Leading children to do high-energy things, specializing in treating children who feel \”boring\”

Children often talk about being boring and boring, and have no motivation or enthusiasm for doing things, and look lazy. In fact, this behavior of children means that they have low psychological energy. Low mental energy doesn’t sound like a good thing, does it? Got a cure! Before \”treating\”, we must first clarify two things: 1. Children\’s boredom and lack of motivation are not trivial matters, and any emotion is not trivial. \”Going to school is so tiring…\” \”Why are you tired? Just take these classes every day!\” \”It\’s so boring…\” \”You have so many toys, why are you still bored?\” \”It\’s so boring…\” \”What do you mean, playing with mobile phones and watching TV is interesting, right?\” \”I don\’t want to move, I don\’t want to do anything. \”Do it.\” \”I think you\’re just lazy!\” In fact, as long as it bothers you, it\’s not a trivial matter. Yes, going to school is tiring; yes, life is boring sometimes; yes, there are a lot of boring things; yes, people just suddenly can’t do anything. Before you can change these feelings, you need to acknowledge their existence. 2. Children need to experience boredom and lack of enthusiasm. Children need boring and lazy time. They don’t need to be filled with things all the time, and they don’t need to be in a state of “war preparation” at all times. Usually, children are compressed and deprived of even 10 minutes between classes at school. After school, they have homework and interest classes. Whenever there is a little \”idleness\”, the timetable and plan will be revised and filled up again. I read a report that every school-age child in China only has an average of more than 20 minutes of \”me time\” every day. There are only 20 minutes a day when there are no classes, no plans by teachers and parents, time to do things without any purpose, or time to do nothing and just be in a daze. Our children are not free and are always \”stretched.\” Only when children are truly relaxed, in a daze, distraction, solitude, and leisure, can they find \”me\” and \”enthusiasm.\” It is normal and natural for people\’s mood and energy state to fluctuate. What children need to learn is to get along with them in order to try to learn how not to be immersed in them. 3. Besides, adults are also boring, unmotivated, unmotivated, \”lazy\” and uninteresting. Adults are like this too. This is what happens if you live truly. No one is like taking a shot of chicken blood every day. Adults will also encounter the same situation. There will always be a period of time when they cannot lift their spirits due to work pressure, trivial life, parenting anxiety, etc. It will make us inexplicably irritable, our mood swings will increase, we will sigh one after another, and whenever we have time, we will collapse on the sofa without wanting to do anything, and we will not even raise our eyelids. I’m so tired! When we have high energy, we not only work more efficiently, we also arrange household chores in an orderly manner, and we can be more \”tolerant\” of our children and husbands. I can\’t sit still, I can\’t sit still at all, I can just tap my feet to play music while sitting on the sofa. Everything is pleasing to the eye and everything goes smoothly. Adults do have the ability to repeatedly heal their collapsed selves through various channels. A very popular method recently is to listen to red songs: \”The five-star red flag is fluttering in the wind, and the victory song is so loud…\” Listen to it, the prelude sounds, specializing in all kinds of emo and low energy. The characteristics of red songs are passionate, powerful and very contagious. There are also \”Good Days\” and \”Good Luck\” with the same effect, which are positive words.It seems that words can bring good luck to people, but in fact it means that their mood is different. As long as you are energetic in your heart, you will have the strength to do anything. Don’t consume yourself, don’t take it personally, focus on one thing: No matter how bad things are, I won’t embarrass myself! However, children cannot do this. They need the external force of their parents to make them move and get better. 4 ways to improve children\’s energy 1. Parents should not be anxious because \”the children are bored and have no motivation\” or fall into the anxiety and low energy of low-energy parents. No matter how deep it is hidden, children can catch it very keenly. Children all have this \”superpower\”. Gary Smale, a psychologist at the University of Los Angeles, once conducted a famous \”emotional contagion experiment\”: He put a smiling person in the same room with a frowning person and observed the emotional changes of the two people. As a result, within half an hour, the person who was originally smiling became gloomy. Research results show that people’s negative emotions can be transmitted to others within 20 minutes. If you are unhappy, the people around you will also be unhappy. Likewise, high energy can be contagious. High-energy people can form energy fields. The energy psychology book \”Energy Field\” mentions that energy fields have three main characteristics: the ability to perceive and integrate into the world; the ability to infect and influence others; and the ability to change and determine the environment. When parents become this high-energy person, they can infect their children. When they encounter bad things, they can still cheer themselves up and guide the situation in a direction that is beneficial to them. 2. Encourage children to connect with others. As children get older, interpersonal relationships gradually become more complicated, and the energy field may come from parents, teachers, classmates/friends. Observing my children, as long as they play with classmates, friends, or even strangers they have just met, they are talking and laughing, and they will not feel tired at all after running for an hour or two. Going out for more activities, interacting with friends, and feeling that you are needed and cared for can enhance your child\’s sense of value. A person who feels that his value has been realized must be a person full of energy. You can create more opportunities for your children to get along with others, and make appointments to play together. When there are playmates, parents will feel less worried. 3. Take your children to nature. Nature is very powerful, but you can’t see it. Look at what the leaves look like in this season, how the clouds flow, and how the sun jumps. If you sweat and smile, your mood and body will improve. During holidays or weekends, you can take your children to the park. The \”International Journal of Environmental Health Research\” said that even if you don\’t do any exercise, just going to the park for 20 minutes a day can make you feel better. The \”20 Minutes in the Park Theory\” is not only suitable for stressed children, but also very useful for adults who are in a bad state. Being outdoors, directly connected to the earth, soil, air, and sunlight, and receiving the energy from nature, people will become relaxed, their mood will be broadened, and stress and anxiety will be diluted. Take your kids hiking. Not only can it mobilize the cells of the whole body, exercise perseverance and endurance, overlook everything in an open place, and see scenery that cannot be seen on the ground, it will give you a sense of accomplishment. At the same time, it can also bring children to experience heights and stimulate children\’s perception of fear. Wade in the water with your kids. in safe waters,Even just feeling the flowing water with your fingers can soothe your soul. For children, they love water too much. Bring a water gun, a fishing net, or observe the small fish, shrimps and snails in the water, throw stones, float on the water, and look for water striders and small flying insects that often appear on the water… Take your children to camp outdoors. Find a lawn, set up a tent, stretch out a hammock, and use a simple gas barbecue… It is an adventurous experience for children. They can eat, drink, and play from early morning until the sun goes down. Take your children to the countryside. Play with the soil, dig in the mud, climb trees, observe the growth of crops, and experience the hard work. 4. People who exercise with children will produce dopamine when they exercise. Dopamine is also known as the \”motivation molecule\”. It is responsible for intrinsic motivation and provides motivation or intrinsic motivation to do things. Not only does it increase people\’s expectations for happiness, it also enhances focus and concentration, and helps with memory and learning. When a child is in a bad mood and lacks motivation, letting the body move first will make the mood positive. Think about the people around you who love sports. Do they always have a sunny face? No matter where they go, they carry a confident and powerful temperament, conveying unlimited energy to everyone. For exercise, you can choose running, brisk walking, swimming or various activities that interest your child. Take your kids for a run. When paying attention to safety, take your children for a run in the park or city greenway. Being in control of your body brings stability and speed. Take your kids to play ball. Playing table tennis, badminton, basketball or football, running, laughing and sweating will not only strengthen your body, but also make your children more happy. There was a research result from the University of Frankfurt, which means: the truth of life is energy. Becoming a high-energy parent can not only nourish yourself, but also bring nutrients to your children. It is full of vitality, so why not do it?