think. Admitting what you did wrong will not affect your children\’s dependence and love for you. Therefore, it is appropriate to admit your mistakes~ My father has a very bad temper. What makes me uncomfortable is not that he criticizes me, but that he does something Being wrong, never apologizing, never thinking you\’re at fault…tst3c: Children who grow up like this feel like they always have to defend themselves, or feel like they don\’t actuallyWhat to do or what not to do. 4. You punish your child for honestly admitting his mistakes profhelios: When I was five years old, I broke a window and confessed everything to my parents. I was spanked hard and told to stay in my room. What did I learn from this? In order to avoid any punishment, it is better to lie. I spent many years as a dishonest kid after that. spaghatta111: Every time I make a mistake, they treat me as if I meant it. But 90% of the time, I\’m neither. I just accidentally made a mistake. During my early adulthood, I made several mistakes at work. My first reaction was not to own up to these mistakes, but to cover them up in the hope that my boss wouldn\’t find out. Of course she eventually found out and distrusted me. She now takes it for granted that I made those mistakes on purpose. I understand now that it\’s better to admit these mistakes and tell others you don\’t know what to do. As a parent, wouldn’t you rather your children tell you what happened than have them lie to you until you find out? So don\’t do this to your kids. 5. Give in when your child cries. Intecknicolour: Never give in to threatening crying. Once they get away with it, they never let it go. Buloi92: When I was about 9 years old, I once found a dollar outside and the 4-5 year old neighbor kid I was playing with was very jealous and wanted it. I refused. (For a 9-year-old, $1 is a lot of money!). She ran home to her mother angrily and started crying. Her mother tried to explain to her once, saying that I discovered it first, so it should be mine. But when her daughter turned around, she took out a dollar from her wallet and threw it in the grass, saying: \”Look, there is another dollar! Now you have found one too!\” The child is now in a mess and has no idea about the existence of \”fairness\”. Very distorted perception. 6. Not taking children\’s interests seriously KNSF: When I was little, I liked butterflies. I drew butterflies and liked to observe them, but my parents didn\’t think there was anything interesting about it and pulled me away every time…if they took it seriously My interests, maybe I would be different now… 7. My kids are right and everyone else is wrong slots_are_overrated: Never believe their kids can do something wrong. I know a few ruined kids whose parents were completely protective of them, blaming other kids for whatever happened, or claiming it was a conspiracy against their kids. Lizzy: A lot of parents have this idea that their children are perfect and their children can\’t make mistakes if they make mistakes… and usually these kids are the ones who make the mistakes. Catscatsmcats: Seriously. If someone trustworthy called my mom and told me I had done something wrong or messed up something, she would be super embarrassed and I would be dead. Recently, I metWhen a person got into trouble, her mother neither learned the lesson nor admitted that her child might have made a mistake, so she directly sued the company. What a great life experience in raising children! Don\’t worry, kid, if you commit any crime, I\’ll hire a lawyer to help you sue them. 8. Feel free to complain or confess secrets to your children Kid_crad: Many secrets between couples should not be told to children. It will only make them confused or annoyed… My father once took me out in the car after a big fight with my mother. Pointing to a house, he said, \”When your mother and I divorce, I will buy this house when I get married and form a new family. I hope I can have a son by then.\” That was the first time I thought about death… I was only 6 years old at the time. Forshow: My mother is a person who likes to talk. When I was very young, she would always complain to me that this was not good and that was not good. Now that I have grown up, she is still the same, and sometimes the things she shares embarrass me and my sister… Now, our relationship with her is not very good… 9. Not really listening to the child Leannderthal1976: When the child talks seriously Sometimes, I don’t listen carefully to what he says. Miss_Sangwitch: And when they complain about school or something, if you tell them, \”Oh, everyone is just like you and they have a hard time.\” Let me tell you, their difficult days may be far more serious than what you just downplayed. 10. Comparing your child to others, \”Why aren\’t you like him?\” SalemScout: Comparing your child to other children, especially siblings. No child wants to hear: \”Why can\’t you be like this or that?\”. The damage is too great. Your child is not this or that. They will never be this or that. Just help them and let them be themselves. revdom666: When I was growing up, my parents often compared me to other kids. Among them are children who bullied me. I will never measure up to their standards. To this day (I’m 31), no matter what life issues I discuss with them, they always ask me why I negatively compare myself to others? I really couldn\’t communicate with them and I wanted to cry. damn it. el_throwaway_returns: God this is so bad. But do you know? Other people\’s Jordans wouldn\’t cry like this. 11. You only see failures, but no progress. ViciousKnids: No matter what achievements you have made, your parents always associate you with failure. \”It\’s awesome to be an Eagle Scout (the highest-level Boy Scout in the United States who has won 21 medals). It would be great if your grades could be better!\” \”You can cut the lawn well, but you can\’t Are you going to wash the dishes?\” \”I can\’t believe you\’ve been able to survive on your own for so long just by driving a crappy forklift.\” Fuck you, Mom. The last time I reflected on myself, I had a job, no debt, and paid my way back to school entirely on my own. For a guy my age, I fuckingIt has to be awesome! In our role as parents, we may not be aware of the existence of our own parenting problems. If we switch to the role of children, we will have deep sympathy and personal pain for the \”mistakes\” of our parents in the process of raising us. I say this not to look back on our responsibilities, but to remind and warn ourselves. The past cannot be traced back, but the future can be learned. Let’s work hard to become better parents~~