Must read: The highest level of educating your children is not to take yourself too seriously!

There are many self-contradictory and interesting things in life. Rui’s mother has recently seen a few and would like to share them with you. A few days ago, I took Ruirui to a shopping mall and saw a couple arguing. The quarrel became louder and louder, attracting many people to watch. The service staff of the mall ran over to break up the fight, which affected other people\’s shopping. The woman pointed directly at the waiter and shouted: \”Did you see me quarreling? When did I quarrel?\” The waiter had no choice but to walk away. Another time I was riding a bus. There were so many people on the bus that Rui’s mother could only stand in the crowd holding the armrest. Then an old man came up, but no one gave up her seat until the bus started. At this time, an uncle who was sitting couldn\’t stand it and pointed to a student opposite with a schoolbag: \”How did your parents educate you? Don\’t you know how to give up your seat when you see an old man?\” The student quickly stood up and gave up his seat. There are too many examples of such self-contradictions in life. We are obviously quarreling but say we are not quarreling. We are sitting down but not giving up our seats but we are teaching others a lesson. In fact, why aren’t we ourselves like this? The child was yelled at by his parents because he lost his temper: \”You have a bad temper, don\’t you? Who did you learn to lose your temper from?\” – Little did he know that he was also losing his temper at the child. When a child fights with someone at school, the parent pulls him over and beats him up, while retaliating with a lesson: \”Who did you learn to hit from? Is this how I taught you?\” – Little did they know that it was the person who taught them to hit. It is myself. The child is sitting on the sofa watching TV, and the parent is urging: \”What time is it and you are still watching TV? Aren\’t you going to school tomorrow?\” – Then why are you still watching TV and won\’t you go to work tomorrow? We are always used to criticizing our children, but we cannot be strict with ourselves. If you think about it carefully, every parent slowly grows from a child to a mother or father. What kind of education did we receive back then? Did we hate it or like it, resist it or accept it? When we understand the parents back then, we also understand the children today. Educating children is never a one-sided expectation. Parents are responsible for education and children are responsible for obedience. This is not the correct way of education. We have just changed from the role of \”children\” to \”parents\”. What we have more than children is just experience, experience and knowledge. You are not necessarily kinder than children, nor are you as innocent and pure as children. The relationship between parents and children Relationships should not only involve educating and being educated, but also learning and imitation. Be humble and learn from your children\’s strengths, and your children will imitate their parents\’ behaviors more. When you are no longer a superior parent, your child will no longer be a rebellious and naughty child. To educate children, you must first be able to educate yourself. You must have a psychological yardstick to measure the impact of your actions on your children. When a child makes a mistake, the first thing he thinks of is his own educational shortcomings instead of looking for the child\’s own faults. reason. There are basically two reasons why a child becomes a rebellious, playful and disobedient child: First, the parent has no authority in the child\’s heart. In other words, the parent\’s behavior is not convincing enough for the child. For example, in the example I gave earlier, if parents beat and scold their children while educating them not to beat or scold others, the children will definitely be dissatisfied. Parents’ education can only serve as an earIf you stand aside, or surrender and obey on the surface, you are also resisting on the inside. Excessive doting on children also causes parents to lose their prestige in the hearts of children. Being obedient and obedient to children can easily make children think that they are the center of the world, and parents are just nannies serving them. Education obviously doesn\’t come to mind. Whether it is beating and scolding children or doting on children, these are extreme ways to educate children. This kind of education method will not only be ineffective, but may even be counterproductive. The correct way to educate children should be equal respect and lead by example. When parents become role models for their children, it will be a matter of course for the children to be obedient. Second, the living and learning environment for children is poor. The story of \”Meng Meng\’s mother moved three times\” also confirms this truth. The living and learning environment has a great impact on children. What parents can educate their children is very limited. The main ways for children to grow and learn are actually \”seeing\” and \”listening\”. Some bad habits come from being influenced by what they hear and see. Therefore, if parents cannot choose a good living and learning environment for their children, they must always pay attention to their children to avoid letting them get into bad habits. The choice of school is even more important, so some good schools are crowded out by parents. Older grandparents always think that it doesn’t matter where their children go to school, and it mainly depends on the children’s own efforts. This is a very one-sided idea. I have seen a survey before and found that only 20% of students at Tsinghua and Peking University are from rural areas. Children in rural areas tend to work harder, but their success rates are far lower than those in cities with better learning and living environments. For the sake of our children, parents must set an example. Children\’s growth and transformation require a process. Educating children is an arduous but great project. When your child grows from a rebellious and naughty \”naughty child\” into a confident and responsible man, all the efforts you make for your child will be worth it.