How far away are children from the clutches of sexual abuse? Anger alone is not enough

Recently, many friends have been discussing the issue of sex education. Because an incredible thing happened in Ningbo a few days ago, we have refreshed our bottom line against \”bad guys\”. According to news reports: Ms. Wang’s 16-month-old baby girl in Ningbo was sexually assaulted. The doctor said: \”The tear on the child\’s posterior vaginal wall and perineal body is very serious and requires emergency debridement and suturing!\” Ms. Wang suspected that it was done by an acquaintance: \”There is someone we know, and he also does business in the market. Yes, sometimes I would hold my daughter to play. This time I also took my daughter out to play and came back almost 40 minutes later. At that time, the baby had candy in her hand but her eyes were dull. I was changing her clothes and I touched her lower body, and she felt a little uncomfortable. I\’m glad, the blood in the diaper has seeped into it…\” I was really angry when I saw such news. Although the bad guys are controlled by the police, the harm cannot be avoided. I feel heartbroken for this little child, and I hope it will not have any psychological impact on the child. Why does this happen? Mere anger in the face of such a crime is meaningless. We need to try to do something. I saw a series of heavy figures on the Internet a few days ago: In China, the proportion of children who have suffered varying degrees of sexual abuse: girls account for about 9.5%, boys account for 8%, and the total number is estimated to be as much as 25 million! This is the shocking data from a report submitted to the World Health Organization by Professor Xiang Ming of China Agricultural University. And there are several phenomena that cannot be ignored: the age of sexually abused children is getting younger and younger, and there are even infants who are several months old; and in 2015, the Supreme People\’s Procuratorate also released a data: 2010 From 2013 to 2013, procuratorial organs across the country received 7,963 child molestation cases. This does not include those who did not report the crime to the police, those who did not go to the prosecution stage after reporting the crime, those who chose to keep the case private, etc. Some experts have estimated that the hidden crime rate is about 1:7, which means that if one case is exposed, there may be seven others behind it. Behind these data is the suffering of one child after another and the tragedy of one family after another. The key is that many parents face this problem numbly. There was once a father who found a tutor for his 17-year-old daughter. Halfway through, the child said he wanted to change tutors. My father said that this is a teacher from a key middle school, and it is so expensive to hire him. I thought my daughter just had a heavy workload and refused to make up classes emotionally, so I didn\’t pay much attention to it. The child had no choice but to continue to listen to his father. As a result, the teacher started from the initial molestation and finally raped the girl four times. There are too many parents who pay too much attention to their children\’s achievements, but too few parents who respect their children and pay attention to their children\’s hearts. It is urgent to protect children, awaken parents\’ awareness of protection, and teach children the correct awareness of prevention. According to statistics, more than 80% of child sexual assaults are committed by acquaintances. Because acquaintances have more opportunities and greater courage. Knowing the roots and knowing the bottom, you can do whatever you want. I remember when I was a child, there was a girl in our village who often had delicious candies and occasionally some new toys. She told us that a grandfather from the village gave it to her, and we were all very envious. But one day, we saw the girl being pulled by her father, and her mother crying and walking aside, from the old man\’s house.walk out. A few days later, the village cadres came again, and several police officers came. It was only a few years later that I learned that the old man had sexually assaulted the girl for a long time. At that time, several girls who were playing together also said privately that the old man had been looking for them. One girl said that her mother did not allow her to be alone with strange men. Not even relatives and acquaintances. I\’m really glad she has a mother like this. Otherwise, the consequences will be disastrous. Many data show that the most serious areas of child sexual abuse are rural areas, and those children left behind in remote areas. These children are simple and innocent and have little exposure to information. Almost no one told them how to protect themselves. And the parents have been working outside for many years, and the grandparents at home are busy with housework and pay less attention to the children. Some people even ask their children to swallow their anger when faced with such things. I remember watching a show where a girl was sexually assaulted. When the father found out, instead of calling the police, he beat his daughter and asked why such a shameful thing happened to you. If the person who sexually assaults a child is a bit powerful in the local area, such parents will be even more afraid to speak out and just think that they are unlucky. This encourages these evil tendencies. I remember that there was an old man in our village at that time. He often pretended to be crazy. When he saw a girl on the roadside, he would say, \”Grandpa, hug me, grandpa, hug me.\” No one dared to speak against him. Once one of our female playmates was hugged by him, and some adults laughed when they saw it. In the end, several of us boys worked together to \”rescue\” the girl. From then on, everyone would throw stones when they saw him. There are so many bad guys who carry candies in their pockets and deceive children. Silence, committing an unforgivable crime. How many people take advantage of their positions to harm children? Try to keep your children by your side. Don\’t become a left-behind child, let alone entrust your child to the care of an \”acquaintance\”. Boys should also beware of sexual assault. Many people believe that boys are at less risk from sexual abuse. But the reality is that boys are also raped at a high rate. Don\’t think that you are safe just because you have a son, and don\’t take any chances. In a case exposed by the media in 2016, a male teacher in a middle school in Dalian molested and beat several boys in his class to varying degrees for more than two years. Moreover, the current laws impose relatively light penalties for sexually assaulting boys, which is also the reason why some criminals commit crimes repeatedly. Therefore, boys, like girls, should teach them to protect their private parts as early as possible. Every time after bathing my son and wiping his body, I often tell him: \”No one can lift your clothes, especially the areas covered by your panties. No one can touch them. Look, dad.\” They don\’t know how to touch it, let alone others. If someone wants to do this, they must say no and tell me.\” Be sure to tell your children to protect yourself. No one can touch you or lift your clothes. Unless your parents are with you, checking your health in the hospital. No matter who it is, you must say \”no\” loudly when they make you feel uncomfortable. And come back and tell your parents. Of course, for a baby, or a child of one or two years old. Parents\’ responsibility comes first. Be more attentive, know people, faces but not hearts, don’tLeave the child with an acquaintance close to you. Tell your children not to keep secrets easily. My son asked me, why? I said because you are still young and cannot tell which secrets are good and which are bad. Then leave the secret to your father for safekeeping first, and when you grow up, you can keep it yourself. Because many people who hurt their children will coax or scare them to keep the secret secret. Children are often willing to abide by their agreements and find this fun. At home, you can play some self-protective games with your children. For example, I often play the \”juicing\” escape game with my son. I am the juicer and he is the fruit. Then I would hold him and let him escape. With some exercises like this, children will have a better chance of escaping when they are actually in danger. Respect your child’s right to say no. Those who dare to speak out about their children are often ignored by criminals. Because the cost of such crime will increase. And those children who are very well-behaved and dare not refuse, and cannot say no, often become the silent lambs. In daily education, children should cultivate this independent spirit, because this will allow them to retain the courage to resist. If parents blindly pressure their children to obey, a slight resistance will be a slap or a warning. Such children often succumb to violence and dare not speak. How far away are children from the clutches of sexual abuse? Anger alone is not enough. On this road of protecting children, we believe that society will always have a yardstick of justice and the law will provide a fair trial. But the sun cannot reach every inch of land. Many places that are beautiful and bright on the surface often hide darkness and sin. We had to be careful, we had to hold the child’s hand. Tell him or her to protect themselves and take precautions. Don’t be afraid to say that you are wearing colored glasses and hurt good people, but have the awareness to guard against bad people. Because a truly good person is not afraid of you taking precautions. And those hidden bad guys must not give them a chance to succeed. In this matter, parents have greater responsibility than God.