How to talk to children simply and effectively?

Many parents say that trying to reason with your children is like trying to talk to an ox. Even if you speak eloquently, your children just won\’t understand. How do you say it so that your children will listen? [Full two seasons 1080P ultra-clear] British BBC version and Holly\’s Little Kingdom 104 episodes English version download daily life scenes positive dialogue, children are more willing to listen 1. Wrong statement when children don\’t want to go to bed: They don\’t go to bed so late, How many times have I said it, where did the ears go? Correct statement: My child, it’s bedtime, should you brush your teeth or wash your face first? 2. Wrong statement when children do not eat well: Eat quickly, and I will buy you toys and snacks after eating. Correct statement: If your baby eats well, he will be as strong as his father. 3. When children use crying to achieve their goals, they make the wrong statement: They only know how to cry, so what’s the use of crying! If you cry again, I won’t want you anymore. The correct way to say it: My child, you can cry. When you stop crying, we will solve the problem together. 4. Wrong statement when children often dawdle on homework: You have been dawdling for a long time and haven\’t written a few words. If you keep dawdling, don\’t fall asleep. Correct statement: The sooner you finish your homework, the more time you will have to rest. If you want more time to play, finish your homework earlier. 5. Wrong statement when a child says \”no\” willfully: Why are you so stubborn? Your parents are doing this for your own good, so you must be obedient! Correct: You can say \”no,\” but I want to hear your reasons so I can understand you, right? 6. Wrong sayings when children are dragging their feet when going out: Hurry up, you will be late, if you continue to procrastinate, don’t go out. Correct statement: Let\’s compete to see who can get out the door faster. 7. Incorrect statement when a child breaks something: Why are you so careless? I won’t buy it for you next time. Correct statement: It’s okay. I’ll know not to do this next time. Let’s see if we can fix it. 8. Wrong saying when a child is depressed: Don’t cry in despair, it’s not a big deal, it’s so worthless. Correct statement: I feel like you are busy today. Do you need your mother\’s help? 9. Wrong statement when a child comes to disturb you from time to time: Why are you so annoying? Can\’t you just be quiet for a while? The correct way to say it: Go and play by yourself for a while. Mom will come to you as soon as she finishes her work. 10. The wrong way to say it when asking your children to do housework: I asked you to clean up, but why are you playing again and making a mess? You are deliberately making me messy, right? The correct way to say it: My child, you helped your mother a lot that day, and her mother also needs your help with something today. Facts have proved that the same thing expressed in different words will bring different effects. Active and effective dialogue is often easier to convince children and make them obedient than command-style dialogue. How to communicate with children by mastering the three communication principles? There are countless specific scenarios in life that we need to deal with. But if we master these three communication principles, it will be much simpler and more effective for us to communicate with our children. The first principle: Empathic concern The core of empathic concern is that parents respond to their children\’s behavior. Parental response is particularly important during the first five years of a child\’s development. Science shows that appropriate emotional responses are necessary for children\’s behavior and brain development.It can be summarized as the following three steps: Observation (see what the child is paying attention to and pay attention to what the child is concerned about) Understanding (tolerating the child\’s behavior and thinking about what you can do) Action (taking action based on understanding) ) In short, a positive response is a good way to solve the problem. The second principle: Communicate fully. Talk more with your children to help them better understand the world around them and their environment. For example, for children under 3 years old, communicate more with them and explain what is happening to them, mainly to enable them to master more vocabulary. For example, for children aged 4 to 6, talking to them more about more complex words can help them come into contact with a wider and fresher vocabulary, thereby reaching a new realm of language expression. The third principle: Take turns talking. When talking to your children, you must listen carefully to what your children are saying. Only through interactive communication can you better understand what your child is thinking and what he wants to express. Taking turns to talk can also stimulate children\’s thinking, but the way parents give orders to their children cannot help them establish more connections. It will only make children stop exploring and lack the courage to try. Once you get to know your child, he or she will be willing to listen to you! Full 52 episodes of the English cartoon Nelly and Nora [1080P ultra-clear version with English subtitles] Because all relationships lack communication and are one-man shows.